Ep. 72 - One for the Ladies: What NOT to Do When He's Picking Out His Wedding Ring

This is an auspicious moment because in this episode, for the first time, I’m going to address "The Ladies."

Specifically, I’m going to talk about what you, as a woman, should NOT do when you and your fella go to look for his wedding ring.

When it’s time to pick out his wedding ring, he just might for your opinion. (Most likely he will!) And you should help him out by giving him one. (Or 2 or 3. This shouldn't be a problem for most of the women I know. Ha!)

Picture this: A cute couple decides it’s time to pick out his wedding band and so they’re going to go visit their favorite independent jewelry store. (Always go to an independent jewelry store.)

What’s going to happen is he’s going to start trying on rings to see how they look. Simple and easy. Maybe.

It’s normally awkward for him because this is probably the first time in his whole life that he’s going to pick out a piece of jewelry for himself, so this is completely foreign to him, and he’s in the uncharted waters of the jewelry world yet again. (Not a guy's favorite place to be.)

Most men are comfortable talking about cars, a boat, golf clubs, or even a watch for that matter, but the ring he's supposed to wear for the rest of his life? Not so much...

He's going to need a little help and at some point he might turn to you and ask, “What do you think of this one?”

Now ladies, this is what you should NOT do or say at that point: “I don’t know, you have to wear it.”

That is a terrible answer because the person he trusts the most, you, leaves him hanging, and it's embarrassing and offers zero help or direction.

When he asks that question it’s most likely because he found a ring style he likes and he’s looking for your approval.

So help him out, and have an opinion...and share it.

If you don’t have an opinion, it means you’re not paying attention, or maybe you actually don’t care...but you know what? Care. Even if it’s just for a little while.

It’s not a big ask, and I can tell you he’ll appreciate it further on up the road.

Guys are easy. We ask because we want to know what you think, and most times we’re looking for a verbal nod that, "Yes, I like what you picked out," and even, "I don’t like it, how about that one?” (If that happens you can start to hone in on a ring that you both like and you can move forward with rest of the infinite plans you need to check off the list for your wedding day.)

Last tip: Your guy (or girl) wants your opinion, but he/she wants to have a say as well. Be open to that...and if he’s really digging a certain ring style, go with it, because you know what? Your "one-and-only" wants to like their wedding ring too.

If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth.

Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome.

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