Emotional Decision Making | How to Make Difficult Decisions

02/22/08 • -1 min

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Do you fear making wrong decisions? Do you have difficulty making decisions when you are too emotional? Does the fear of rejection lead you to feel helpless and paralyzed? Would you like to know how to overcome all confusion once and for all?

On this free podcast episode, Sandra is having difficulty with the request of a dying fiancé. Suffering from cancer many miles away, he has asked her not to visit him. Though she wants to do the right thing, she is emotionally hurt and feels rejected. She is conflicted and confused about what to do.
World-renowned radio counselor Roy Masters discusses Sandra's problem with her. While we all pride ourselves in our ability to make a decision, anxiety brought on by emotions will always hinder the decision-making process. Further more, forcing any mental process is eventually detrimental to health. “Decision making can affect your breathing [and] your digestion,” explains Roy.
Learn how to not be affected by the decision making process. Listen to this podcast!
(Clip from episodes: K4817)
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Quotes about decision making from books by Roy Masters:
"We should enjoy our loved ones too, but not too much. Be careful not to make people, places, and things more important than what is right. Become too attached, too emotionally involved, and you will surely bring about those moments of truth that require soul-wrenching decisions."
- How Your Mind Can Keep You Well
"A mind forced to make decisions is always in conflict with itself, and from frustration and anger, a mist arises in the mind that further clouds our reason. First we have conflict, but as we make excuses and establish those excuses as 'truth,' we have confusion."
- How Your Mind Can Keep You Well
"Approach each problem with the awareness of Now. Wait until the time is right for action without submitting the decision to some elaborate reasoning process. Be patient. True life does not filter down through the intellectual processes for you to consult. Faith is a 'mindless' trust in God, the source of the faith impulse; for what is seen is made by what does not appear."
- Beyond the Known
"When you commit yourself to the right way, you are obviously making a kind of decision, a decision to obey the right in your heart; but this is the decision that puts an end to the sin of decision-making. From now on, the Light will always be there to make the way ahead perfectly plain, and since you are committed, you will see clearly what to do. After all, when you come to the edge of a cliff, you don’t have to ‘decide’ to back away!"
– Secret Power of Words
"When you are in your center, when you are objective, then there are no decisions to make. You see only the way you must go. Everything you do naturally turns out right. You are not drawn in anywhere you are not supposed to be. In the ideal state of consciousness there is never any deciding. There is only one thing to decide, and that is to seek the purpose of existence. When you do this, the Truth who greets you shows you what to aim for. The Truth makes the right things attractive and interesting and maneuvers you like a skillful Helmsman through the turbulent waters of intrigue."
- How to Conquer Suffering Without Doctors
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Gift-Giving Advice | Addicted to Giving

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Do you feel obligated to give gifts just because it is the Christmas Season? Do you experience more worry and pressure during the holidays than happiness and contentment? Would you rather receive a gift that was sincerely given or compelled because it is your birthday or a holiday that requires it?
In this free podcast episode, radio host Roy Masters explores the difference between compulsive and healthy giving. No one would argue that the act of giving gifts is an immoral practice. Conflicts arise, however, when a person is overwhelmed by a feeling when giving or receiving. Roy explains that feeling good over getting a gift, or feeling resentful because you are being pressured to give one, represents the “dark side of giving.”
Anne in California has a chronic issue of giving and “giving in” to her 40-year-old son. The subject of spoiling children, though seemingly far removed from obligated gift-giving, function off of the same principles, and have similar results. Due to her overly generous behavior, which she does for a selfish feeling of appreciation, her son has become both entitled and resentful. When faced with the choice of acting out his frustrations or holding it in, he chooses the latter and covers up his repression with alcohol.
If you are a people pleaser, or feel captive to one, you must hear this podcast!
(Clip from episodes: K4480 and K4481)
This podcast is brought to you by the Foundation of Human Understanding: http://www.fhu.com
Quotes regarding compulsive giving from books by Roy Masters:
“If the express purpose of the gift is to do you honor, and your pride falls for that, you will become enslaved both by the gift and the resentment you will feel when you discover the donor’s real motivation.”
– Secret Power of Words
“Serving seems so innocent that it is never suspected for what it is. Indeed, any gift offering can create a powerful obligation, even if it is just a 'free' flower at the airport in exchange for a donation. Under the circumstances, the victim cannot refuse the hidden demand to part with a portion of his soul along with his money. The taker is taken.”
– Eat No Evil
“The greatest of all gifts (especially appropriate at Christmas time) is choosing not to give, which frees others from the obligation to give something in return for what you’ve given them. Being obliged to give binds others to the agony of giving. Do you see what I mean? Giving under pressure wrongly resolves a conflict that was implanted by suggestion. In effect, the pressure source is rewarded and the giver can become a pressure source to others. The pressure that makes you 'give' becomes the pressure that makes others 'give,' too. The same principle applies to your love needs for your children.”
– How to Survive Your Parents
“If you are one of those gifted ones who have felt the pressure to give, but have held back because you felt it in your solar plexus and sensed intuitively that something was wrong, you don't know how blessed you are, how much horror you have escaped.”
– Secrets of a Parallel Universe
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OCD Help Part 1: The Cause of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

