Ep 12: Tell Us What You Want

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02/16/21 • 65 min

"How do I get my partner into swinging?". This is the number one question we receive from listeners. We invited Dr. Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and author of the book "Tell Me What You Want" to join us to talk about sexual fantasies, how to talk to your partner about your fantasies, how to listen (and react) when your partner tells you their fantasies, and how to move forward and act on some of your fantasies.

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Ep 11: Playmates, Playdates, Pressure and Performance

Our first four-way!!! Podcast, that is!

Meet Phoenix Phyre and Crimson Dragonfly - our playmates and quarantine couple - in our round table discussion about playdates, pressure and performance. Together, the four of us share stories and laughs as we discuss the different times we've all felt the pressure to perform for our play partners.

The guys talk about the common reasons they experience performance anxiety and what they do when they can't perform for their partners. The ladies talk about how they experience pressure and performance anxiety too and how they've handled these experiences in the past.

We take a deep dive into the head games and the stories we tell ourselves when things seem to not be going as planned. Then the four of us discuss ways that men and women in the lifestyle can let our play partners know that things aren't going well for us or that our time with that person is over - a tough conversation to have!

And be sure to stay tuned to the outtake at the very, very end ... it's a good one!

Read our most recent blog post here: Tristan's Blog on Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle Show Notes and Resources can be found on the Accidental Swingers website Connect with us on Instagram @AccidentalSwingers Find us on Reddit: Myrina's Profile or Accidental Swingers Profile We're also on Twitter

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Ep 13: Expectations in Swinger Relationships

It was going to be awesome; until it wasn't. We've all done it. Built something up in our minds, just knowing how great the experience is going to be. The excitement. The buildup. The anticipation. And then, it falls apart. Myrina and Tristan share stories of dates that did not go as planned and learn a very valuable lesson in managing their own expectations for relationships they are building with other swinger couples.