182 Staying Above the Fray
03/27/24 • 19 min
As a highly sensitive person, our neuro-sensitivity is not going away. So, if you are allowing your business or career and life to be dictated by socialized trends, then you are setting yourself up to be in a constant state of anxiety. The focus we want, in order to avoid the comparison traps and pressures of socialized trends, is on how to be able to not only manage our sensitivity, but utilize it in a way that really allows us to show up in business and leadership in the world from a place of highly sensitive strength.
In this podcast episode, I discuss the importance of staying above the fray of socialized trends, especially as a highly sensitive in business and leadership. I share how our social self is born as a response to pressure from the world around us. And how if we stay stuck in this comparison trap we are privileging anxiety instead of choosing privilege of agency. Most importantly, I share what you can do instead.
“If you are allowing your business to be dictated by socialized trends, if you are allowing your work, your career to be dictated by socialized trends...if you are allowing your life to be dictated by socialized trends as a person who is highly sensitive, you are setting yourself up to be in a constant state of anxiety. You are setting yourself up to be in constant motion with the coping cycle and constant tug of war with resistance.” – Heather Dominick
Listen and Learn:
- 2:48: How does research on neuro-sensitivity apply to highly sensitive people
- 4:36: What does it mean to stay above the fray of socialized trends
- 11:52: How does staying above the fray connect to privilege of agency
- 16:06: What is required to stay above the fray of socialized trends
“This is not the time in our world to be giving in to the fray of socialized trends, the fear, the anxiety, the divisiveness, and it is not the time to flake out. It is the time to choose to recognize we are in a new world now, my friends, if you’re waiting for it to be over, it’s going to be a long wait.” – Heather Dominick
Links and Resources:
- Get your copy of Heather’s book DIFFERENT: The Highly Sensitive Leadership Revolution: http://www.differentthebook.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Training Kit: Stop The Overwhelm: http://www.stoptheoverwhelm.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Assessment and Success Guide: http://www.myhsetype.com
Learn more about this episode of Business Miracles at https://www.businessmiracles.com/182
As a highly sensitive person, our neuro-sensitivity is not going away. So, if you are allowing your business or career and life to be dictated by socialized trends, then you are setting yourself up to be in a constant state of anxiety. The focus we want, in order to avoid the comparison traps and pressures of socialized trends, is on how to be able to not only manage our sensitivity, but utilize it in a way that really allows us to show up in business and leadership in the world from a place of highly sensitive strength.
In this podcast episode, I discuss the importance of staying above the fray of socialized trends, especially as a highly sensitive in business and leadership. I share how our social self is born as a response to pressure from the world around us. And how if we stay stuck in this comparison trap we are privileging anxiety instead of choosing privilege of agency. Most importantly, I share what you can do instead.
“If you are allowing your business to be dictated by socialized trends, if you are allowing your work, your career to be dictated by socialized trends...if you are allowing your life to be dictated by socialized trends as a person who is highly sensitive, you are setting yourself up to be in a constant state of anxiety. You are setting yourself up to be in constant motion with the coping cycle and constant tug of war with resistance.” – Heather Dominick
Listen and Learn:
- 2:48: How does research on neuro-sensitivity apply to highly sensitive people
- 4:36: What does it mean to stay above the fray of socialized trends
- 11:52: How does staying above the fray connect to privilege of agency
- 16:06: What is required to stay above the fray of socialized trends
“This is not the time in our world to be giving in to the fray of socialized trends, the fear, the anxiety, the divisiveness, and it is not the time to flake out. It is the time to choose to recognize we are in a new world now, my friends, if you’re waiting for it to be over, it’s going to be a long wait.” – Heather Dominick
Links and Resources:
- Get your copy of Heather’s book DIFFERENT: The Highly Sensitive Leadership Revolution: http://www.differentthebook.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Training Kit: Stop The Overwhelm: http://www.stoptheoverwhelm.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Assessment and Success Guide: http://www.myhsetype.com
Learn more about this episode of Business Miracles at https://www.businessmiracles.com/182
Previous Episode
181 Harness the Power of Privilege of Agency
When we are untrained as a highly sensitive we can often find ourselves stuck in comparison traps – comparing our lives and businesses to to the other 80% who are not highly sensitive, or even to others who are highly sensitive to see if we “measure up”. But this is a guaranteed recipe for failure that will have you operating from your coping mechanisms of pushing, hiding or combo between the two; as well as being stuck in shadows such as people pleasing, perfectionism, and over-responsibility.
Instead, we have the opportunity to choose privilege of agency as a healthy approach to making decisions, using discernment and setting boundaries based on our highly sensitive strengths. Only when we do this will we truly be able to remove the shackles of comparison and instead embrace and live from our essential self as a highly sensitive in business and life.
In this podcast episode, I go deep into what privilege of agency is, and what it isn’t. I share my own journey of how I developed this concept and how I’ve used it to make massively impactful changes in how I operate. I discuss how it specifically relates to you as a highly sensitive in business and leadership and why this particular teaching is more important now than ever. So you will be able to step out of comparison traps and step up into your purpose and be the change you want to see in the world while also creating the personal success and freedom you desire.
“There has always been this wonky energy around this training.” – Heather Dominick
Listen and Learn:
- 1:54: What is the privilege of agency
- 3:24: Why is the concept of privilege of agency difficult for highly sensitive people
- 5:09: What privilege of agency is NOT
- 7:44: Where and why did Heather develop the privilege of agency training
- 13:48: Why is privilege of agency important for highly sensitive people
“The concept of privilege of agency is very foreign to us.” – Heather Dominick
Links and Resources:
- Get your copy of Heather’s book DIFFERENT: The Highly Sensitive Leadership Revolution: http://www.differentthebook.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Training Kit: Stop The Overwhelm: http://www.stoptheoverwhelm.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Assessment and Success Guide: http://www.myhsetype.com
Learn more about this episode of Business Miracles at https://www.businessmiracles.com/181
Next Episode
183 Embrace Your HSP Difference
Growing up highly sensitive, many of us missed the opportunity of individuation, or differentiation at a young age – what Margaret Mahler refers to as “hatching”. Because of this, we learned to cope and often hide our highly sensitive difference. We developed coping mechanisms of pushing or hiding (or moving back and forth between pushing and hiding) as a way to adapt rather than embrace our uniqueness and differences. Although this an understandable response we developed to keep ourselves safe when we were younger, now it’s time to stop feeling confused and believing you need to deny who you really are in order to be successful in business and life. Everything is now meant to be done differently.
In this podcast episode, I read an excerpt from my book “Different”, where I vulnerably share my struggle to write my book. I came to realize I was guided to write it because I was meant to teach HSPs not just how to market and sell in their business differently, but how to step up and lead as a highly sensitive to create greater impact (and income) with a lot less effort through these extraordinary times. I also discuss Margaret Mahler’s concept of hatching – a process of separation, individuation and differentiation – and the four sub-phases in this process. I go into more detail on the differentiation phase and speak to how this specifically impacts highly sensitives and our unique journey in this world as HSPs in business and leadership.
“I knew I had been training for the exceptional times of 2020 for my whole life.” – Heather Dominick
Listen and Learn:
- 7:38: How to embrace your HSP difference
- 9:45: Can you stop being overwhelmed by others’ emotions
- 11:40: How to define hatching
- 12:37: What are the four sub-phases of hatching
- 14:04: Why was the concept of hatching controversial
- 15:37: What happens when you are highly sensitive but your parents are not
- 17:42: What is the more important area for focus and growth right now
- 18:12: How to connect with what inspires you“Quote.” – Guest Name / Heather Dominick
“It’s time to stop pretending your intuition is less valuable than logic.” – Heather Dominick
Links and Resources:
- Get your copy of Heather’s book DIFFERENT: The Highly Sensitive Leadership Revolution: http://www.differentthebook.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Training Kit: Survive to Thrive: http://www.shiftfromsurvivetothrive.com
- Get your copy of the HSE Assessment and Success Guide: http://www.myhsetype.com
Learn more about this episode of Business Miracles at https://www.businessmiracles.com/183
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