Financial Abuse

10/21/19 • 8 min

Financial Abuse/Control are real! It is an action that makes the abusee feel disrespected, controlled, demeaned and pathetic. Money is an easy tool for the Narcissist to control. We are made to feel that if we don't contribute monetarily than we are worthless and therefore do not deserve the hard earned money of the abuser. If you have children and take care of a home and the agreement is that you stay home then you do work hard each and every day, 24/7 non stop. It should be a partnership, equal. Making the money doesn't make a person more powerful or give them the right to make another inferior.

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There were 4 words I heard from my counselor several years back, "IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!" They hit me in the heart like a brick. Those were some of the strongest, most validating words I had ever heard. May the resonate with you as much as they did myself. That is where tiny minuscule steps of healing began and I hope the same for you! I've attached a short voice clip from a couple of years ago. This is something I started doing about 3 years ago instead of writing in a journal. With life, kids, work there isn't always time to just sit and write so I steal moments when I'm alone...like in my car!

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