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(Clip from episode: K4533)
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Do you suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder or any other compulsive behavior? Are you looking for a way to resolve the symptoms of OCD without the use of pharmaceutical drugs? Do you know what causes your compulsive thoughts and habits to repeat in an endless loop?
In this free podcast episode, Chris has been suffering with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, (also referred to as OCD) for the last ten years. He has an intense fear of getting blood or other bodily fluid on him that could lead him to being wrongly accused of rape or murder. Radio host Roy Masters shows how understanding the causes of OCD, is the key to overcoming its debilitating grip.
The cause and prolonging of all OCD is resentment. Getting upset with an action or thought can often times cause your brain to repeat it. Every time the idea is introduced, a feeling of resentment is attached to it, causing an endless cycle. Eventually, many with this form of compulsive disorder give-in completely to the thought pattern as being true, no matter how absurd or illogical it is. This internal conflict can often lead to thoughts of suicide; as in Chris’s situation.
If you want free help with your compulsive behavior, listen to “OCD Help Part 1” of this podcast. For a more in-depth conversation with Chris on the subject of obsessive compulsive disorder, hear “OCD Help Part 2.”
Quotes regarding obsessive compulsive behavior from Roy Masters’ books :
“The more you tremble with fear or resentment, the further you are from the source of good, and the more subject you are to the subtle intimidations and manipulations of the wicked.”
- Adam and Eve Sindrome
“We are compulsive because of the proclivity of our souls to cling desperately to whatever we have been tricked into believing. And that fact holds true as far as you care to take it – in religion, politics, medicine – from the false heights of 'spiritual' cures to the lowest perversions imaginable.”
- Beyond the Known
“I do not intend to dwell at length on the other forms of compulsive behavior, except to say that the hypnoidal state leads to all of them by virtue of the pain and fear it produces. The victim is always driven to remove his pain. Left to himself, he experiments; otherwise, still in his trance, he is led down the garden path to the permissible, tried, proven, and accepted forms of pleasure. His trance state deepens as those unhealthy practices debilitate him physically.”
- Beyond the Known
“You may use the activity of resentment to escape the guilt, as though the thing of beauty, or even God himself, had suckered you into believing a lie. Of course, by believing in your false innocence, you perpetuate the guilt that began when you first rejected truth in favor of illusion. You lock yourself in more tightly to the hypnotic cycle of identification, feeling ever more guilty for escaping (again) into a lie and then needing more lies to diminish your awareness of the new guilt. You are caught in a compulsive, hypnotic pattern of dying as though it were living.”
- Adam and Eve Sindrome
“If you learn to meditate with the proper attitude, you may spontaneously experience a falling away of nagging personal problems, release from habits and compulsions, freedom from neurotic fears, and a renewal of good health...”
- How to Conquer Negative Emotions