Healthy Boundaries

03/08/23 • 33 min

In this episode of Building Mental Courage podcast, I discuss setting and enforcing boundaries, and how saying no to someone or something is in most cases also setting a healthy boundary. Setting boundaries makes people uncomfortable at first, however I am very quickly learning that it is essential to asserting a sense of safety and respect in all of our relationships.
If you have heard my previous episodes, you will know that my husband and I have been on the brink of divorce, and in the last episode I mentioned that we finally made the decision that we were no longer going to continue with trying to repair our marriage.
In this episode, I share with you the story of recent events in my life leading up to that decision and show that even someone like myself, who I admit have very little personal experience with setting and enforcing healthy boundaries can for their own self respect and safety set boundaries and not feel guilt when doing so.
Considering the trauma and even the recent events that I have gone through in my life, it is very obvious that I am no expert at setting and enforcing boundaries. However, a very useful tool that I found from listening to another podcast called The Beyond Bitchy Podcast is what she calls The 5 Step Boundary Clarifier. I highly recommend to anyone who needs to start setting healthy boundaries in their life to pick up this amazing free tool as it breaks it down in very helpful, and easy to understand ways.
https://beyondbitchy.com/
Now, I may or may not be be the first one to tell you that setting healthy boundaries is not going to fix all our problems. However, something else that I have been very heavily researching is healing past trauma. As most people, like myself who have experienced any kind of serious trauma, repeat it over and over because we have trauma from our past, most of the time from our childhood that we need to heal. However, that takes time, so while we are taking the necessary time to work on healing our past trauma, learning how to set and enforce healthy boundaries would help us be protected from any future pain or trauma during that process.

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Possible Upcoming Changes!

This weeks episode doesn't discuss a specific mental health topic, however instead, I would just like to talk with you for a minute. Share with you about a few things, and hopefully get your feedback!
At this time, I have not decided yet, however, I am contemplating switching from weekly episodes, to biweekly episodes for a couple of reasons. I am going to share with you my thoughts, what's going on, and just what I am thinking as to why I am considering making this switch. However I would love to hear from you after you listen to the episode.
As most of you are aware if you have listened to previous episodes, my marriage has been very unstable due to domestic violence as well as some other issues, but obviously the domestic violence was a big one. We were over the last six months communicating and trying to see if we could resolve our issues and continue with our marriage, however unfortunately we have come to the decision that it is best if we just once the funds are available to end the marriage in divorce. This is not going to be an easy situation to go through. I know that there will be a lot of ups and downs. It has already been some ups and downs just over the weekend. However, I want to be up front with you so you know that if I do make the switch because I need to be able to take care of myself and my family, then you will know why and understand.
Secondly, and 100% just as important!! I want to connect with you! My listener! I want to know what you are personally struggling with! When I was first thinking about doing this podcast, I wrote out a list with tons of topic ideas that I truly do believe will be helpful to someone. However, I want to be able to connect with you on a deeper level. I want to put out content that you want to hear, or perhaps you might not want to hear it but need to hear it but is still helpful.
I have created a link, you will be able to see it below, where you can leave me a recorded message! I have it set to private so no one other than myself will be able to hear it, but I would love it if you would be willing to record a message telling me what is going on in your life, so then I can create an episode speaking directly to that topic! I know that I may not be able to relate to every message, however just because I haven't gone through something doesn't mean that I might not still be able to offer sound advice!
Please be assured that neither myself nor this podcast is going anywhere! Regardless if I decide to make the switch or not, I will still be here putting out content for you! Whatever I decide, I will make sure to keep you updated! And don't forget that if you want to be a guest on the show to discuss a specific topic, I have the google form linked below as well! I would be honored to have you on the show!
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Building Mental Courage 2.0

In this episode, I apologize to each and every listener for my unexplained absence over the last 2.5 months. I explain what was going on during the last 2.5 months, and things to expect/ look forward to going forward. I discuss the desire to look into having all my mental health diagnosis's reevaluated by a psychologists due to so many diagnosis's tend to have very similar traits which makes it very easy to get the wrong diagnosis. I plan on coming back for Season 2 bi-weekly as I don't want to over promise something that at this stage in my life, I don't know that I can adhere to. It is my hope to be consistent with uploading on Wednesdays, however my family will always come first, so if for some reason, I am not able to on Wednesday, it is my goal to upload a new episode every other week no later than the Saturday of that week. As always, I would love to connect with you, and hear from you what you would like to hear on this podcast. June 7th, I have it already planned that I will be doing a previously requested episode about how anxiety shows up differently in people. It has been a long over due request! Biggest thing is I want to be as real and authentic as I can be with you! I am not a professional and don't have every answer or all the solutions to all the problems, but I have gone through quite a bit, and I am even though I may not be fully equipped, and most definitely nervous every time I turn on my microphone, I still want to have the mental courage to show up and be there for you, to encourage you, lift your spirits up, make your day better by knowing that you aren't alone. Again, I apologize for not giving any notice of taking such a long break, however I am back! I appreciate you for your support and for listening! Hope you have a great day!

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