Climb Your Mountain - #56 – The People Pleasing Episode (This One's for the Medicine)

#56 – The People Pleasing Episode (This One's for the Medicine)

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10/18/23 • 45 min

Climb Your Mountain

My mom will tell you I was an easy, sunny, sweet baby.
What she really means: I never expressed any needs that were inconvenient, embarrassing, or made demands on others.
And if I'm honest, it took me into my 40s to really start taking my own needs seriously. (Better late than never!)
Being direct, setting boundaries, and telling people what I need are still wicked uncomfortable sometimes.
But you know what else is uncomfortable? Constant people pleasing. Making it easy for everyone else. Participating in my own disempowerment.
It's all still a work in progress.
And every once in a while, the universe likes to throw me an opportunity to deepen my mastery in this area.
Like my recent vacation!
In this week's episode, I'll share:

A vacation update (because I know you guys sometimes like hearing what's happening behind the scenes!)
People pleasing tips from two of my favorite podcasts
Some common myths about people pleasing that trip people up on their personal development journeys
A simple, two-part test to help you decide if your urge to please comes from love — or crappy programming
Some of the ways coaching has helped me grow from a people pleaser to a more empowered woman — and some of the areas I'm still working on

Resources Mentioned:

A vacation update (because I know you guys sometimes like hearing what's happening behind the scenes!)
People pleasing tips from two of my favorite podcasts
Some common myths about people pleasing that trip people up on their personal development journeys
A simple, two-part test to help you decide if your urge to please comes from love — or crappy programming
Some of the ways coaching has helped me grow from a people pleaser to a more empowered woman — and some of the areas I'm still working on

Resources Mentioned:

Previous Episode

#55 – Stress Management Tips to Prevent Breakdowns, Burnouts, and Collapses

I totally wish that instead of trigonometry and other worthless stuff, my high school had offered classes like self leadership, emotional regulation, and especially ... stress management.
As a coach, I see a lot of stress. And here's the truth: most people feel helpless against it.
We experience too much too fast.
We have a lot of traumas (big and little T) that keep us disconnected from our bodies.
Because of that disconnect, we often don't even recognize stress until it's screwing up our health, relationships, jobs, and enjoyment of life.
Enough, I say!
This podcast episode is the stress class I wish I'd had in high school. We'll learn:

What is stress?
What's a stress collapse, and what are some signs you're on the verge of one?
How to start reconnecting to your body in ways that feel safe
Positive coping mechanisms
My 5-step process for managing stress in a healthy way.

Resources Mentioned:

Sarah's Spotify playlist of guided meditations

Next Episode

#57 – The Crumbling: What to Do When Your Whole Life Is Falling Apart

If everything in your life is going wrong or sideways at once, you might be experiencing ... THE CRUMBLING.
It can hurt like hell. It might feel like a personal attack from the universe — or even a spiritual death.
But I want you to know that THE CRUMBLING really is here for your growth and expansion.
When you're preparing to move to a new level, everything unaligned must go. And that includes job, relationships, thoughts, beliefs, and outdated programming.
All that stuff needs burn down in order to make room for what wants to come to you next.
In this week's podcast episode, I'll share:

My own recent crumbling story (welcome to the Great Crumbling of 2023!)
My best guess about why this is all happening and what it means for me in 2024.
Some of the ways I'm handling it well — and not so well. (Vulnerability alert.)
Tips for how to navigate your own crumbling and emerge stronger on the other side.

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