U-Hauling Flannel Hearts: Examining Lesbian Stereotypes feat. Jaffe

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01/18/22 • 48 min

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In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "queer." We also discuss the Los Angeles queer bar scene when we were in our early 20s and how it is present day. Have you ever wondered if you’re welcome to an LGBTQ+ space as someone not from the community? Jaffe talks about how it’s important to have a sense of humor when entering such spaces. We also get vulnerable about how when I was first coming out under the transgender umbrella, our friendship was put to the test and that she would do things much differently today.

🎙️ Connect with Jaffe to learn more about + support her work:

💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

The history of the lesbian toaster joke - LezWatch.TV
Teen Vogue’s 10 Myths About Lesbians You Need to Stop Believing Now

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

🎙️ Connect with Jaffe to learn more about + support her work:

💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

The history of the lesbian toaster joke - LezWatch.TV
Teen Vogue’s 10 Myths About Lesbians You Need to Stop Believing Now

Previous Episode

You Can Never Trust Them: Confronting Bi Stereotypes feat. Dr. Leah Tidey

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In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of 12. Learn how intersections of bisexuality and consensual non-monogamy have created stigma she’s been pushing against. We also discuss Robyn Och’s definition of bisexuality and how Leah’s work as a sexual health educator can be tricky in terms of how much of herself she feel comfortable sharing with her students or overall in certain spaces due to bisexual erasure and biphobia. Have you ever wondered why people may use the term “partner”? Leah talks about how she doesn’t want to deceive people and doesn’t feel she is; she’s intentional about how it’s encompassing as a term and moves way from traditions we may have been taught, while recognizing the privilege in feeling comfortable enough to use it. We also talk about how COVID-19 and the pandemic overall has brought about lots of conversations that the polyamorous community has already been having for a long time related to bubbles and who we are seeing and when.

🎙️ Connect with Leah to learn more about + support her work:

Dr. Leah Tidey's website
Levi & Leah YouTube Channel
The Love Doctor Podcast - Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more
Instagram
TikTok
Twitter
Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski - the book she recommends
(Disclaimer: Gender Sexuality Info, LLC may receive a small commission from you purchasing from this link, which helps to provide free educational services like this podcast)

💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

Levi’s Future Proof YouTube Channel
Options for Sexual Health
Here are some related episodes from Leah’s podcast:
Consensual Non-Monogamy: Is It Just About Sex? feat. Dr. Amy C. Moors
Can Women and Men Be "Just Friends?" (And What If They're Bi?!) feat. Marcus Territory
TikTok Beauty Filters & How Your Sexual Orientation Can Change feat. Chris Angel Murphy *This is when I was on as a guest for her podcast :)
Do Bi Guys Exist? feat. Joe Lee
Can You Trust a Bisexual Partner? (And what is bi wife energy?) feat. Levi Hildebrand
Two awesome polyam accounts to follow on Instagram (according to Charlie):
polyamfam
polyphiliablog

Next Episode

Happy Hour Culture: Confronting Alcohol in LGBTQ+ Spaces feat. Chris Tompkins

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In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influences Latin American culture and what it meant for the messages he received as a young gay child. We also discuss what it's like sharing our stories on PFLAG panels, spirituality, and how heteronormativity is a lot like humidity...!

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