Fear of Abandonment

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02/29/24 • 32 min

In the 31st episode of 'Bad Marriage 4 Life', the co-hosts, Vic and Jenny discuss the theme of the fear of abandonment and its impact on their relationship. Jenny opens up about her personal fear of being alone and how it has played into her decision-making process in relationships and influenced how she deals with friendships. Vic shares his differing perspective on being alone. They reflect on their past experiences and why they decided to stay together after turbulent times, attributing their ultimate decision, in part, to their fear of being alone. They also touch on their upcoming marriage and the societal misconceptions and expectations that come with it. 00:00 Introduction and Role Reversal 00:26 Discussing Fear of Abandonment 01:57 Reflections on Past Relationships 03:16 Confronting Past Mistakes and Fears 07:48 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives 10:21 The Impact of Past Decisions on Present Relationships 12:23 Learning from Therapy and Personal Growth 14:47 Regrets and Reflections on Parenthood 15:42 Looking Forward: Engagement and Future Plans 21:36 Dealing with Assumptions and Judgements 21:59 The Annoyance of Unwanted Commentary 22:22 The Misconceptions of Late Marriage 23:22 The Journey of a Long-Term Relationship 24:03 The Misunderstandings of a Large Family 25:21 The Misinterpretation of Honesty in Marriage 26:11 The Importance of Timing in Relationships 26:52 The Etiquette of Responding to Engagement News 30:18 The Unwanted Advances in a Couples Resort 31:54 Closing Remarks and Upcoming Contest Announcement

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Unveiling the Dark Side of Alcohol in Relationships

Jenny and Vic delve into the detrimental effects of alcohol on relationships, drawing from their own experiences. They open up about recent arguments exacerbated by heavy drinking and discuss Jenny's symbolic act of removing her wedding ring during rough patches. Both hosts reflect on how excessive alcohol consumption has led to verbal abuse, health issues, and strained social interactions. Vic shares personal anecdotes highlighting the negative consequences of drinking, including violence and weight gain. Despite the challenges, Jenny commits to six days of sobriety in an effort to improve their relationship. The episode also touches on the difficulties of serious conversations amidst alcohol use, the truth serum effect, and the unpleasant experiences of drunk sex. Reflecting on their past drinking habits, the hosts acknowledge the need for change and express hope for a healthier future together. 00:00 Introduction and Hosts' Banter 00:10 The Issue of Yelling and Arguments 00:36 The Symbolism of the Missing Ring 00:51 The Night Out and Drinking Habits 02:38 The Aftermath and Verbal Abuse 02:58 Family History of Alcoholism 03:17 The Consequences of Drinking 04:06 The Drinking Process and Its Effects 04:35 The Double Standards in Jokes 09:47 The Issue of Addiction 10:38 The Impact of Drinking on Relationship 12:48 The Struggle with Serious Conversations 14:44 Committing to Sobriety 15:11 Reflecting on Drinking Habits 16:24 The Struggles of Drinking and Calculating Tips 16:48 Pledging to Stay Sober for Six Days 16:58 The Consequences of Drinking: Violence and Weight Gain 17:14 Recalling Past Drinking Experiences 17:44 Body Positivity and Self-Love 18:11 The Worries of Blackouts 18:34 The Aftermath of a Night Out 18:53 The Truth Serum Effect of Alcohol 22:19 The Ugly Side of Drunk Sex 24:12 A Birthday Night to Forget 28:15 Closing Remarks and Future Plans

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Couples Therapy: Navigating Financial Differences & Compromises in Marriage

Jenny and Vic discuss the challenges and insights from their ongoing couples therapy sessions. Vic surprises Jenny in therapy by expressing concern over Jenny's handling of a situation with one of their children, leading to a broader discussion on accommodation and financial planning within their relationship. Jenny questions how much she should compromise for the relationship's success, especially regarding financial decisions and their impact on personal happiness. They delve into their differing attitudes towards money, with Vic prioritizing financial stability over luxurious spending due to his financially strained upbringing. The episode highlights their journey to understand each other's perspectives better, the importance of budgeting for a healthy relationship, and the challenges of balancing personal desires with joint financial responsibilities. The conversation also ventures into topics like marriage, compromising for happiness, and the peculiarities of planning vacations and dealing with the psychological aspects of spending. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Start 00:17 Discussing Therapy and Relationship Dynamics 01:38 Financial Responsibilities and Relationship Compromises 03:44 Planning a Family Trip and Financial Disagreements 06:17 Exploring Personal Spending Habits and Financial Management 08:39 Contemplating Relationship Compromises and Financial Independence 11:46 Reflecting on Personal Desires and Relationship Expectations 14:38 Discussing Marriage and Financial Expectations 16:07 Gratitude for What We Have 16:33 Growing Up Without a Male Role Model 17:22 Building a Family and a Comfortable Life 18:03 Counting Blessings and Future Plans 18:35 Love for Work and Compromises 19:13 Living Life to the Fullest 20:22 Financial Stress and Desire for More Experiences 23:52 Polyamory and Compromises in Marriage 27:39 Bad Marriage for Life Podcast and Giveaway