A Little Help For Our Friends

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A new year, new you. For the start of 2024, many people want to leave behind unwanted parts of ourselves. Some beliefs can haunt us and hold us back, like "I'm not good enough", "I don't deserve love," or "there is no way I can quit eating these chocolates" (or so we've heard). However, anyone who's tried to just let go of negative beliefs always find that they come back to bite us. In this episode, we discuss evidence-based methods of not letting these beliefs hold you back. We also discuss an innovative new intervention in the form of a reality TV show that probably will make people worse but definitely would be entertaining!
Resources:

• Embracing Your Demons: an Overview of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy​
• Geraerts, E., & McNally, R. J. (2008). Forgetting unwanted memories: Directed forgetting and thought suppression methods. Acta psychologica, 127(3), 614-622.

Support the show

• If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
• Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
• For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
• Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

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Every couple fights sometimes, but what if conflict is the norm in your relationship? High conflict couples tend to fight, shut down, yell, and sometimes even get violent too often. In this episode, we talk to couples therapist and relationship mindset expert Dr. Marina Rosenthal about how high conflict couples can change the way they fight. We talk about the different types of high conflict couples and how to tell if you can save your troubled relationship or need to plan your exit strategy. Dr. Rosenthal also gives us a picture of what hope and healing can look like for a high conflict couple.
***If you are in a relationship with someone struggling with mental or emotional problems, we are building something new to support you at KulaMind. Click here to get early access.
Resources:

• Dr. Marina Rosenthal's website and Instagram
• What The F**k Did You Just Say To Me?!
• Take A Break Guide
• Free Calm Conflict Starter Kit

Support the show

• If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
• Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
• For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
• Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

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Are your parents bad at dealing with difficult emotions? Do they fall apart, ignore, criticize or withdraw when you need them the most? Emotional immaturity in parents causes profound ripple effects through generations, creating patterns many of us don't recognize until we're deep into adulthood. Based on Dr. Lindsay Gibson's model of emotional immaturity, we describe the four distinct types of emotionally immature parents —emotional, driven, passive, and rejecting—and how each type uniquely shapes their children's development.
We explore why this topic has exploded in popularity, tracing it back to historical contexts that shaped how each generation views parenting. When survival is the primary goal, emotional complexity takes a back seat, creating generations of parents who never developed the skills to handle their own emotions, let alone support their children's emotional growth.
When children's own personal growth is stunted by a dysfunctional family, they adopt specific roles as survival mechanisms that often persist into adulthood, limiting their full expression and causing recurring relationship challenges.
Whether you're struggling with an emotionally immature parent or recognizing these patterns in yourself as a parent, we suggest a path toward healing. This path includes awareness, grieving what you didn't receive, exploring yourself beyond your family role, and developing boundaries based on mutual respect rather than obligation.
If you're ready to break free from toxic dynamics with immature parents and discover your authentic self outside of these roles, book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn how she can guide you through your healing journey.

Resources:

• Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult children of emotionally immature parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents. New Harbinger Publications.

Support the show

• If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
• Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
• For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
• Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

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Well, the results are in: Donald Trump is the president of the United States. Again. This election came with a ton of emotions on either side of the political divide. In a world where differing political views often lead to divisive conflicts, how can we bridge the gap and maintain our relationships? In this episode, we take a deep dive into the complex dynamics surrounding support for controversial figures, with a focus on Trump. We tackle the normalization of toxic masculinity and the cognitive dissonance present among his supporters, while also confronting uncomfortable truths about voting patterns among women. Through our discussion, we aim to unravel how cultural and social tensions shape political affiliations. Ultimately, we argue for using our perspective taking and compassion skills to arrive at mutual understanding between parties.
To get support in loving someone with mental illness (like voting for the opposite party as you, haha), join us at KulaMind.
Resources:

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-social-emotional-brain/202410/why-voters-support-trump-despite-his-alleged-misdeeds?amp​

Support the show

• If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
• Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
• For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
• Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

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After this pandemic, it would seem unbelievable that anyone would want to be sick. However, people suffering from Muchausen and Muchausen by proxy intentionally fabricate or exaggerate illness for their own gain. This debilitating and often abusive behavior can have widespread consequences for the individuals, families, and even providers involved. In this episode, we have a conversation with special guests Dr. Marc Feldman, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Alabama and expert in Muchausen, and Andrea Dunlop, an author with personal experiences with Muchausen by proxy. Dr. Feldman and Andrea describe this mind-boggling disorder and its devastating effects on the community.
For more info, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Support the show

• If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
• Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
• For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
• Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends