ADHD reWired

In this episode, Rick Webster returns to the show! Rick has expertise in real-estate, entrepreneurship, and ADHD! He has managed many domains in the financial and real-estate world, and in the last couple of years, he’s put his focus in helping people with ADHD make better peace and better “cents” of their finances. As CEO of Rena-Fi, Rick brings perspective, vision, and passion to an area of life he considers foundational: Personal Money Management. His motto has always been, “It’s not just business; it’s personal.” Eric and Rick share stories about paying the ADHD tax and its larger umbrella, the effects of chronic long-term stress, ways to change self-talk and self-identity to get things done, challenges we may encounter when developing financial habits, the shame we can feel when working on our finances, and forgiving ourselves. Then, Eric and Rick talk about behavioral finance, why money management isn’t just about willpower, the impact of looking upstream, creating reminders and cues, and saying “no” to improve performance. Finally, you’ll hear Eric and Rick talk about maintenance costs, other costs of homeownership, planning for upcoming maintenance, and the three primary reasons why the ADHD tax continues to happen. Learn More about Rick Webster at Other ADHD-tax stories shared on this episode: “I have paid the ADHD tax so many times. I’d love some recommendations on extremely simple/easy budgeting tools. A lot of budgeting books have too many steps.” “I always do my taxes at the last possible minute and don’t know if I do them right, and I always owe a lot.” “Didn’t pay a speeding ticket, license was suspended. Pulled over again - arrested driving with a suspended license. Then, I paid much more than the original speeding ticket for a lawyer, speeding tickets, and additional charges for reinstating my license. “I pay the ADHD tax every day. Paying late-fees, re-buying things I can’t find, spending impulsively, paying for things I’m not using because I didn’t cancel them or forgot to return them in time, expedited shipping because I didn’t order something on-time, ordering take-out because I wasn’t organized enough to have dinner ready, etc. How can I be triggered to think things through at an early enough time that I can follow through in a way that lets me avoid the ADHD tax?” “I’ve paid the ADHD tax on rush-orders. I’ve paid more on expensive repairs to my vehicles/yard equipment/house appliances, instead of the regular preventative maintenance that would’ve prevented the damage in the first place. I have paid out-of-pocket costs for my meds because my insurance lapsed or I never sent in the reimbursement forms for what would be covered if I do the extra steps. How do I know what the preventative maintenance tasks are on my big or expensive things (often appliances)? I feel like I “should” do many of them myself. Would I be paying an ADHD tax by paying people to come do some of these easier tasks for my appliances because they at least know and will at least call me when they are due?” Hear Rick Webster on ! Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

In this episode, Eric is joined by Stephanie Antoine, a self-care and ADHD coach based in California and hails from London with roots in the Caribbean. She spent many years studying meditation and yoga to reduce stress, chronic pain, and to keep things together before finally being diagnosed with ADHD at age 40. In addition to her professional work as a violinist, Stephanie is a qualified teacher of (Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction) from , practiced and trained to teach yoga at the Iyengar Institute of San Francisco and is an ACSM (American College of Sports Medicine) Personal Trainer with an ICF (International Coaching Federation) Coaching Certificate. You’ll hear Stephanie’s experience with burnout, being a mom, overwhelm, and overdoing without enough support. Stephanie also talks about the ways her ADHD showed up in her life and the moments that led her to the path to discovering her ADHD and incorporating meditation in her life. Then, Eric and Stephanie talk about the difficulties and engaging in practicing, and her experience of being a person of color in a very white space. Next, you’ll hear about Stephanie’s experience in straining to relax, why relaxing is necessary, why she was sent to a relaxation class, and the power of pausing. Then, Stephanie and Eric discuss the pressures we face that make it difficult for us to relax, ways to build the muscle of observation, ways that Stephanie overcomes resistance to starting a difficult task, and the importance of curiosity when facing unpleasant or difficult moments and moments of boredom. Finally, you’ll hear about the difference between seeing and looking, meditation, why taking care of oneself is important and why self-care is not selfish. Visit Stephanie’s Website at “We practice ‘practice’, we don’t practice results.” - Phillip Moffitt Other Questions & Topics in this Episode: How did Stephanie experience burnout? What was it like for Stephanie being the only black person in primarily white spaces? Why is it so hard to relax? Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

