The Grit in Your Oyster: Transforming Conflict into Pearls

What if conflict isn't something to avoid, but rather a doorway to creativity and growth? In this episode, Philippa and Penelope Waller challenge us to transform how we view disagreement in our personal and professional lives.
Most of us instinctively avoid conflict or approach it as a win-lose battle. We've been conditioned to see tension as destructive rather than potentially creative. What if we viewed it as a refreshing alternative: conflict as the spark that ignites innovation and deeper understanding. Like "the grit in your oyster" that eventually produces a pearl, our most uncomfortable moments often lead to our greatest growth.
When working with teams and organisations, Philippa and Penelope explore how conflict signals what needs attention in our relationships and systems. That persistent friction between colleagues? It's rarely about the surface issue – it's the system's way of highlighting deeper needs for recognition, clarity, or fairness. By listening to conflict rather than suppressing it, we access insights that might otherwise remain hidden.
Also how can a understanding of the drama triangle (victim-persecutor-rescuer) make us work towards the winner's triangle (creator-challenger-coach). This powerful framework offers concrete roles we can intentionally adopt to transform unproductive tensions into opportunities for collaboration.
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