Church Psychology

Ever wondered about the power of your words? Are you curious about how your language choices affect your relationships? This episode is a must-listen for you! We take a deep dive into the complex world of language and communication, particularly focusing on the Christian perspective on cussing, swearing, and profanity. Drawing from our personal experiences and the teachings of Scripture, we explore the intriguing paradox of these 'spicy' words and their impact.
We also broaden the scope of our discussions to go beyond mere cussing. By referencing Ephesians 4:29, we touch on how words - even those not typically seen as profane - can either edify or harm depending on their usage. The importance of context, nuances of language, and authenticity in our communication are also highlighted, especially in sensitive areas like Christian-based sex therapy and guiding children on appropriate language use.
The conversation wouldn't be complete without discussing parenting, and we dare to tackle the challenging aspect of teaching our children to express themselves freely yet within certain boundaries. Through our discussions, we underline the significance of validation and understanding the context and intent of the speaker. As our words can either build or break, we advocate for a mindful approach to our language choices. So, strap in for a thrilling exploration of language, communication, and their implications on our Christian journey.
Show Notes:

• Ephesians 4:29 - "No foul language is to come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear."
• Ephesians 5:4 - "Coarse and foolish talking or crude joking are not suitable, but rather giving thanks."
• Colossians 3:8 - "But now you must also put away all the following: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and filthy language from your mouth."
• Matthew 15:18-19 - "But what comes out of the mouth comes from the heart, and this defiles a man. For from the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, sexual immoralities, thefts, false testimonies, blasphemies."
• James 3:10 - "Praising and cursing come out of the same mouth. My brothers, these things should not be this way."

Ever feel like you're running on empty? That's what Matt and I are ironing out today on Church Psychology, shining a light on the enigmatic beast known as fatigue. It's not just about falling asleep at your desk or needing that extra shot of espresso in your latte; we're talking the full spectrum - physical, emotional, and even spiritual fatigue.
Let's face it, in this fast-paced world it's easy to fall into the trap of distraction or 'vegging out' as an escape, skewing our understanding of what real rest looks like. It's a pervasive issue, one that even sneaks its way into the pulpit, creating a unique form of pastoral fatigue. Intriguing, isn't it? We're discussing why it's so hard for many, especially pastors, to not only recognize but also admit their fatigue. It's a conversation that's long overdue.
But don't think we're leaving you in the lurch! We're also exploring the balance of carrying your own burdens and the necessity of sharing them, tying it all together with insights from scripture. So, come join us on this journey, there's a seat saved just for you. Together, let's redefine what it means to rest, recharge, and handle fatigue in a healthy manner.
Show Notes:

• The work of Dr. Curt Thompson - https://curtthompsonmd.com/

Are you living a life that's merely happy or one that's contented? Strap in for an intriguing journey as we explore the profound concept of contentment. We strive to go beyond the surface-level chase of happiness, and delve into the search for a deep-rooted sense of peace and satisfaction. We dissect the often misunderstood relationship between pain and happiness, and how not all distress calls for a change in our lives. We provoke you to examine how happiness could be just an attempt to avoid the inevitable pain, and whether that's what we're really meant to do.
We also transcend cultural borders and language barriers, shining a spotlight on non-English vernaculars that embody unique perspectives on contentment. In particular, we unravel the Finnish ethos of 'Sisu' and Sweden's 'Lagom', and how they encapsulate distinctive ways of finding joy and contentment.
Toward the end, we delve into the power of purpose, that transcends our personal desires and yearnings. We contemplate the Christian paradox of seeking sacrifice and glory for God, and how this extraordinary pursuit can lead to a life of contentment. We also shed light on the complex links between depression, trauma, and our emotional state. In essence, we urge you to reflect on your 'bigger why', your ultimate purpose, and how it can set you on the path to finding a more profound sense of contentment. Buckle up for this eye-opening discussion, and set foot on your journey to a life of deeper contentment.
Show Notes:

1. Philippians 4:11-12 (HCSB) -Holman Christian Standard Bible
   "I don't say this out of need, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know both how to have a little, and I know how to have a lot. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being content—whether well-fed or hungry, whether in abundance or in need."
2. Hebrews 13:5 (HCSB)
   "Your life should be free from the love of money. Be satisfied with what you have, for He Himself has said, I will never leave you or abandon you."
3. Sisu - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3oayAB3_XY
4. Lagom - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhclKSeK_ZY

Ever found yourself at a crossroads, unsure which path to take? Have you ever questioned how God's will fits into the messy, complicated puzzle of life's transitions? Join us as we peel back the layers of this topic, breaking down the complexities and inviting you into a faith-based dialogue about navigating change. Matt and I bring you on this journey, reminding ourselves and our listeners that God's will is not a static destination but an ever-evolving journey.
Transitions, whether they are joyous or filled with grief, can be a tumultuous time. From the euphoria of new beginnings to the subtle melancholy of what we leave behind, our emotions can take us on a rollercoaster ride. During this episode, Matt and I delve into these emotions, discussing the intricacies of friendship-building outside structured environments and the loneliness that can creep in amidst change. We also delve into the coexistence of joy and grief during transitions and why it's crucial to acknowledge these feelings.
Sharing personal narratives, we discuss the challenges and victories that come with such a transition, the importance of long-term relationships, and knowing when it's time to let go. Join us as we unpack the wisdom we've acquired on embracing change and taking risks. So head over to our website ChurchPsychology.org and connect with us further, access our free community library, and get your hands on some exclusive content. Let's navigate life's transitions together, one episode at a time.

What if the constant scroll of social media is shaping your mental health more than you realize? What if the very tools designed to connect us are wreaking havoc on our relationships, our self-image, and our mental well-being? This episode explores the murky waters of social media and its intriguing yet alarming impact on our mental health. Drawing from the recent American Psychological Association's advisory, we unpack the multifaceted issues surrounding this modern phenomenon. From our personal experiences to wider societal implications, our conversation aims to decode the complexities without any bias.
The internet's public access since 1995, the dot-com boom, and the introduction of the like button and retweet in 2011 have undoubtedly revolutionized our world. Yet, the rapid, exponential growth of social media since 2007, brings along a mixed bag of impacts. This episode examines the good, the bad, and the ugly - shedding light on the behind-the-scenes psychological tactics that create an addictive environment. But it’s not all doom and gloom; we also discuss the positive influence of social media in our pandemic-stricken world.
The role of parents and youth workers in helping young people understand and navigate the psychological effects of social media is crucial. The APA's guidelines for social media literacy offer a roadmap, but following it and enforcing boundaries can be daunting. Tune in as we discuss ways to break the vicious cycle of seeking dopamine hits from social media, the importance of ongoing conversations with teenagers, and the need for regular social media breaks. This enlightening conversation promises to help you, and your children, navigate the digital universe with wisdom and discernment. Don't miss out!
Show Notes:
- https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-use
- https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/sg-youth-mental-health-social-media-advisory.pdf
- Jonathan Haidt - https://www.amazon.com/Coddling-of-American-Mind-audiobook/dp/B079P7PDWB/ref=sr_1_1?crid=391YHSRV5FDV2&keywords=jonathan+haidt+the+coddling+of+the+american+mind&qid=1692305709&sprefix=jonathan+ha%2Caps%2C109&sr=8-1
- Scripture reflection: "8 Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable ​— ​if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy ​— ​dwell on these things. 9 Do what you have learned and received and heard from me, and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you. -- Philippians 4:8-9 (CSB)"