Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
Sean and Dayne
Embark on a transformative journey of hope and healing with our uplifting podcast, dedicated to overcoming porn, masturbation, and sexual addiction. This podcast isn’t just about expert advice—it's about real experiences. We focus on the practitioner’s point of view, offering an authentic look into all key aspects of the addiction recovery journey, including the tools, programs, and personal lessons learned along the way.
Through candid stories of triumph, struggle, and growth, we share what has worked, what hasn't, and the powerful insights we've gained from walking this path. Our mission is to inspire those seeking freedom from addiction by showing that recovery isn’t just possible—it’s a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit.
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Episode 29: Does Sobriety Define You? Should it?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
02/27/25 • 54 min
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne go head-to-head in a deep and honest debate: Should sobriety define who you are? Or is it just a part of your journey—not your identity?
Some say sobriety is the foundation of healing, the proof of real change. Others argue that making it your identity can be a dangerous trap—what happens when you relapse? Does that mean you've lost yourself? If you’re not "sober enough," does that mean you’re not recovering?
Sean and Dayne take different stances, pushing each other—and you—to critically examine your relationship with sobriety. They reflect on how their perspectives have shifted after a year of committed recovery. Sean shares why he fought against letting relapse define him, while Dayne questions whether avoiding that definition makes it harder to stay accountable.
- Can sobriety be a core part of who you are without it becoming a burden?
- If we don’t let sobriety define us, are we leaving the door open to return to old patterns?
- Is sobriety the key to reclaiming our true selves, rather than something that restricts us?
- How do we hold onto the passion for recovery when setbacks happen?
- Are you more than your sobriety, or is that a risky mindset?
Join the debate and reflect on what sobriety means for you. Does it define you? Should it?
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 3: Finding a Program - Kitchen Sink Approach?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
05/30/24 • 41 min
Establishing strong accountability relationships are critical to your recovery journey. In this episode we explore the need to lean into honesty with close relationships and the power of sharing your story and struggles openly.
- What does true accountability look like in recovery?
- How does personal accountability differ from groups or therapy?
- How and where to start?
This two-part episode focuses on how we came about the programs that have worked for us for the last 3 months of sobriety. Listen to our success and failure stories to help you pick a program that works for you.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 7: Shattered Mirrors - The Truth Behind Shame and Addiction
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
07/30/24 • 42 min
Shame is a powerful and controlling feeling. In this episode we discuss the impact of shame on the addictive cycle and how it kept both of us in bondage for years.
- The significance of shame in addiction
- The role of vulnerability in overcoming shame
- Breaking the ice and building courage
- Creating space and clarity to stand up to shame
- Moving towards healing and reclaiming self worth
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 24: Need a Fresh Start?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
01/09/25 • 49 min
If you've been struggling with addiction for as long as we have, you've likely experienced countless attempts to start fresh. We all remember those moments—birthdays, Christmases, and New Year's Eves—when we promised ourselves that this would be the time we turned things around. The day after a relapse, motivated by the hope of a fresh start, we dive in once again, only to face new challenges.
In this episode, Sean and Dayne share their personal experiences with "fresh starts" in their recovery journey. Reflecting on their past struggles and triumphs, they also discuss their hopes for the future, especially as they look ahead to their first clean year in decades. This conversation highlights key aspects of starting fresh, from rebuilding relationships to developing healthier habits.
Fresh Start and Its Impact on Our Loved Ones:
"I didn't realize how disconnected I was with my wife and kids."
Recovery isn't just about the individual—it's about reconnecting with the people who matter most. Sean and Dayne talk about the sometimes painful realization that their addiction led to emotional distance from their loved ones.
Fresh Start and Continuous Learning:
"The healthier I get, the more I realize how unhealthy I have been."
The journey to recovery is a process of continuous learning. Both Sean and Dayne explore how the more they heal, the clearer it becomes how deeply their addiction impacted their lives, shaping unhealthy patterns and mindsets.
