#30 Raising a Boy Part II

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05/23/21 • 15 min

Raising future leaders, not assholes

So, in part one we talked about the social aspect of raising our boys. Now we get down and dirty with the political, societal fallout of raising male-identiefied children. We even get into the issue of race; what does it mean to raise a POC or a boy of color? What does that mean, especially, when you turned out very light-skinned and have privilege written all over your face? Difficult questions but defo something we want to talk about, even, no, especially when we make mistakes or made them in the past and we realize there's so much more to learn.

Raising future leaders, not assholes

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#29 Raising a Boy Part I

Raising boys today.

"He's so cute and smart and handsome, he made varsity, he has so many friends, he is going places, I just know it!" I have yet to meet a mom who isn't convinced the sun shines out of her boy's, um, face. And yes, raising a boy (I don't have girls, so no idea) is such a delight. But what if we recognize, these aren't just OUR boys, these are society's men one day, leaders, fathers, soldiers, friends. Would we still do everything the same way or would we take a closer look at where, maybe, we're letting them get away with stuff they shouldn't, or that there sisters maybe don't? And where, on the other hand, are we not taking care of them in the same emphatic way we would girls perhaps? Join me for this first of two episodes and lemme know what you think (about your boys)!

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#31 Can we change our dating patterns?

How to change our type when our type won't change.

Lemme guess, you met a new guy/gal and they seem perfect, everything feels so familiar and happy and, wait, where have I seen this before? Why are they saying that, this reminds me of.., oh, crap, this is exactly like what my ex...and the ex before that and...you get the picture. What can we do when we keep running into the same stumbling blocks (or blokes or blondes) and we're just so exhausted from the analysis and soul searching we've already done. Why does this keep happening to us! "Bitch, breathe!" to the rescue! Here are some tried and true ways to shift our focus, gently and doably, so we can start dating in a more conscious and healthy way, or, if nothing else, make some new mistakes for a change! Enjoy and get oh-so-romantic after this one.