#47 - On Inner Child Work and Reparenting

07/23/21 • 88 min

An important theme along the healing and recovery journey is inner child work and re-parenting. In this episode, we dive into childhood attachment theory, introduce the inner child, inner parent and inner adult, as well as the inner child archetypes, and we talk about practical tools of inner child work and the reparenting process.
Who is my inner child and how different is he/she from my inner adult? What does this kind of work have to do with the healing and recovery journey? How can I communicate with my inner child? How can I manage my emotional and sexual triggers using inner child work? These and other questions are discussed in this episode.

Resources used in this episode:
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- Coming Out Straight: Understanding Same-Sex Attraction by Richard Cohen
- Re-Parent Your Inner Child masterclass by DailyOM

Recommended books mentioned in the episode:
- Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
- Recovery of Your Inner Child by Dr. Lucia Capacchione
- Healing the Child Within by Dr. Charles Whitfield
- Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations by John Pollard
- The Inner Child Workbook by Cathryn Taylor
- Recovery from Codependency: It's Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Childhood by Dr. Laurie Weiss and Dr. Jonathan Weiss
- Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci

Sample meditations for connecting with and healing the inner child:
- "Inner Child Meditation" by Dr. Nicole LePera
- "Healing the Inner Child" meditation by Andrew Johnson
- "Inner Child Healing" meditation by Selena Lael
- "Inner Child Healing Meditation: Self Love, Inner Power & Self Worth Affirmations" by Kenneth Soares
- "Inner Child Healing" meditation by Diane Linsley
- "Inner Child Healing" meditation by Oliver Jenkin
- "Healing Inner Child & Emotional Processing Meditation" by Erin Colleen Geraghty

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#46 - On Healing Complex Trauma

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This is part 4 of a four-episode series on understanding the origins and characteristics of complex trauma as well as paving a holistic path of healing.
In this episode, Aadam and I talk about a holistic approach to healing complex trauma using the bio-psycho-social-spiritual model, wrapping up our series on complex trauma.
How do proper nutrition and sleep impact my healing and recovery? What are some grounding techniques that could help me deal with my triggers? How can relationships help me heal my old wounds? Is a spiritual connection a necessary component of the healing process? These and other questions are explored in this episode.
Resources used and mentioned in the episode:
- Video series on complex trauma by Tim Fletcher
- Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection by Dr. Gabor Maté
- The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation by Dr. Stephen Porges
- Anger release scene from the series, "How to Get Away with Murder", played by Viola Davis
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk (main book), and related workbook - Secrets of Divine Love: A Spiritual Journey into the Heart of Islam by A. Helwa
Additional resources:
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
- The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame by Pete Walker
- Forgiveness: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Get on With Your Life by Dr. Sidney Simon and Suzanne Simon
- Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma by Pete Walker
- Polyvagal Safety: Attachment, Communication, Self-Regulation by Dr. Stephen Porges

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#48 - On the Origins of Emotional Attachments and Codependency

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In a series of episodes on emotional attachments, dependency and codependency, my friend Amina joins me to discuss the origins and characteristics of these themes as well as relevant and practical healing and recovery work.
In this episode, we talk about the origins of attachment styles in adulthood, the four styles of adult attachment, and we introduce the topic of codependency. Why am I anxious in my relationships with others? Why am I avoidant of commitment and intimacy? What is codependency and where does it come from? These and other questions are addressed in this episode.
References used and resources mentioned in this episode:
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle
- No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- Ross Rosenberg’s videos on codependency and self-love deficit disorder pyramids
- An explanation of Adult attachment styles

A Way Beyond the Rainbow - #47 - On Inner Child Work and Reparenting

Transcript

Waheed 00:39
Assalamu alaikom wa rahmatullahi ta’ala wa barakatuh, and welcome back to “A Way Beyond the Rainbow”, this podcast series dedicated to Muslims experiencing same-sex attractions who want to live a life true to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and Islam. I'm your host Waheed Jensen, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode.

In the last couple of episodes, Aadam and I dissected the topic of complex trauma: its origins, effects and characteristic