Advice Line with Roy Masters

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Do you feel obligated to give gifts just because it is the Christmas Season? Do you experience more worry and pressure during the holidays than happiness and contentment? Would you rather receive a gift that was sincerely given or compelled because it is your birthday or a holiday that requires it?
In this free podcast episode, radio host Roy Masters explores the difference between compulsive and healthy giving. No one would argue that the act of giving gifts is an immoral practice. Conflicts arise, however, when a person is overwhelmed by a feeling when giving or receiving. Roy explains that feeling good over getting a gift, or feeling resentful because you are being pressured to give one, represents the “dark side of giving.”
Anne in California has a chronic issue of giving and “giving in” to her 40-year-old son. The subject of spoiling children, though seemingly far removed from obligated gift-giving, function off of the same principles, and have similar results. Due to her overly generous behavior, which she does for a selfish feeling of appreciation, her son has become both entitled and resentful. When faced with the choice of acting out his frustrations or holding it in, he chooses the latter and covers up his repression with alcohol.
If you are a people pleaser, or feel captive to one, you must hear this podcast!
(Clip from episodes: K4480 and K4481)
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Quotes regarding compulsive giving from books by Roy Masters:
“If the express purpose of the gift is to do you honor, and your pride falls for that, you will become enslaved both by the gift and the resentment you will feel when you discover the donor’s real motivation.”
– Secret Power of Words
“Serving seems so innocent that it is never suspected for what it is. Indeed, any gift offering can create a powerful obligation, even if it is just a 'free' flower at the airport in exchange for a donation. Under the circumstances, the victim cannot refuse the hidden demand to part with a portion of his soul along with his money. The taker is taken.”
– Eat No Evil
“The greatest of all gifts (especially appropriate at Christmas time) is choosing not to give, which frees others from the obligation to give something in return for what you’ve given them. Being obliged to give binds others to the agony of giving. Do you see what I mean? Giving under pressure wrongly resolves a conflict that was implanted by suggestion. In effect, the pressure source is rewarded and the giver can become a pressure source to others. The pressure that makes you 'give' becomes the pressure that makes others 'give,' too. The same principle applies to your love needs for your children.”
– How to Survive Your Parents
“If you are one of those gifted ones who have felt the pressure to give, but have held back because you felt it in your solar plexus and sensed intuitively that something was wrong, you don't know how blessed you are, how much horror you have escaped.”
– Secrets of a Parallel Universe
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Are you suffering from an intense sexual addiction or a sexually rooted compulsion? Do you need help for an internet porn addiction? Are you developing unhealthy sexual desires? Self-help treatment and recovery are simpler than you may realize. Regardless of what plagues you, the media and commercial entertainment only parade more sexual images in front of us daily. Not only that, but there are very few programs and treatment centers that provide accurate and lasting help for sexual addiction. Writer, lecturer and radio counselor Roy Masters discovered that the key to understanding addiction lies in realizing that it is a symptom to a larger emotional conflict.
Thomas was molested as a young child. He is in the middle of the recovery process, but still finds himself struggling with an awkward effect of sexual child molestation: an uncontrollable sexual compulsion. In this free podcast episode Roy walks Thomas through the process of stepping back from his resentment over his abusive childhood. Only by learning to live outside of our emotional mindset can we recover from past trauma and overcome addiction.
(Clip from episode: K4484)
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Quotes regarding sexual addiction from Roy Masters’ books:
“The trouble is that we usually associate need with something good. We think the same of those who give in to, or gratify, our needs. What we are really looking at here is a dark love, a strange compulsion of something in us to fulfill or to be fulfilled by kindred types.”
- The Adam and Eve Sindrome
“Acceptance is very important to the ego when it is guilty. Having someone attached to you is very exciting and comforting. Unfortunately, such a relationship reinforces everything that is wrong in you and this leads to more guilt, which in turn develops a greater need for those enchanting attachment personalities.
