Episode 35: 5 Tips to Regroup

Hello and Welcome to the podcast; Adventures of a New You

I am your host, Jen Parke a social worker and fellow adventurer!

This is Episode 35 of the podcast and today we are going to chat about: 5 Tips to Regroup

I have been attending a training series for supervisors/ leaders and we have been talking about improving a skill or an area that we struggle with.

The area that I have been working on (trying to work on is patience)

I find that patience is something that I struggle with not just at work but also at home and frankly with myself.

In general there are a lot of areas of our day that require a great deal of patience. Driving in the car, waiting in line, trying to get our kids out the door, and then patience at work well that is another level.

For right now, let’s talk about patience more at home but know that you can carry these ideas over into all of the other areas of your life

One of my biggest triggers is getting out the door in the morning. I start to lose my patience here. First know that I wake up usually around 5:30. I like to have at least an hour to myself before the circus begins. Yes I call it the circus. The minute my eyes open a cat is crying to be fed, sometimes the dog is dancing at the door, other times I have to wake him up. Then I like to try to get all of my stuff done before my son gets up

Some days the second the circus starts I wish myself out of this place. I wish to be somewhere quiet. Somewhere calm. Somewhere that doesn’t have Old Town Road blaring from the bathroom.

Sometimes.

Sometimes I lose my cool.

Listen there are only so many times you can say put your shoes on before you lose your shit. But something that I have been working on is recognizing that I am escalating well before I lose my shit.

This is something that I am working on. The first step for me has been being more self aware. I highly recommend that you check out

Heather Chauvin’s podcast Mom Is In Control Episode #263, Red , Yellow and Green Zones

In this episode she shares a super basic traffic light system that encourages you to be mindful of yourself and how you are feeling. Green is basically that you are calm. Yellow means you are a little on edge and red... well that is when you lose your shit. So absolutely go check that out.

Being more aware has allowed me to just realize when I might be in a yellow zone and very close to teetering into a red zone. By being self aware I can try to prevent going into the red. But guess what we can’t prevent every episode that would push us into red. And honestly it’s ok to get in the red zone sometimes! We are allowed to get upset, we are allowed to get angry.

But now let’s talk about how we can get ourselves out of the red zone.

Now some of these are idea world situations. Not when you are literally trying to race out the door in the morning. But sometimes we need to be able to calm ourselves as we are running out the door because you don’t want to be that crazy mom that is yelling at her kids the whole way to school and then setting everyone up for a crap day. Trust me I have been there... some days are really hard... but you know what is harder? Working through feeling like a shit mom when we lose it.

These are tried and true tactics that I have used when I need to regroup, calm down and get out of the red zone. They are super simple and literally can take just a few minutes.

5 tips to regroup -

1. Get fresh air

2. Eat something&