Confident speaking

02/08/22 • 37 min

Does the idea of speaking in public make you feel anxious? Do you worry about all the things that could go wrong? Are you scared people will find what you have to say boring?

So many people feel this way and wish they could develop more confidence to conquer fears that have been holding them back. The good news is that there are ways to develop your speaking/presenting skills and gain more confidence with guidance and practice.

My guest for this episode is communication coach, Jon Torrens. A former video-game developer and stand-up comic who uses his strong interpersonal skills to engage all kinds of audiences with spontaneity and humour. He shares some valuable tips and resources you can check out, and talks about his own experiences and feelings of insecurity with complete honesty.

Discussed in this episode:

How Jon developed good story and delivery confidence doing stand-up comedy for 10 years alongside his job as a video-game designer (00:55)
How to make your story unpredictable and break the pattern (6:00)
The importance of defining what you want confidence in and to then give yourself permission (7.25)
Vulnerability and showing your authentic self connects you with your audience (10:00)
What to do when things go wrong and how it can become the funniest story ever (11:30)
The chaotic TedX experience that turned out successful in the end (15:00)
Don't let the negative inner dialogue ruin a talk that might seem to others to be running smoothly (20.00)
How to deal with going dry (22:30)
Dave Goggins' accountability mirror technique (24:18)
Mel Robbins' High Five technique and power poses by Amy Cuddy (26:50)
How Jon deals with his own insecurities and doubts (28.55)
Susan Jeffers give advice in her book Feel the fear and do it anyway 'You will handle it'. (32:00)
Understanding your own strengths is essential and I challenge Jon to list five of his own (33:00)

Connect with Jon:

Website: https://jontorrens.co.uk

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jontorrens/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jontorrens/

Let’s connect!

Resources mentioned:

Dave Goggins: https://youtu.be/9mMbfJNoM9g

Mel Robbins : https://www.high5habit.com

Your body may shape who you are Amy Cuddy: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are

Rick Hanson Resilient: https://www.rickhanson.net/resilient/

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02/08/22 • 37 min