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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Rick Clemons

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!
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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 221: Wil Fisher – Embracing your deeper self as a gay man
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04/21/23 • 39 min

Instead of embracing our deeper selves as gay men, we often allow our "rejectionist mentality" to show up and turn that dimmer switch down on our life. But what would happen if you put on your drag face and became fierce to willfully live out loud as a gay man over 40. Guiding us with a open-hearted conversation about being vulnerable and allowing your shame and rejection die so that you can step into you - whether through 1:1 work or group retreats. Are you ready to dive into to your deepest self? Let's go there.

About Wil

Wil Fisher is best known as the host of the “Queerly Beloved” podcast, and as the founder of his life coaching business, WillFully Living. Currently residing in sunny San Diego, Wil offers healing and transformation work through one-on-one coaching, classes, and in-person retreats. Prior to his time is San Diego, Wil lived on the east coast where he received his MA in applied theater from City University of New York, and founded a company called Man Question, which offers theater-based facilitation to help folks explore their relationship to masculinity and manhood. He presented this work to a range of audiences from college universities to men at a maximum-security prison. His final acts before leaving the east coast included serving as the Executive Director of Easton Mountain, an LGBTQ Spiritual Retreat Center, and performing his solo show, "Of and On Again" a story about his relationship with gender and his drag alter ego.

Heart Live Retreat

Hearts Live! A retreat for GBTQ men on August 11-14th in California. Hearts Alive is a retreat for like-minded GBTQ men to come together, away from their default worlds, to reflect on their lives, connect with their hearts, do some powerful transformational work and boldly step into a more expressed and authentic version of themselves. We’ll look at the areas of our lives where we aren’t showing up in the most aligned ways and we’ll discover strategies to shift that. Our time together will be nourishing and joyful as we playfully grow connections with each other and form loving, heart-centered community.

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Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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It's a charged world these days. From politics to religion. Even in our own gay world. It seems that from the apps to even in person meetings, we throw shade at each other without exercising empathy and understanding. Yet what happens when you to take a second look? When we slow down and exercise empathy and understanding, rather than staying in your apathetic ways of being in your beliefs and only your beliefs? That's what we're exploring today with the host of Second Sunday podcast, Darren Calhoun. He's an open-minded explorer teaching how we can all be more open and understanding to one another from the pulpit to the ballot box. In this provocative episode:
  • We explore apathy and empathy and how to become more of the latter
  • Learn how to utilize the pause in all situations
  • Uncover the means for seeing each other as gay men for who we truly are

About Darren

Darren Calhoun (he/him) is a justice advocate, worship leader, and artist based out of Chicago. He works to bridge connections between people of differing perspectives through story and relationship. Darren brings with him an intentional focus on communities being inclusive as an authentic reflection of God’s love and justice. Lastly, Darren is a neurodivergent extrovert who loves hugs.

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Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies
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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 190: The New Masculine For Gay Men – Travis Stock
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09/16/22 • 43 min

What does it mean to be masculine? Who defines it? What does it matter? These are all the big questions we're asking on 40 Plus: Gay Man, Gay Talk Podcast today with fellow Life Coach Travis Stock. He brings his own unique insights into the world of masculinity into play to make you go, "Hmmm? What does masculinity really mean?"

About Travis

Travis helps you find what creates balance in your life by first seeking acceptance of what is. He helps you connect to your truth in the moment, so that it becomes clearer how to be in alignment with your personal, professional, and relationship goals. He doesn't claim to know all the answers, nor do he feel fit to give you advice for your life. But that is directly in line with his coaching philosophy: You actually have all the answers! Don't trust that? Good, he likes the challenge of connecting you to your own wisdom! One of his favorite areas to explore is the balance between masculine and feminine energies in each of us, regardless of gender, and he believes in the importance of nurturing a relationship with both types of energy to create a sense of wholeness. Some other areas he is fascinated by include emotions, the LGBT community, transformation of trauma and shame, interpersonal relationships, the divine masculine, and living open-heartedly.

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Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - Making Multigenerational Work Environments Work - Adam Lippin
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10/25/19 • 19 min

Imagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to the Gen Z's and Millennials but it is a constant struggle. And, while that's all happening, you want to learn from them and want them to learn from you, but man that generational gap can be really a challenge. So what's a guy to do?

Startup founder of the HearMe.app, Adam Lippin works with a team of 19-25 yr old's where he feels challenged to check his own insecurities of being over 50 and and a "tech leader" in an industry that worships young entrepreneurs. How do he face it with bravery and curiosity? What can he learn, be open to, and what does he just need to accept in the face of ageism (real or perceived)? We explore all of this today.

About Adam

Adam believe deeply in the transformative power of authentic communication. He has founderd and is the CEO of two emotional wellnescompanies that directly address this. Hearme.app and Cuddlist.com

Hearme.app gives you instant access to confidential trained Listeners who can help you work through your problems, get unstuck, share your feelings or just renew your faith in humanity. Get a real connection and someone to talk/text/video chat with just when you need it.

Cuddlist: We are the leader in the emerging field of Trust Based TouchTM in the Health Care/Wellness field. Cuddlist has been featured in Forbes, NY Times, Fox News, Cheddar, Washington Post among hundreds of publications.

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Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.

Take the Unapologetic Life Assessment - Click Here, and stop playing it safe.

For a real, deep-dive, one-to-one coaching session where we make things happen to get you out of your own way, check out my "Your Next Move" Strategy Session. Check it out - Click Here!

Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 198: Up Your Cocksmanship – Susan Bratton
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11/11/22 • 58 min

Sex, sex, sex. That's all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age...or does it? Intimacy expert, Susan Bratton joins me today for a very candid, raw, sexual chat about everything sexual and how to take care of your cock, balls, and masculine energy around sex. Jump on boys, this is one you won't soon forget.