Fresh Start and Building Consistent, Positive Patterns:
"I have not done anything more consistently and repeatedly than porn and masturbation for over 20 years."
Consistency is key, but it often works against us in addiction. In this segment, Sean and Dayne discuss how they've had to rebuild their lives from the ground up, creating new, healthier habits in place of destructive routines they've held onto for years.
Fresh Start and Reconnecting with Your Community:
"If your community doesn't know your story, it's not part of your support system."
Recovery is rarely a solitary journey. Both hosts emphasize the importance of being open with your support network—without sharing your struggles, that community can't truly support you.
Finally, the episode concludes with Sean and Dayne sharing examples of realistic goals and positive patterns they are focusing on for the new year, illustrating what a fresh start looks like in the context of real recovery.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 31: Beautiful Boy - Watching Addiction From the Outside
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03/21/25 • 70 min
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, co-hosts Sean and Dayne, along with their accountability brother John, dive deep into the raw and complex narrative of Beautiful Boy — the gripping story of addiction and family struggle captured in the acclaimed book and film.
Together, they explore the parallels between Nick’s journey and their own experiences with addiction recovery, asking challenging questions about family dynamics, personal responsibility, and the often-overlooked impact of addiction on loved ones. How do past experiences of parents, like Nick’s father experimenting with drugs, influence the course of addiction for future generations? Does a lack of stability in the home play a deeper role than we often consider? And do we show more grace toward those struggling with chemical dependencies than those facing sexual addiction?
By examining key characters and pivotal moments, Sean, Dayne, and John consider how their own growth in recovery would shape their perception of Beautiful Boy today. They reflect on the themes of connection, the desire to belong, and the pain of feeling “homeless” — a cycle familiar to those trapped in addiction.
Tune in for an honest and vulnerable conversation that goes beyond the surface, offering insights not only for those in recovery but also for the families and friends who walk alongside them.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 25: The More I Heal, the More I Uncover
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
01/09/25 • 42 min
After over 300 days of sobriety, Sean and Dayne reflect on the emotional challenges they still face. While their addiction recovery has brought progress, the journey is far from over. In this episode, they explore how their health and healing are interconnected and why the more they heal, the more they uncover areas that still need attention.
What's Still Bothering Us After 300 Days of Sobriety?
"I still deal with issues of self-esteem and measuring my worth and value."
Even with the progress made in recovery, old struggles don’t simply disappear. Both hosts discuss the persistent challenges they face around self-worth, especially when life outside of recovery—like career challenges—brings stress that can trigger old patterns.
Stress, Life Challenges, and Addiction Triggers
Life doesn’t stop, and neither do the stresses that can push them toward old habits. Dayne opens up about how career challenges and life rejections can feel like affirmations of his failures, causing his brain to make unhealthy connections between those experiences and his ability to maintain sobriety.
"When I get declined for a job interview, does it say something about my worth? Does it trigger my brain to think of myself as a failure?"
“Am I even good enough to receive the grace I’m being given?”
Insecurity and the Impact on Sobriety
"Anything that triggers my insecurities can challenge my sobriety."
Even though some insecurities may not be directly related to their addiction, their minds can still make harmful correlations. They discuss how insecurity, even in areas unrelated to addiction, can bring about dangerous thoughts that threaten their recovery.
"Long-term sobriety has helped me start to separate my emotional pain from my old acting-out patterns."
"Life challenges and high emotional pain can still trigger me, but now I can see them more proactively."
"Watching porn and masturbation is no longer a normal way of managing pain for me."
"It really grosses me out and makes me angry that I used porn and masturbation for so long to manage my emotions."
The Ongoing Battle: Recognizing Patterns and Growth
"I love that you’re noticing emotional patterns in your life more proactively."
"Am I taking anger from my past addiction and unleashing it on other parts of my life?"
Despite the progress, Sean recognizes that recovery is a long-term process.