This is the basis of addiction—to anything, from women to drugs. If you can see this point, you are probably asking why such a natural thing is so harmful.”
- Understanding Sexuality
“Sooner or later every man becomes pathetically or violently love-crazy, fearful of what he needs. He sees he has been trapped and degraded, stripped of independence and self-respect.
There is no way out unless he will awaken and repent. To find life and true happiness, he must lay down his ego-animal life; that is to say, he must give up seeking acceptance. For it is his desire for acceptance, fulfilled in reality or merely in his mind, that awakens his senses and sets him aflame on the course of nature, the cycle of life and death. Look carefully at your yearning, then, to reach out and touch someone. Realize that this compulsion is nothing more than your guilty ego reaching away from reality toward the renewing of pride.”
- The Adam and Eve Sindrome
“Doing its thing, the temptation communicating through the food or sex says something in the inscrutable language of the Devil to us, his "sons." It approves our exotic needs and rewards them with pleasure; it assures the ego that it need not question its growing need for food or sex as an abnormal manifestation of the false identity that is secretly taking shape inside us. Since they are feeding more than the simple needs of the body, food and sex become objects of craving to our hungry egos. We need them to feel gloriously right, even though overindulgence brings on guilt feelings, which are soon followed by feelings of deprivation, and finally by a greater and more unnatural hunger than the last one. A person caught in the devil's web of food or sex addiction is never satisfied with a simple wholesome diet, or the natural sex act. His lusts are his gods, and he must make a "religious ceremony" of his indulgence in them.”
- Understanding Sexuality
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Steve is a seeker of truth living in his car. He talks with Roy about how Advice Line has confirmed what he has always recognized as the Truth.
(Clip from episode: K4614)
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Quotes regarding Truth from Roy Masters’ books:
“You realize that you believe what you want to believe, don't you? It follows then that if you want to believe the truth you are already graced with the ability to recognize it when you see it or hear it. This being the case, you will begin to see all your enervating habits in a completely different light.”
-Secrets of a Parallel Universe
“One plus one equals two, does it not? Now I ask you, ‘How do you know that is so?’ And you might reply, ‘My teacher told me.’ Surely that is not a good enough answer. Now if you ask me how I know that one plus one equals two, I shall reply, ‘Because I can see that it is so.’ The reason I can say this is because there is an inner testimony to the fact by the truth which made it a mathematical fact.”
-The Hypnosis of Life
“The sick mind cannot tolerate emotional freedom because therein is truth. That is why we are all so involved in sustaining ourselves and losing ourselves through emotional intrigue.”
-How to Survive Your Parents
“The key to this door is our sincere desire to know the truth—from the most basic truths about our problems and our wrong way of living, right up to the ultimate truth about Christ and his message of salvation. Love of truth—that is what draws us, imperceptibly, inch by inch, toward the hidden inner door to this "parallel universe." And all those who follow the leading of their conscience to the "promised land" are able to translate that "parallel universe"—the Kingdom of Heaven—into their lives, their families, their little corner of the world.”
-Secrets of a Parallel Universe
“God’s truth and His pathway are always in plain sight, however much our egos complicate them. Higher revelation with its clearer sight would compel us to serve a nobler purpose than our own. Sadly, we are usually too self-serving to see the obvious, in this case the unfolding of creation in a natural effortless way. We need only to be an unbiased witness to its marvelous unfolding.”
-Finding God in Physics

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Do your thoughts and feelings control you? Are you looking for a cure for constant worrying? Do you believe a worry-free life is even possible?
The Oxford Dictionary defines worry as “[to] feel or cause to feel troubled over actual or potential difficulties.” Stress and worry are feelings that plague millions worldwide, yet there are very few real solutions to this mental debility.
In this free podcast episode, Bill in Philadelphia wants to know how to break free from the chains of constant worry. Feeling obligated to be the problem-solver of the family, Bill claims to have always had the sense that he was meant to be “responsible for everything.” Radio host Roy Masters discusses the causes which lead to a false sense of obligation and responsibility. By understanding how resentment over circumstances leads to worry, one can easily overcome the compulsive feeling.
