255 - How to Surf the Last Waves of 2024

12/09/24 • 28 min

Join Jill this week as she reflects on 2024 and looks ahead to 2025! As we approach the final stretch of 2024, she shares a heartfelt discussion on navigating the emotional turbulence of the holiday season. She dives into the unseen pressures that often accompany the end of the year, whether it be unmet goals, family expectations, or the sudden resurfacing of old grief. Jill shares personal insights from her recent experiences, including giving up sugar and the lessons learned from stepping into the new year with intention.

Listen in to hear Jill provide some life updates from celebrating Thanksgiving in her unique family tradition to confronting her past with sugar and embracing moments of productive rest. She also provides some insights into staying conscious during physical tasks, the power of breathing exercises, and the practice of being fully present despite the holiday season chaos.

Listeners can also expect a candid discussion around the importance of maintaining personal integrity while allowing yourself to be flexible in your commitments, illustrated by Jill’s decision to change her mind about a decoration promise. Jill also provides practical advice on staying resourced and supported, managing your energy, and keeping your heart open to what life brings your way!

This episode isn't just about surviving the end of the year; it is about thriving through it with purpose, peace, and a newfound appreciation for the journey, so please tune in to find inspiration and tools to help you end your year on a contemplative, positive note!

Show Notes:

[1:43] - Jill reflects on December’s heightened emotions, stress, and her advice for navigating year-end pressures. [4:36] - Hear some updates about Jill's birthday as well as her giving up sugar and discovering its effects on her body. [6:24] - Thanksgiving traditions are cherished by Jill, who hosts joyful gatherings with family every year. [7:50] - Accomplishing physical tasks has taught Jill the importance of valuing rest and balance. [10:30] - Jill emphasizes integrating mindfulness into daily chores, finding gratitude and joy in simple moments. [12:30] - Listen as Jill explores the value of boundaries, allowing herself to change commitments for her peace of mind. [15:52] - It's important to maintain an open heart and resilience through life's inevitable challenges in order to reach inner peace. [17:42] - Stay resourced with hydration, movement, and boundaries for self-care during the holidays. [19:27] - Jill highlights her Grinch workshop, which covers setting boundaries and managing holiday stress. [21:25] - Jill's main advice for the year's end is to stay present and embrace emotions as they arise. [22:47] - Listeners are invited to Jill's April retreat, designed for self-discovery and community with like-minded women. [24:47] - Jill offers customized coaching and future workshops, focusing on helping mothers overcome guilt and control.

Links and Resources:

James Clear - Atomic Habits Alexia Chellun - “The Power Is Here Now”

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Links and Resources:

James Clear - Atomic Habits Alexia Chellun - “The Power Is Here Now”

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254 - Prioritizing YOU

Join Jill this week as she welcomes Amie Barsky onto the show! Amie is a highly regarded trauma-informed master coach, and she joins Jill to discuss a topic that resonates deeply with many women today: the pressure to constantly prove their worth at the expense of their own happiness. Together, Jill and Amie explore the pervasive patterns of self-betrayal when women often feel compelled to say yes when they want to say no, resulting in a cycle of exhaustion and dissatisfaction.

Amie, in addition to being a trauma-informed master coach, is also a breathwork facilitator, and she shares her journey and the transformative work that she does through somatic processes, subconscious reprogramming, and internal family systems. Her unique approach truly helps women break free from societal expectations, encouraging them to embrace a more fulfilling and nurturing way of living.

Amie and Jill also dive into the idea of boundaries, a term that can be misunderstood or even feared. Amie candidly discusses how embracing boundaries has been a recent revelation for her, transforming her ability to say no without guilt and emphasizing self-love. This episode promises to shed light on how saying no can actually be a powerful act of saying yes to oneself!

This conversation is one that listeners are sure to get a lot out of, as it is both a wake-up call and a guide, encouraging listeners to reevaluate their lives and consider the importance of putting themselves first. Especially timely during the holidays, it serves as a reminder of the gifts of self-care and intentional living, so whether you're feeling stuck in autopilot or seeking ways to reignite your passion, this episode offers insights and practical advice to inspire change!

