Do You Really Like Me For Me?

04/02/20 • 33 min

Often times I don’t think this is a question that is asked enough. It’s a question that I feel people are afraid to ask because they are afraid of the true answer that comes with it. It’s a question that goes deeper than just in the sense of dating, but you have to ask that question in general in life. Hidden agendas are becoming more and more prevalent in life, people like you for what they can get from you and not for actually valuing you as a person. In my dating life I don’t feel like I’ve ever truly had a partner, I’ve had a woman who admired characteristic traits of me but didn’t truly value me as a man. I don’t blame her; I blame myself because I should’ve done my due diligence as a man to pick her intentions apart to keep from wasting my own time. In regard to friendships, situations and time expose all. I feel as people, as we grow and as we mature, life itself will expose the true intentions of another person and if they really like us for who we are. I just posed the question and shared my own experiences and logic behind the topic of if you really like me for me. I hope you can take away and enforce some of the things that I speak about.

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