This is first episode in a two-part program on stopping worry. Hear “Stop Worrying: Part 2” for the conclusion to Roy and Bill’s conversation.
(Clip from episode: K3682)
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Quotes regarding constant worry from the book How Your Mind Can Keep You Well by Roy Masters:
“Worry has been our substitute for the natural concern we should have had. We just had to worry to ennoble ourselves. It seemed quite normal to worry; but worry is really the compulsive activity of the mind without faith, in the dark, priding itself on solving the problems that worry itself created.”
“Worry is a counterfeit virtue. Guilty of failing to be creatively concerned, we needed to fill our minds with something, even when we didn’t have anything to be concerned about. It did seem the natural thing to do. Could we admit to our failings? Of course not! If we didn’t have such busy minds we would be forced to see our faults. So we worried about the war and about the kids. Worry made us industrious busybodies who meddled in every kind of affair for its great pride value. But then we got involved and created problems so enormous that our inability to solve them with worry became apparent—even to ourselves.”
“Again, worry is the action of a mind in the dark, forgetting the truth, proudly trying to fix what it did in the dark. We couldn’t stop worrying before because we didn’t want to stop; it had an ego value for us. It always seemed like love for others. It made us forget our empty, faulty, meaningless existence. It won us badges of honor for this or that cause. Had we a grain of true concern, we would never have had anything to worry about—no great activity of mind to testify to our ego’s greatness.”
“In fact, our mind becomes so empty of worry and planning that we have virtually nothing to do, except to understand more, appreciate more, wonder more and see more clearly to avoid problems. As we become more adept at avoiding problems, things become easier, so we worry even less.”
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Are you or a loved one plagued with a history of asthma attacks? Are you tied down with asthma medication and nebulizers? Are you looking for a home remedy or natural asthma cure? Is there a cure?
Believe it a not, there is a link between asthma, bronchitis, and allergy-based diseases. Whether you suffer from childhood or adult asthma, asthmatic symptoms all have a similar cause. Burt is wondering if his asthma is related to his emotions or is it merely a physical malady. In this free podcast episode, Roy Masters discusses not only prevention treatment, but a long-term asthma cure. Roy explains what situations cause asthma and how your body’s supply of adrenaline is affected. By dealing with the true cause of asthma, you can remedy all your asthmatic allergies and symptoms.
(Clip from episode: K4487)
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Quotes regarding asthma and other emotion-driven diseases from Roy Masters’ books:
“Asthma: a disease caused by the draining away of life and breath by the hovering temptation, usually a parent.”
- How to Conquer Suffering Without Doctors
“Fully 80 percent of all illnesses—mental, emotional, and physical—are believed to be emotion-based, including some forms of cancer. Science is certainly on to something, but they are missing a piece of the puzzle that they can never find, simply because the answer lies beyond psychology.”
- How Your Mind Can Keep You Well
“Many diseases and so-called “inherited” illnesses are transferred in a similar way through an emotionally-charged climate in the home. In these cases, there is no genetic transference, although, perhaps, the same genetic weakness may exist. Rather, we select or else we are overwhelmed by the dominant personality—through emotion—and we assume the same identity and habit patterns, thereby setting the stage for the same kind of illness.”
- How to Control Your Negative Emotions
“In the absence of a real fatherly authority, the central characters of a man's life are his mother and his wife—yes, even his sisters. God help the poor little fellow who has too many sisters, grandmothers or aunts. Asthma, bronchitis or leukemia are his miserable lot. If he is "lucky," he gets out of that den of iniquity with homosexuality.
Mother, empowered by the energy of father's failing, passes on the spore of original corruption to the male child's ego; he grows up stress-sensitive and pressure-needful. Then a wife or a mistress steps in, takes over, and completes what happened to him through the guile of his mother.”
- How to Conquer Suffering Without Doctors

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