Show Notes:

[3:13] - Jill is selective about podcast guests, trusting her instincts and prioritizing authentic connections. [4:05] - Amie launched her I Come First podcast for women prioritizing themselves, which has been live since April. [7:03] - Many women feel overwhelmed due to constant caregiving and lack of self-nurturing, leading to burnout. [9:31] - Amie has found that boundaries empower self-love and help align personal values and actions. [11:42] - Saying no is a way to prioritize self-love and authenticity in relationships. [13:17] - Amie asserts that reluctantly saying yes can harm both parties involved. [14:48] - Societal pressure shouldn't dictate personal decisions like marriage. [18:10] - Amie realized she had to leave a manipulative relationship to regain her wellbeing. [21:12] - Hear how Amie eventually chose self-care over a relationship that led to self-abandonment. [23:25] - Amie realized that true self-love involves using one's voice and setting personal boundaries. [26:00] - Embracing choice and owning one's voice requires confronting uncomfortable truths about family dynamics. [29:30] - Practicing self-compassion prevents falling into destructive self-criticism and despair. [30:06] - Jill argues that effective coaches admit their struggles, showing humanity and authenticity in their guidance. [31:41] - Building self-trust involves keeping promises to oneself and maintaining personal integrity. [34:07] - Amie emphasizes intuition and self-trust by listening to gut feelings and bodily signals. [36:37] - Amie advises practicing intuition daily by listening to simple bodily cravings and needs. [38:34] - Most people are disconnected from body sensations, causing stress and anxiety. [41:36] - We learn that Amie starts each day with gratitude, breathwork, and listening to her intuition. [44:54] - Clarity in standards and values is essential for genuine, fulfilling relationships. [46:26] - Amie emphasizes prioritizing oneself to become a priority in others' lives. [47:55] - Jill admits her past focus on discomfort, equating struggle with being deserving. [48:45] - Amie highlights society's flawed belief that success must involve struggle. [50:30] - Relatability in overcoming adversity inspires others to achieve similar success. [52:03] - Amie sees jealousy as a sign that achieving the desired goal is within reach. [54:19] - Amie feels that vibrancy is tuning into one's energy, adjusting its intensity and expression.

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256 - Honoring Your Internal Winter AND a Guided Meditation

Jill welcomes you this week as she discusses the current winter season. With the Winter Solstice coming up (which is, of course, the shortest day and longest night of the winter), she discusses her reasons for personally loving winter and how she regards it as a time for slowing down and reflecting. If you go outside during the winter, you will notice that nature takes this time to pause and be still, but humans so often don’t. Why is that?

Society tends to encourage us to keep going and pushing on, but it’s so important that we honor slowing down and becoming insular because it helps enhance our health in multiple ways, including physically, mentally, and spiritually. So many of us don’t not only because of external pressures but also because trying to be still can drive us crazy which is why Jill encourages conscious, committed, and consistent effort.

Jill encourages listeners to allow themselves to really embrace winter and to be still, but what exactly does that mean? She gives some examples such as becoming more insular, focusing on rest and nourishment, limiting social media and phone usage, and spending time outdoors even when it’s cold. She discusses why it’s important to connect with nature and to be outdoors more often, especially for people who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder.

This episode of Be YOU is an invitation for you, an invitation to give yourself the gift of winter stillness and calm and all of its rewards, to make peace with the season of winter, and if you are able to, Jill also invites you to join her for about ten minutes of guided meditation at the very end of the show!

Show Notes:

[1:32] - Today’s episode is about winter. [3:04] - Learn what inspired Jill to do this episode. [5:43] - “In winter stillness, the body whispers what the soul needs most - rest, reflection, and renewal.” [7:52] - The Earth uses winter to restore its energy. [10:47] - Stillness, for some of us, requires adjustment and embodiment. [11:49] - Jill encourages listeners to tune into their bodies and acknowledge what they’re feeling. [13:37] - A way to connect with oneself is to connect to nature. [16:11] - Jill encourages listeners that there are rewards to be experienced in the spring by being still in the winter. [18:49] - Jill guides listeners through a 10-minute meditation. [22:21] - Winter wants us to know that slowing down is not weak. [25:09] - What can you release in this season of rest?

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