Break the Good Girl Myth + Unleash Your Power With Majo Molfino

09/25/20 • 37 min

For thousands of years, women have been taught to be good above all else.

You know... follow the rules, trust our logic over intuition, keep the peace, make everyone else happy, and sacrifice ourselves to achieve our goals.

Whew... glad those days are over... oh wait...they’re not.

Being the ‘good girl’ holds us back from our true potential. It keeps us from being POWERFUL.

On today’s episode of “And She Spoke” we get to the root of what’s really holding us back with the 5 good girl myths women believe and live by every day from Majo Molfino.

You have to follow the Rules
Strive for Perfection
Trust Logic over intuition
Maintain the Harmony
Sacrifice yourself for others

By examining the ways in which your beliefs and behaviors drive your life and cause you to self-sabotage, you open up space to create better habits.

Whether it’s fear of taking time and energy away from our spouse or kids, concern over everyone else’s contentment, or any other conditioned belief -- it takes a concerted effort to break free from those thought patterns.

And every time you choose yourself first, you reinforce your worth.

Let’s ditch ‘good’ and embrace ‘powerful’ because the world needs our voices now more than ever!

Here’s a peek at what else we discuss:

Why you’re still trying to prove yourself and fit in
Deconditioning prototypical good girl behaviors
How girlhood affects us as leaders, contributors and entrepreneurs
Learning to redefine our understanding about patriarchy
Making conscious sacrifices for our goals
Designing the life you want

Resources:

This week’s Joy:

Riding and sweating it out on the Peloton Bike with big guttural releases.

This week’s Hustle:

Majo Molfino’s book titled ‘Break the Good Girl Myth’ which reveals five self-sabotaging tendencies women must overcome in order to unleash their potential and power.

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For thousands of years, women have been taught to be good above all else.

You know... follow the rules, trust our logic over intuition, keep the peace, make everyone else happy, and sacrifice ourselves to achieve our goals.

Whew... glad those days are over... oh wait...they’re not.

Being the ‘good girl’ holds us back from our true potential. It keeps us from being POWERFUL.

On today’s episode of “And She Spoke” we get to the root of what’s really holding us back with the 5 good girl myths women believe and live by every day from Majo Molfino.

You have to follow the Rules
Strive for Perfection
Trust Logic over intuition
Maintain the Harmony
Sacrifice yourself for others

By examining the ways in which your beliefs and behaviors drive your life and cause you to self-sabotage, you open up space to create better habits.

And every time you choose yourself first, you reinforce your worth.

Let’s ditch ‘good’ and embrace ‘powerful’ because the world needs our voices now more than ever!

Here’s a peek at what else we discuss:

Why you’re still trying to prove yourself and fit in
Deconditioning prototypical good girl behaviors
How girlhood affects us as leaders, contributors and entrepreneurs
Learning to redefine our understanding about patriarchy
Making conscious sacrifices for our goals
Designing the life you want

Resources:

This week’s Joy:

Riding and sweating it out on the Peloton Bike with big guttural releases.

This week’s Hustle:

Majo Molfino’s book titled ‘Break the Good Girl Myth’ which reveals five self-sabotaging tendencies women must overcome in order to unleash their potential and power.

Know Your Numbers!

What you focus on grows, so pay attention to your money.

We use Bench for our bookkeeping. It's simple, elegant, and saves us so many hours that would otherwise be spent neck-deep in receipts on the other side of a spreadsheet.

Use this link to save 20% off your Bench Accounting plan for the first six months

Previous Episode

3 Ways to Reframe 2020 + Thrive in Uncertain Times

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What if you decided, “No matter what, I’m going to be fine”?

Wouldn’t that be liberating?

For many of us (if not all of us), it feels like it’s just one thing after another this year. Crisis after crisis piling up and chipping away at our ability to be resilient.

We’ve heard from many of you who––after spending years on building your in-person following or your brick and mortar studios, clinics or gyms–– have had to stop teaching or close down due to COVID and are wondering “What next?”.

And that thought can be overwhelming ESPECIALLY when all your plans for 2020 are well and truly out the window.

But it doesn’t need to be this way.

In today’s episode of And She Spoke, we have an open and honest conversation about how to reframe 2020.

Reframing is a bit like an inversion pose, it helps you to see the situation from another point of view. Often, a refreshing one.

In this episode, we discuss:

The importance of focussing on the facts.
How to avoid creating stories that simply aren’t true.
The difference between goals and visions, and expectations.
How to take action to overcome fear.

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Next Episode

How to Negotiate with Alexandra Carter

When it comes to negotiation, many of us feel we don’t measure up.

Maybe our fears of rejection or conflict get us to clam up and go with the flow... or we just feel inadequate in our knowledge and choose other – harder – approaches in life.

But what if simply asking for what we NEED could benefit... everyone?

On today’s episode of “And She Spoke” we have a lively and informative discussion with Alexandra Carter, a Clinical Professor of Law and Director of the Mediation Clinic at Columbia Law School. She is also the author of Ask for More, a book that posits a relatable and innovative approach to negotiation bound to help anyone out who struggles with asking for what they truly need – professionally or personally.

Whether you are struggling in your career or with family or friends, it is possible to overcome fears and create a place where you can IMPROVE your negotiation and listening skills! Don’t miss this vital conversation!

Here’s a peek at what else we discuss:

Unpacking the embarrassment around negotiation
How to get paid a fair price for your services
The basics – and complexity – of good listening
How a kayak taught Alexandra a foundational part of negotiation
Using curiosity to continually expand horizons and problem solve
Creating a path that others can follow in the future

Resources:

Alexandra Carter
Ask for More by Alexandra Carter
United Nations
The Memo: What Women of Color Need to Know to Secure a Seat at the Table by Minda Harts

This week’s Joy:

Checking in with her daughter every day using the Personal Weather Report she created at school.

This week’s Hustle:

Minda Harts’ book The Memo: What Women of Color Need to Know to Secure a Seat at the Table.

Know Your Numbers

What you focus on grows, so pay attention to your money.

We use Bench for our bookkeeping. It's simple, elegant, and saves us so many hours that would otherwise be spent neck-deep in receipts on the other side of a spreadsheet.

Use this link to save 20% off your Bench Accounting plan for the first six months!