#64 - How to feel less nervous in social situations?

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05/07/20 • 38 min

Did you get to learn about social skills when you went to school? Did someone teach you how to interact with others and feel confident?

One of the problems with the school system is that it doesn't focus on the skill that might be the most important of all, social skills. How to feel more confident talking to new people? How to feel less nervous in social situations?

Today we are diving into the challenges that we have had in our social life. This episode is focused on exploring Emil's struggles with feeling nervous and awkward around new people and social situations. What he did to come over it, how long it took and what are his best tips to learn social skills. -- Today's episode is a personal development episode, where Erik and Emil explore topics about how to grow as a person.

We are both personal development junkies and spend many hours every week sharing our ideas and reading about new things. This episode is great for you who want to learn about our latest perspective. We share lots of personal stories, talk about how it applies in our lives, and where we have learned it from. -- This episode was spontaneous and unplanned. We wanted to keep the conversation as real and genuine as possible and instead of planning, we dove into it. The focus became on exploring how Emil locked himself into a bubble of online poker for 10 years and during this time just stayed in his comfort zone.

When his girlfriend broke up with him he had to start socializing with others and found that he couldn't even talk to women. He asked himself "How to feel less nervous in social situations?" and "How to feel more confident talking to new people?"

He started challenging himself, growing his comfort zone, had friends to learn together with, and went from being socially challenged to someone who now loves social situations, meeting new people, and values his social skills as one of his main talents.

Did you get to learn about social skills when you went to school? Did someone teach you how to interact with others and feel confident?

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#63 - Climbing the corporate ladder - IT'S A TRAP!

What is a successful career? What's the difference between climbing the corporate ladder, or becoming an entrepreneur?

It's easy to start climbing one latter and not being sure if it's the right one or how to change the ladder you are climbing. In this episode, we touch upon what's the difference between climbing the corporate ladder and becoming an entrepreneur, when is the right time to start your first business and what are the risks of climbing the corporate ladder?

This is an episode that is extra important for you early in your career, this is when you decide what ladder to climb. Today's episode is an entrepreneurship episode, where Erik and Emil explore topics about how to become a better business person.

We are often sharing real-life examples that have happened previously in our careers. What we have learned, whom we have learned from, and how we have applied that into our real lives. Everything in a mix with personal thoughts and reflections. We start this episode by exploring what it means to be climbing the corporate ladder, what are the steps, and what happens when you climb them?

We then talk about why it's easy to get trapped in the corporate ladder and why it's harder to switch over to the entrepreneurial journey later on. It's easy to start identifying with your job, making the title a part of whom you are, increasing your expenses, etc. All things that can make you stuck.

We then move on to thinking about life from a 10-year perspective. If you draw a line into the future from where you are today, will you end up where you want to be 10 years from now? If not, what changes can you do today that will make you reach where you want to be? Is climbing the corporate ladder the right strategy or is it better to start saving money, lowering your expenses, and give entrepreneurship a try? Follow Erik and Emil on their social channels! http://linktr.ee/smilingerik http://linktr.ee/emil.ekvardt

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#65 - How to make more friends in school or work? Avoid these mistakes!

In school, we don't get to learn social skills. No one teaches us what mistakes not to make. When Erik was young, he was a lonely child with very few friends. He always thought it was just bad luck and never understood why.

A few years ago he started reading about social skills and how to interact with others and it opened a world of new knowledge. More than anything, he could see all the mistakes he had done when he was younger. For the first time, he realized that it wasn't bad luck that made him lonely, it was mistakes that he did.

If you want to know how to make more friends at school? or how to make more friends at work? this is a great episode for you. -- Today's episode is a personal development episode, where Erik and Emil explore topics about how to grow as a person.

We are both personal development junkies and spend many hours every week sharing our ideas and reading about new things. This episode is great for you who want to learn about our latest perspective. We share lots of personal stories, talk about how it applies in our lives, and where we have learned it from. -- This is another spontaneous and very vulnerable episode. We are diving into Erik's childhood and emotions. We are starting by getting an understanding of what Erik's life looked like as a 10-12-year-old, how it changed when he moved to another school as a teenager, and what he learned when he started learning about social skills.

"How to make more friends in school?" was one of the questions he tried to understand early and "How to make more friends at work?" is something he is now teaching. After years of diving deep into social skills and personal relationships, this is now one of his core interests and something he loves talking about and learning more about.