Episode 281: You Shouldn't Iron Your Cheating Husband's Clothes--Plus We Answer Your Questions!
05/01/25 • 68 min
It's an Ask Me Anything episode! Keith and I open talking about the viral video where a woman claims that she felt called by God to iron her husband's clothes before he left for the weekend to be with his mistress. And then Rebecca and I answer your questions about drawing boundaries, dating, protecting kids from abuse in church, and more!
OUR SPONSOR:
Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
- Our book She Deserves Better
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Last week's podcast on rumination and our one-sheet download for The Love Dare
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
- The Great Sex Rescue
- She Deserves Better
- The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
- and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
It's an Ask Me Anything episode! Keith and I open talking about the viral video where a woman claims that she felt called by God to iron her husband's clothes before he left for the weekend to be with his mistress. And then Rebecca and I answer your questions about drawing boundaries, dating, protecting kids from abuse in church, and more!
OUR SPONSOR:
Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED:
- Our book She Deserves Better
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Last week's podcast on rumination and our one-sheet download for The Love Dare
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
- The Great Sex Rescue
- She Deserves Better
- The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
- and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 280: The Problems with the Book The Love Dare--And How It Papers Over Real Problems
The Love Dare, based on the movie Fireproof, has been a huge best-selling marriage book for two decades. But does it actually contain good advice? Today on episode 280 of the Bare Marriage podcast, we show how The Love Dare simply regurgitates all the typical harmful evangelical marriage advice, telling women to make themselves smaller; never bring up issues; paper over problems; and, of course, never divorce, even if you’re being abused.
OUR SPONSOR:
Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED:
- Our Harmful Materials stickers to put on your problematic books
- All of our one sheets:
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Join Sheila on her social media channels: Instagram, YouTube, Threads, Facebook
- Our podcast on forgiveness after trauma
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
- The Great Sex Rescue
- She Deserves Better
- The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
- and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Next Episode
Episode 282: What Makes Men Cheat? New Research Spotlight
It's time to walk through some super interesting studies that have recently been published--and see what they say about the intersection of infidelity and beliefs in male hierarchy. Keith joins Sheila to react to the studies!
OUR SPONSOR:
Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED:
- The Marriage You Want
- Study on how affairs aren't linked to sex frequency, and the post about it
- Study on how sexism affects infidelity
- Power to Flirt Study
- Differences in Solitary vs. Dyadic Sexual Desire study
- Study on Heroism by Gender
- The IFS World Map 2019 (abuse stats are on pp. 35&36)
- John Piper on how complementarianism protects women, and Rachel Held Evans' response
OTHER RESEARCH DEEP DIVE PODCASTS:
- Pink and Blue Brains? What the research says about gender and brain differences
- Why Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee
- New Research on Obligation Sex
- New Research
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
- The Great Sex Rescue
- She Deserves Better
- The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
- and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Bare Marriage - Episode 281: You Shouldn't Iron Your Cheating Husband's Clothes--Plus We Answer Your Questions!
Transcript
Sheila: If your husband is having an affair, should you iron his clothes before he goes to his mistress? How can you tell if your husband is a narcissist?
Rebecca: What? I’m sorry. Wait. What?
Sheila: Wait. I haven’t finished the intro. And how do you make decisions in an egalitarian marriage if you disagree? Hello. I am Sheila Wray Gregoire from baremarriage.com where we like to talk about—
Rebecca: That was a
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