Episode # 66 Let's Talk About Sex & Anxiety
10/01/21 • 38 min
Today we have a special guest Dr. Lindsey Brooks a sex therapist.
Dr. Lindsey Brooks is a sex therapist turned sex educator. She has her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, is a certified sex therapist, and has been providing therapy since 2005.
She is thrilled to now be bringing her knowledge beyond the therapy room with her Sexual Empowerment School where she teaches women how to build their sexual self-knowledge, develop pleasure-positive mindsets, and learn sexual communication skills through her online workshops and resources. She is currently running an 8-week course for women.
She shares how developing a pleasure-positive mindset can be an integral part of mental wellness for women. Getting more on their sexuality and letting go of negative sex mindset. What sexual empowerment really means to women and getting people sex education.
She talks about how we pick up Sexual Scripts from society, tv and social media, especially for young couples and to avoid misinformation. She talks about scripts that can be relearned to reuse them. Letting go of sexual myths and letting go of negative sex mindset and into sexual empowerment.
In her 8-week workshop, Dr. Lindsey helps to rewrite society or religious scripts for more of a pleasure centered mindset. Pleasure center sexuality or pleasure center parts of the body.
We Discussed how hard to separate emotions and sexuality. This is where hurt feelings of shame and anxiety can be there if you are not on the same emotional page when having sex. Normalizing behaviors and emotions involved and reframing shame and focus on what that person enjoys to feel better.
Shame messages from religions message of impurity or that women are supposed to be the gate keeper of sex, either the good girl that should be the fun be a sexual girl having sex by the 3rd date. Or the exact opposite must be a virgin until marriage or you are a whore. It does not need to be a good or bad. And reframe as your own values to guide you.
What feels right, Pleasure is a normal experience of a human. Women deserve pleasure in sex and for it to be mutual and reciprocated, not one-sided.
Not fear or shame just exploring experiences and see who they are now, it is okay and not a bad thing without pressures within your own way. What am I interested to explore within your comfort zone?
Break it down when to say NO: Talk first about it with your partner to be reciprocal between the couples wanted experience to find pleasure is important: Ask
- This is what I want to explore and want to experience
- What I will do or try
- What I will not do or try.
Dr. Lindsey has a free offering of a quiz to help find clarity
Her course can be found at: https://www.sexualempowermentschool.com/
This is by no means a replacement for therapy or any medical attention if you need it. Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.
AnxietySimplified.net There is a free download worksheet and a Course of Conquer Your Panic Attacks.
ESA Pros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere you go
YouTube Channel: Anxiety Simplified Podcast: for the videos of the podcasts
Today we have a special guest Dr. Lindsey Brooks a sex therapist.
Dr. Lindsey Brooks is a sex therapist turned sex educator. She has her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, is a certified sex therapist, and has been providing therapy since 2005.
She is thrilled to now be bringing her knowledge beyond the therapy room with her Sexual Empowerment School where she teaches women how to build their sexual self-knowledge, develop pleasure-positive mindsets, and learn sexual communication skills through her online workshops and resources. She is currently running an 8-week course for women.
She shares how developing a pleasure-positive mindset can be an integral part of mental wellness for women. Getting more on their sexuality and letting go of negative sex mindset. What sexual empowerment really means to women and getting people sex education.
She talks about how we pick up Sexual Scripts from society, tv and social media, especially for young couples and to avoid misinformation. She talks about scripts that can be relearned to reuse them. Letting go of sexual myths and letting go of negative sex mindset and into sexual empowerment.
In her 8-week workshop, Dr. Lindsey helps to rewrite society or religious scripts for more of a pleasure centered mindset. Pleasure center sexuality or pleasure center parts of the body.
We Discussed how hard to separate emotions and sexuality. This is where hurt feelings of shame and anxiety can be there if you are not on the same emotional page when having sex. Normalizing behaviors and emotions involved and reframing shame and focus on what that person enjoys to feel better.
Shame messages from religions message of impurity or that women are supposed to be the gate keeper of sex, either the good girl that should be the fun be a sexual girl having sex by the 3rd date. Or the exact opposite must be a virgin until marriage or you are a whore. It does not need to be a good or bad. And reframe as your own values to guide you.
What feels right, Pleasure is a normal experience of a human. Women deserve pleasure in sex and for it to be mutual and reciprocated, not one-sided.
Not fear or shame just exploring experiences and see who they are now, it is okay and not a bad thing without pressures within your own way. What am I interested to explore within your comfort zone?
Break it down when to say NO: Talk first about it with your partner to be reciprocal between the couples wanted experience to find pleasure is important: Ask
- This is what I want to explore and want to experience
- What I will do or try
- What I will not do or try.
Dr. Lindsey has a free offering of a quiz to help find clarity
Her course can be found at: https://www.sexualempowermentschool.com/
This is by no means a replacement for therapy or any medical attention if you need it. Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.
AnxietySimplified.net There is a free download worksheet and a Course of Conquer Your Panic Attacks.
