220 - Only Listen If You Can Handle a Kick in the Tush
04/15/24 • 42 min
Jill takes the gloves off and gives us bare knuckles coaching on:
- Pretending we don’t know what to do
- Not admitting we aren’t willing to do what it takes to get what we say we want
- Being ask-holes
- The lies we tell ourselves about weakness and strength
- Blaming everything outside of ourselves for the life we have
- Why quitting is sometimes the bravest act
[1:27] - Let’s chat about the lie we share that we don’t know what to do.
[2:48] - Our brain craves safety. But safety isn’t safe. It’s just what is familiar.
[4:20] - Some of us are genuinely unwilling to do what it takes. That radical honesty is fine.
[6:18] - Some people will continue to complain about not knowing what to do, even though the solutions have been provided.
[9:33] - We can’t pretend to not know what to do. If we really don’t know what to do, we can find the answers.
[11:03] - You need to do the work, read the books, find the information, take the courses, and do it all yourself. You can’t rely on someone else to give it to you.
[12:18] - Some people will not only complain about not knowing what to do, but will come up with lists of reasons why they can’t do it.
[14:17] - Being a people pleaser is actually a form of control.
[16:02] - We’re married to our story. We’re married to the excuses. What if we decided to propose to the answers?
[19:54] - We don’t know what we don’t know.
[21:08] - Are you willing to become the student?
[24:51] - Things will change for you when you realize you are the director of your own theater.
[27:23] - No one is coming to save you. You are your own hero.
[32:26] - There’s a difference between rest and weakness.
[34:03] - Functional freeze is when you are able to function, but inside you are stuck.
[37”25] - Are you going to heed the advice?
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Jill takes the gloves off and gives us bare knuckles coaching on:
- Pretending we don’t know what to do
- Not admitting we aren’t willing to do what it takes to get what we say we want
- Being ask-holes
- The lies we tell ourselves about weakness and strength
- Blaming everything outside of ourselves for the life we have
- Why quitting is sometimes the bravest act
[1:27] - Let’s chat about the lie we share that we don’t know what to do.
[2:48] - Our brain craves safety. But safety isn’t safe. It’s just what is familiar.
[4:20] - Some of us are genuinely unwilling to do what it takes. That radical honesty is fine.
[6:18] - Some people will continue to complain about not knowing what to do, even though the solutions have been provided.
[9:33] - We can’t pretend to not know what to do. If we really don’t know what to do, we can find the answers.
[11:03] - You need to do the work, read the books, find the information, take the courses, and do it all yourself. You can’t rely on someone else to give it to you.
[12:18] - Some people will not only complain about not knowing what to do, but will come up with lists of reasons why they can’t do it.
[14:17] - Being a people pleaser is actually a form of control.
[16:02] - We’re married to our story. We’re married to the excuses. What if we decided to propose to the answers?
[19:54] - We don’t know what we don’t know.
[21:08] - Are you willing to become the student?
[24:51] - Things will change for you when you realize you are the director of your own theater.
[27:23] - No one is coming to save you. You are your own hero.
[32:26] - There’s a difference between rest and weakness.
[34:03] - Functional freeze is when you are able to function, but inside you are stuck.
[37”25] - Are you going to heed the advice?
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Previous Episode
219 - The Story You Make Up About Their Life and What You Think It Means About Yours
When you look out at others, where does it come from?
Does it come from safety and truth?
Or are you needing and wanting to confirm some sort of story you’ve made up?
In this episode, Jill explores the reasons behind our need to see other people and make up a story about their successes and compare them to our own insecurities.
Show Notes:[9:58] - Some of us are in bondage to these made-up stories.
[11:47] - Why is our knee-jerk reaction to focus on the things that other people seem to be doing better, but when we look at ourselves, we focus on the negative?
[13:44] - We play a comparison game because we focus outward.
[16:24] - When you’re focusing externally to find meaning, that’s the pitfall.
[17:49] - Why are you looking outward?
[21:13] - If your “come from” is safety and security, you won’t feel threatened.
[22:58] - There are things you simply won’t know about someone else by looking at them.
[26:06] - We find ourselves looking at other people and we’re thinking that they’re doing things better because deep down we still feel like we are not enough.
[28:29] - If it is coming through the lens of love, we won’t make anything up or add anything to the picture. We won’t make it mean anything about ourselves.
[31:02] - Everybody does this. But is it all-consuming?
[33:03] - Consider who you are looking at and how you are making a made-up story mean something about your own life.
[34:32] - It all boils down to outsourcing our worth.
[36:30] - We avoid being still and quiet to face insecurities. It's easier to look outward.
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Next Episode
221 - How to Know If It’s the Right Decision
After talking about how we sometimes pretend not to know what to do, this week Jill explains how to know if it's intuition and truth or interference.
And today is the day you get asked a really sobering question.
Tune in to find out what that question is....
Show Notes:[2:21] - With any type of deep inner work, you are going to create new neural pathways and new ways of being.
[3:44] - Your intuition will not lead you to confusion.
[4:36] - If it comes from divine truth, it will not be a wobble. It will be clear.
[8:01] - How do you know if something is intuition? How do you know if something is true for you?
[9:23] - If there’s any area of your life where you are not fully yourself, how long are you willing to continue that?
[12:01] - If you are your true authentic self, you are going to trigger some other people.
[13:27] - I will not abandon myself for anyone. When you walk this way, you will recognize the wobble and discern the difference.
[16:12] - When are you going to honor your own guidance? When are you going to step into the role of leading yourself?
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