Overwhelmed with Mom Life and Keeping up a Household, my Husband does Nothing to Help! HELP!

03/30/23 • 39 min

A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast

Succeeding as a mom, wife, and career woman is not easy. Take it from our amazing guest Jessica Gonzales. She shares how the overwhelm landed her in therapy to work through "coming home so frustrated after work everyday, slamming cabinets and giving those I loved most the silent treatment."
She shares practical things that she put in place that helped her and her husband start working as a team. The journey made her realize that her family doesn't need a perfect mom, they just needed a happy mom, and she was more than enough- just as she is.
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I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really.

I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it.

On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?
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I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it.

Previous Episode

How to be the Man your Family Needs, How Divorce Feels from a Child's Perspective

What Your Family Needs From You

Are you struggling to find balance within providing for your family and being present? Do you, as the man of the house, feel pressure to provide in more ways than you feel able to? Are you, as the woman of the house, struggling to understand what your family needs from you? Are changes that come with having kids taking a toll on you? If you answered yes to any of these questions, this episode is where you need to start in your quest for answers.

In the second part to last week's interview, Dan Yeazel shares the very honest reality he had to face, becoming consumed in the circle of success within his job left him missing everything within his home. The desire to achieve more and be able to provide more left his family missing his presence. Realizing he was caught in the trap of success led him to resign and face his truth that he was needed more at home than he was at work. He came to the understanding that his attempt to provide for the good of his family instead left them missing a huge part, him.

“Put balance in your life. Careers, money, will come, jobs will come and go; your family, your kids, will be gone.”

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Next Episode

😳Do you have a Back-Up Plan?

Time to Throw Away Your Back-up Plan

Our guest this week shares that being married young was only the beginning of the obstacles they faced. For her, she always felt as though she needed a “back-up plan.”

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I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really.

I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it.

It wasn’t until about 10 years into their marriage that she had to give it all to the Lord and confront her back-up plan. From then on, her entire mindset around her marriage changed.

The thing is, for anyone who comes from divorced parents, there tends to be this idea that they need a back-up plan. A safety net, if you will. A way to not get hurt.

The motivator for this is almost always to protect themself from hurt. But the reality is, you will never ensure complete protection from pain. Your greatest form of protection comes from the Lord.

"Your back-up plan is hurting you and your spouse."

In this week’s episode I interview Melody Jacobs. A mother of five who is passionate about her marriage, her kids, and seeing women find their potential. We talk all things marriage and what having a “back-up plan” is actually doing to you.

Married for 25 years, Melody and her husband are overflowing with wisdom to share. High school sweethearts, they got married at a young age. When I asked Melody if there was ever a time in her marriage when she didn’t think it’d work out, she replied “yes!”

This week I encourage you to check yourself, do you have a back-up plan for your marriage? Does your spouse? Sometimes the reality is that this back-up plan is in the subconscious. There’s a subconscious need to protect and, until you confront it, your marriage will never reach its full potential.

God is big enough to change your heart, your spouse’s heart, and your marriage. The best thing you can do is align yourself with who the Lord wants you to be. If you do this, when trouble comes in – which it will – you will be centered and unshakeable.

By making it clear you do not have a back-up plan you are bringing stability to your marriage, your household, and even you.