ESA Pros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere you go
YouTube Channel: Anxiety Simplified Podcast: for the videos of the podcasts
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Episode #65 Emergency Homeless Assistance with Solutions for Homelessness Part 2
Joanne has a special guest Wayne Shipman that shared his story of homelessness to a home owner in Part 1 Podcast #64 Emergency Homeless assistance.
He wants to share solutions to the Homeless population and their families and the public to help them know and understand that there are things that you can do to help.
Wayne shares how he is still engaged with homeless community and how the mental health issues are huge.
He estimated that 70% has a mental illness and are stuck without resources for their emotional issues. Recovery can be very difficult and how shame can play a huge part.
Covid has affected the help that the homeless receive with agency shutting down centers and not allow their staff to be exposed to covid.
Wayne wanted to give a shout out to police and security guard asking for them to call off the harassment of the homeless.
Wayne sees a snowball effects and describes how he got stuck in homelessness and needed Life skills to get out. It is hard to get away from it alone.
Wayne describes what helped him was to start each day with a routine to check in with a daily routine and have mental toughness.
- He needed constant reminders to not give up, Hope is a rope tied to something secure.
- He thought to set out notebooks, stamped envelopes and pens to write to their loved ones.
- Understand that the homeless feel anxious and vulnerable.
- Need to develop a mindset to thrive is needed
Wayne wants a homeless person, their families and the public to know that there are ways they can help.
- Having the will to help and help them find hope. Give encouragement and reach out
- Giving hope- Inspiring messages of self-help
- Give them materials to listen to like, CD’s or mp3 tapes to increase their skills.
- Homeless need to take responsibility for their own safety.
- Agencies band together forcing the Police protecting instead of harassing.
We can do something, if we don’t get into the politics of blaming or judging.
Resource 1-888-358-2384
Get Help - Coalition For The Homeless
https://www.coalitionforthehomeless.org ›
His Website: Acrossthemiles.org
FB-Wayne ShipmanHe has a book coming out soon.
This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it. Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.
AnxietySimplified.net Podcast videos to feel more in control of your life.
Youtube channel Anxiety Simplified Podcast
ESA Pros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere you go
Next Episode
Episode # 67: Define Your Own Level Of Emotional Wellbeing Naturally
I am welcoming back Eva from a previous podcast # 31 called “What do you do when doctors say they don’t know, stages of healing?”
Eva Vennari, NC Nutritional Counselor, and Certified Wellness Coach that I am working with personally and have had unbelievable results from hot flashes, stomach irritation to other gastric issues, rashes, and blood sugar issues that are really turning around using her REVEAL program.
Eva is a formerly sick corporate ladder climber turned holistic practitioner that works virtually with high performers as their secret weapon to stay in the game without burnout.
She says Some of the things that you think you knew about health you will want to re-think to refine your own version of wellness.
She believes in the saying of “Living on purpose with awareness". We revisits what was considered normal and redefine your own level of wellness.
We redefine aging. The level of Inflammation that we achieve by not living on purpose and living more by default ages us. We live by default feeling pressures from people who put expectations on us adding to our stress level that becomes normal.
True stress has to deal with the internal communication within your body. It is the response to your life that can create Inflammation. Inflammation can be passed by generation that can start from the beginning at birth.
For Imbalance of metabolism, even the best products your body may not be able to handle, even if the commercials on TV say so. You need to know what your body needs.
Eva does Hair analysis as your body’s trash report. There is no doorman for everything that comes into your body.
On this hair test she is able to see how your metabolism is working, how you are creating new cells and the quality of those new cells, your hormones if they are being absorb and utilize as well as the toxin absorption and these are all stories where we can get our specificity.
Healing reactions is revealing the older layer of metabolism. The body is now able to correct those imbalances. The body can only heal something when it has the energy it needs to do that job.
There are 4 stages to a complete healing:
She described the 4 stages of healing:
- The body will only deal with the immediate needs, it must Build up the energy needed first. Survival is always first.
- Healing process starts with needing to break down what is needed to be healed.
- Clear the way of the toxins, parasites, viruses, in layers.
- Rebuilding, allowing the body’s natural process of healing to happen with time and patience.
Eva becomes the coach and support system as symptoms arise through the process.
She has scientific methods to analyze the mineral content in your hair with each stage of the healing process to reassess to clarify your body’s needs.
She sees that the clash between the head and the heart is part of the incoherence that causes the diseases without recognizing that we are a whole unit that needs to work in conjunction with each part to create the synergy of healing and optimal health
Eva Vennari’s website is:Theelevateinstitute.com She is offering a free Chinese Face Reading on her website. You send a selfie, and she will do an analysis that can show you health issues
She has her own Podcast: ‘When the Doctors Say I don’t Know’.
This is by no means a replacement for therapy or any medical attention if you need it. Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.
Go to our website anxietysimplified.net There is a free download worksheet and a Course of Conquer Your Panic Attacks.
AnxietySimplified.net Podcast videos to feel more in control of your life.
ESA Pros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere you go
YouTube Channel: Anxiety Simplified Podcast: for the videos of the podcasts
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