Through Their Lens – How Your Nervous System Shapes Relationships

03/12/25 • 17 min

Have you ever been blindsided by someone’s reaction and thought, where did that come from? Whether it’s a toddler refusing to put on their shoes, a teen with an unexpected attitude, or even a coworker’s sharp remark, our interactions are shaped by something deeper than we realize—our nervous system state.

In this episode of Building Resilience, we explore how our nervous system acts as a filter, shaping the way we see and respond to the world. When we start understanding this, everything shifts.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✅ Why we react the way we do—and why our kids, partners, and coworkers do too

✅ How past experiences shape our nervous system responses

✅ Why some people keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns

✅ How to identify nervous system states (Team Hyper, Hypo, or Resilient)

✅ Practical strategies to respond with intention rather than react

✅ How regulating your own nervous system can shift the entire dynamic of a relationship

If you’ve ever wondered why certain people trigger you or why some relationships feel harder than others, this episode will help you see interactions through a new lens—one that leads to greater understanding, connection, and resilience.

Resources & Links

[Link] Connections Membership: Join the waitlist! Build resilience and foster growth through nervous system regulation and community support.

[Link] It's Not Just Your Thoughts, It's Your Nervous System (with a Creative Twist): A free workshop to map your nervous system and create a calm toolkit with simple, creative techniques. No artistic skills required!

[Link] The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training: Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.

Get My Resilience Journal

📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care

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Let’s Stay Connected!

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What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✅ Why we react the way we do—and why our kids, partners, and coworkers do too

✅ How past experiences shape our nervous system responses

✅ Why some people keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns

✅ How to identify nervous system states (Team Hyper, Hypo, or Resilient)

✅ Practical strategies to respond with intention rather than react

✅ How regulating your own nervous system can shift the entire dynamic of a relationship

Resources & Links

[Link] Connections Membership: Join the waitlist! Build resilience and foster growth through nervous system regulation and community support.

[Link] The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training: Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.

Get My Resilience Journal

📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care

📌 Amazon US: Buy Here

📌 Amazon CA: Buy Here

Let’s Stay Connected!

💡 Follow me on Instagram & Facebook: @leahdavidsonlifecoaching

💌 Subscribe to my Weekly Newsletter: leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/newsletter

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Please leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform! Your support helps me reach more people with tools for resilience and well-being.

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Previous Episode

Creating More Fun in Your Life with Chris Rich

What if fun was the missing ingredient for a healthier, more resilient nervous system? In this episode of Building Resilience, I sit down with Chris Rich, a certified life coach and self-proclaimed “fun expert,” to talk about why fun isn’t just a luxury—it’s a nervous system reset button.

From stomping in puddles to spontaneous adventures, Kris shares simple ways to infuse more fun into everyday life and explains why playfulness is a powerful tool for emotional well-being. If life has been feeling too serious lately, this episode will help you bring joy and lightness back into your days!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✅ How fun positively impacts your nervous system

✅ Why some people struggle with fun (hint: it’s a nervous system thing!)

✅ How to break free from survival mode and invite more play into your life

✅ The “FUNdamentals of Fun” – simple ways to look for, create, and share fun

✅ The difference between healthy fun vs. distraction/buffering

✅ Why fun helps build stronger relationships, reduce stress, and improve mental health

Resources & Links

[Link] Connections Membership: Join the waitlist! Build resilience and foster growth through nervous system regulation and community support.

[Link] The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training: Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.

Get My Resilience Journal

📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care

📌 Amazon US: Buy Here

📌 Amazon CA: Buy Here

Want to better understand your nervous system and how it affects your daily life? My journal is the perfect companion to everything we talk about on the podcast.

💻 Free Nervous System Tools & Workshops:

🔗 The 30-Second Burnout Solution

🔗 Mapping Your Nervous System Workshop

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Next Episode

The Root Cause of Anxiety: How It Is More Than Just A Mind Problem

Anxiety isn’t just in your mind—it’s in your body. If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, stress, and self-doubt, no matter how hard you try to think your way out of it, this episode is for you.

In today’s episode of Building Resilience, we’re diving into the real root cause of anxiety—why it happens, why traditional approaches don’t always work, and how shifting your focus from your mind to your body can change everything.

And yes, we’re also talking about Inside Out 2’s Anxiety—because sometimes, it really does feel like anxiety is running the show.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✅ Why anxiety isn’t just about your thoughts—it’s a nervous system issue

✅ How your body sends danger signals to your brain (and what that means)

✅ Why mindset work, therapy, and even medication don’t always work

✅ How your nervous system state fuels your thoughts (not the other way around)

✅ The 80/20 Rule of nervous system communication (hint: your body is in charge!)

✅ Why you can’t think your way out of anxiety—and what to do instead

Next Week: Part 2 – Body-Based Tools to Regulate Anxiety

This episode is just the beginning. Next week, I’ll walk you through practical strategies to shift out of anxiety by working with your nervous system, not against it.

[Link] Connections Membership: Join the waitlist! Build resilience and foster growth through nervous system regulation and community support.

[Link] The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training: Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.

📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care

📌 Amazon US: Buy Here

📌 Amazon CA: Buy Here

Let’s Stay Connected!

💡 Follow me on Instagram & Facebook: @leahdavidsonlifecoaching

💌 Subscribe to my Weekly Newsletter: leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/newsletter

🎧 Enjoyed the episode?

Please leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform! Your support helps me reach more people with tools for resilience and well-being.

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