"I can’t overcome years of issues in just one year."
"The addict Sean took over my life for so long. Now that the addict isn’t in the driver’s seat, other parts of my personality are being heard and expressing their issues."
Sobriety and the Root Cause: The Necessary First Step
Sean emphasizes that sobriety was essential to uncovering the root causes of his addiction and emotional struggles.
"Sobriety and finding the root cause is not a chicken-and-egg problem for me."
He explains that he needed sobriety first to begin addressing the underlying issues—issues that had been buried for years.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 30: Is Addiction a Simple Choice?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
03/07/25 • 57 min
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, cohosts Dayne and Sean dive into the complex question: Is addiction a simple choice? The two engage in a heartfelt debate, unpacking how this question has shaped their own recovery journeys.
Dayne wrestles with the tension between not wanting to victimize his struggles while also acknowledging how powerless he has felt at times. He shares how this year marks the first in 30 years that addiction hasn't owned him — raising the question: was there a choice involved in breaking free, or was something deeper at play?
Sean opens up about the painful paradox of recovery — how greater clarity brings greater pain, and how that pain forces him to confront the nature of his own choices. Together, they reflect on the early moments of their addiction — was watching porn or masturbating for the first time truly a choice? And if it was, does that even matter now?
Through raw vulnerability and honest disagreement, Dayne and Sean explore the relationship between choice, accountability, and the disease model of addiction. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode invites you to wrestle with the nuanced reality of addiction — where willpower, pain, and grace all collide.
Listen in as they ask the hard questions without easy answers — because sometimes the most healing conversations are the ones we can't tie up in a neat bow.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 5: The Unwanted Nature of Sexual Compulsive Behaviors
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
07/15/24 • 36 min
Join us for a discussion on the book "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer and the impact it had on us early in our journey towards recovery.
- Unwanted nature of sexual compulsive behavior
- Uncovering root causes and doing deep work
- The sobering reality of objectification and violence
- The impact of shame in sexual addiction
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 12: It's All About Boundaries - Perspective of a Courageous Guest!
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
09/15/24 • 91 min
This episode is 100% dedicated to Nathaniel and everybody sharing his strength and courage to fight porn addiction and all the pain and misery that comes with it.
In this episode, we’re joined by a courageous accountability brother on his day 1 of sobriety who shares his insights on setting boundaries. We delve into what has and hasn’t worked for the three of us and include feedback from six other accountability partners. This episode goes beyond just listing boundaries; it explores the deep commitment required to make them effective. Join us for an emotionally charged and in-depth discussion.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
Episode 32: Does an Addict Have Integrity?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
03/31/25 • 68 min
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into a tough but crucial question: Does an addict have integrity? Joined by their accountability brother Gaines, they wrestle with the true meaning of integrity—how it shaped their lives, how addiction distorted it, and the painful reality of recognizing where they fell short.
They explore the emotional weight of not living up to their own expectations, the strain on their relationships, and the disconnect between their actions and their values—especially as husbands, fathers, and men of faith. But beyond the pain, they also discuss the hope of rebuilding integrity in recovery, striving to become the men they were meant to be.
Raw, real, and unfiltered—this is a conversation every addict in recovery needs to hear. Tune in now.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness
Email: [email protected]
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How many episodes does Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery have?
Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery currently has 33 episodes available.
What topics does Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery cover?
The podcast is about Porn, Addiction, Health & Fitness, Accountability, Sex, Relationship, Mental Health, Sobriety, Podcasts, Intimacy, Recovery and Sexuality.
What is the most popular episode on Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery?
The episode title 'Episode 3: Finding a Program - Kitchen Sink Approach?' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery?
The average episode length on Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery is 55 minutes.
How often are episodes of Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery released?
Episodes of Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery are typically released every 7 days, 13 hours.
When was the first episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery?
The first episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery was released on May 24, 2024.
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