In this episode, Eric is joined by Sherri, a CEO/executive coach and facilitator who was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 40. Her mission: Equip ADHD leaders to confidently lead by example making every workplace friendlier for all brains. She has led leadership teams, developed programs for diverse organizations around the world. Before turning entrepreneur, Sherri worked at Procter & Gamble where she climbed from a soap sales-rep (yes, bars of soap!) to Southern California district sales manager. Hear Eric and Sherri talk about self-acceptance, imposter syndrome, and her journey into leadership training. You’ll hear about the executive-functioning drain of meetings, Sherri’s suggestions on running better “meetings”, and the importance of fun and communication. It’s about identifying the needs and challenges are, then coming up with processes to fall to in order to do the things you’re wanting to do. Connect with Sherri: Topics & Questions in this Episode: How did Sherri go from selling soap to coaching leaders? What is the importance of self-awareness? How did Sherri’s ADHD diagnosis affect her work work? After the tech-boom, what drew Sherri back into coaching executives? What does it look like to be dialed in with self-awareness? When working with leaders with ADHD, what are some of the common challenges that leaders go to Sherri with? Which struggles are most common? How do we make sure that, when our teams are together, that everybody’s going with, “Yes! That’s what we agreed on!”? How can a leader be constantly increasing self-awareness? What is the importance of feedback? Can there really be 5-minute meetings or conversations? What is the importance of experimentation in leadership? Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Book: Book: “You cannot overstate the importance of having someone believe in you.” - Eric “...Communication is not what’s said, it’s about what’s received.” - Eric “There’s so much gold laying around us all the time as neurodiverse folks!” - Sherri

In this episode, Eric is joined by New York’s Alex Gilbert who is a Mets fan, yogi, and brunch enthusiast. Alex also has dyslexia and ADHD, being diagnosed at 8 years old.. After spending a career working in leadership development, she decided to start a consulting and coaching business that helps adults with learning disabilities and ADHD (just like her!) who have been struggling in their careers. Her business is called “Cape-Able Consulting”, creating it to help people navigate their day-to-day workloads so they feel supported so they can reach their highest potential! You’ll hear how Alex’s experiences in school led to her diagnoses, how she began advocating for herself and finding accommodations that worked for her, and the importance of knowing yourself and what you need before beginning to self-advocate. Then, you’ll hear differences between best practices and best principles, ways to ask for what you need, and why knowing about her ADHD at a young age wasn’t necessarily an advantage. You’ll even hear Eric use one of his own accommodations in real time! Connect with Alex: Website: Facebook: TikTok: Instagram: Other Topics & Questions in this Episode: How did Alex create a program for students to advocate for themselves? How did the self-advocacy skills from school transfer to the workplace? Why is it important to know yourself and your needs before disclosing ADHD? Without disclosing their ADHD, are there any suggestions for an employee to test the water before fully disclosing? How can employers support their employees who are neurodivergent? How can employers draw out their strengths? What does the boss do when they are the ones with ADHD? What was the most valuable accommodation Eric utilized in college? If Alex had a magic wand to turn all workplaces into ADHD-friendly workplaces, what would change? Resources & Honorable Mentions: Hear Alex as a guest on with Brendan Mahan: Discover the ADHD reWired Podcast Family: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin

⭐️ Registration for the Spring Season of Coaching & Accountability Groups is happening now! Go to coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our spring interest list and start your preregistration process! Our next registration event is on Thursday, February 2nd at 12pm Pacific / 3pm Eastern. That's coachingrewired.com to get started! - - - In this episode, Eric is joined by Jamie Walsh. Jamie is a husband, father of 4, and business owner with ADHD. Before coaching, he worked in higher education for 16 years, he earned his B.A. from Providence College and a Masters of Science degree from Boston College. Jamie also completed a certification program for coaching teens and college students with ADHD from JST Coaching and Training. With over 20 years of experience in various school environments, consulting for organizations, as well as his own personal journey, Jamie is passionate about making a difference in the lives of struggling learners and wants to empower clients to believe in themselves. You’ll hear Eric and Jamie talk about shame, resilience, and adulting. Then, you will also hear them engage in a coaching session about impulsivity, emotional regulation, the importance of exercise, rejection sensitivity, and creating routines. Learn more about Jamie: Instagram: @anchor_coaching Website: AnchorADHD.com Jamie’s Linktree for more: Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:13] Jamie shares his story about the impact ADHD had on his life before receiving a diagnosis. [00:04:60] “I changed jobs about every two years.” [00:06:25] Jamie recounts his experience while getting through an ADHD evaluation. [00:08:04] “(ADHD) has nothing to do with your intelligence.” [00:08:24] Eric and Jamie dive into Jamie’s family history of mental health issues and addiction and how it impacted receiving information about ADHD. [00:18:52] Eric and Jamie talk about “making lemons from lemonade” and the power of resilience. [00:20:37] “Being an adult is like trying to fold a fitted sheet” and having a fixed-mindset vs. a growth-mindset. [00:24:15] Jamie and Eric engage in a coaching session and tackle ADHD and ADHD-related challenges. [00:31:08] Eric asks Jamie, “What has been the most beneficial coping strategy that could have a greater impact if you were to do more?” & a deeper dive into scheduling intentions and shifting the mindset around it. [01:04:31] Closing thoughts and Jamie’s favorite quote. Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: JST Coaching & Training Book: Delivered from Distraction Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens ⭐️ Registration for the Spring Season of Coaching & Accountability Groups is happening now! Go to coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our spring interest list and start your preregistration process!