How Perfectionism Makes Grief Harder

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03/13/25 • 64 min

Rio Richards, Grief & Trauma Recovery Therapist, is BACK to discuss all things grief. She opens up about what she struggles with after losing her father 4 years ago. We specifically talk about the 8 Ways That Perfectionism Makes Grieving Harder founded on an Instagram post that she made.

Here's what we unpack:

Constantly wondering if you're feeling the "right" thing at the "right" time
Hiding your feelings because they don't feel "appropriate"
Starting but never finishing memorial projects because nothing feels "worthy" enough
Avoiding support because you "should handle this on your own"
Comparing your grief to others and always finding yourself lacking
Apologizing for talking about your loss or for "bringing everyone down"
Exhausting yourself by trying to appear "strong" or "put together"
Criticizing yourself for not being "over it" by some arbitrary timeline

Follow Rio on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andthatsgrief/

Substack: https://substack.com/@touchingthefire?utm_source=top-search

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

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Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Here's what we unpack:

Constantly wondering if you're feeling the "right" thing at the "right" time
Hiding your feelings because they don't feel "appropriate"
Starting but never finishing memorial projects because nothing feels "worthy" enough
Avoiding support because you "should handle this on your own"
Comparing your grief to others and always finding yourself lacking
Apologizing for talking about your loss or for "bringing everyone down"
Exhausting yourself by trying to appear "strong" or "put together"
Criticizing yourself for not being "over it" by some arbitrary timeline

Follow Rio on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andthatsgrief/

Substack: https://substack.com/@touchingthefire?utm_source=top-search

BROUGHT TO YOU BY LOSSLINK.COM! Join today and find your loss mom posse!

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store! At a Total Loss Shop

Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

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Here's what I talk about:

This being the longest month ever and my one resolution has failed
The absolute anger that comes with baby loss
Being a *good* person despite loss
A story about a pregnant chick next to me at the salon
“A mother to 2 livings and an angel”
Leaving the babies with someone.
Staying connected to your partner.
Breastfeeding chaos.
Being a good mom to livings and babies that are gone.

Follow me on IG at @thekatherinelazar

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

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Anna and Kent are Atlanta Loss Parents whose son Seth was born and passed away on September 28, 2021. The film is screening this Saturday here in Atlanta and then soon nationwide at select theaters.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/