About Susan

Susan Bratton "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She is co-founder and CEO of two corporations: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills and The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. A best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. Susan has been featured in the New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY Show. She makes frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC.

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Hey Guys, Check This Out!

Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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When life hands you lemons, you go camping, even if you didn't think you liked camping. Inspired by his journey of recovering from divorce and an abusive relationship, Author Upton Rand shares how he found peace and a path forward even when his life was at it's darkest moments. In his books, Upton blends humor with heartfelt experiences as he recounts hilarious misadventures—from wrestling with uncooperative tents to witnessing drag queens having dance-offs with confused deer. Along the way, he also shares valuable insights into the LGBTQ+ camping community and promotes health, wellness, and safe outdoor experiences. In this exciting episode with Upton Rand, you’ll discover:
  • How he overcame social anxiety and found his way back to living boldly.
  • The powerful lesson he's learned about embracing mistakes and turning them into growth.
  • How he developed a "step through and keep going" mentality that keeps him moving forward, no matter what.

Tune in for a dose of inspiration, laughter, and practical advice to take on life with confidence!

About Upton

Upton Rand is an adventurer, storyteller, and the author of “Gay Campgrounds: The Ultimate Gay Camping Travel Guide.” Blending humor with heartfelt experiences, Upton’s book is part travel guide, part hilarious memoir, capturing the wild and wonderful world of gay camping. He shares misadventures that range from wrestling uncooperative tents to witnessing drag queens having dance-offs with confused deer, all while providing valuable insights into the LGBTQ+ camping community. A passionate advocate for health and wellness, Upton is committed to promoting safe and informed experiences within the community. He’s a strong supporter of PrEP and the U=U movement (Undetectable = Untransmittable), breaking down important research in an accessible and entertaining way within his book. Additionally, a portion of his book sales is donated to the Cleveland AIDS Task Force, reflecting his dedication to giving back. Whether he’s encouraging a generation to step away from dating apps and reconnect face-to-face or sharing laughter-filled anecdotes from his journeys, Upton brings warmth, humor, and inspiration to every conversation.

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Hey Guys, Check This Out!

Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies
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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 192: Combating “Button Pushing” Syndrome – Rick Clemons
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09/30/22 • 10 min

We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true, but we should have a way to combat that, right? No matter where you are in your station in life, people are going to get under your skin, and sometimes it will harbor there for weeks and months on end. I know, and I am sharing first-hand how to combat this "button pushing" syndrome in real time, with real issues, so that you can find real peace of mind.

Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats

The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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Mindset, mindset, mindset. It seems to be all we hear about these days. So it's either a crock of crap, or a load of wisdom. The latter seems to be more spot on for us guys over 40. With the pressures of work, health, family life or being single, and the drive to be successful, it's our mindset that can either make or break us.

Coach Tomi Dagan joins me today to explore why men don't allow shifting their mindset to be a key critical factor when the crap of life gets in their way. You'll learn two critical questions to ask yourself to help shift the shit of life. And, trust us when we say, this wisdom will only come to you when you are ready to receive it.

About Tomi

Tomi is a result-oriented coach who brings compassion, patience, and lots of support! His clients experience impactful change, feel more confident, energized, and motivated to overcome hardships they are dealing with. His clients break old habits, adopt new forward-leading behaviors, improve confidence and self-efficacy, and get EXCITED about life again!

UC Berkeley Alumni -Trained and Certified Coach ICF, ILCC. Tomi has worked with hundreds of clients from all over the world. He loves people and is eager to help as many people as he can to live a happier more exciting life!

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Hey Guys, Check This Out!

Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.

Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about about - Click Here!

Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 063: When Opposites No Longer Attract – Michael Testa
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03/06/20 • 20 min

There are those life moments when you realize, "This just isn't working!" For some it's when they realize, "I'm gay and I just gotta stop pretending to be straight." For others, its "I'm killing myself trying to carry this team and I hate it." Regardless of the situation, suddenly you realize the opposite of what you thought you wanted, desired, or are trying to be is no longer attractive. And, that's when the real talk starts...with yourself and others.

Michael Testa, author of When Opposites No Longer Attract, shoots straight with us about discovering and using those empowering moments to move yourself into your destiny in a whole new way.

About Michael

Mr. Michael J. Testa is a cum laude graduate of the University of Pittsburgh and a 34-year veteran of the Information Technology industry with 23 years in Information Technology staffing and recruiting. In addition to his career in Information Technology staffing and recruiting, Mr. Testa has experience in IT software development and management in banking, manufacturing, distribution, and public utilities. He has worked for Mellon Bank (BNY Mellon), Fisher Scientific (ThermoFisher Scientific), and KCS Computer Services Inc. In 1997, Mr. Testa formed Testa Consulting Services, Inc. (Testa). Testa has become a leader in the Information Technology staffing industry and is a longstanding member of the Pittsburgh Technology Council and the TechServe Alliance.

Mr. Testa is the immediate past president of Equality Pennsylvania and a former board member of TechServe Alliance and PBS station, WQED. In 2009, Mr. Testa created GLEC Pittsburgh, a professional LGBT networking group. In 2018, he was one of the founders of the Three Rivers Business Alliance (3RBA), which is a subchapter of the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce(NGLCC). (GLEC Pittsburgh has since merged into 3RBA.)

Mr. Testa is a proud father of two sons. He recently authored a book about his coming out experience called “When Opposites No Longer Attract.”

Connect With Michael

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Hey Guys, Check This Out!

Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.

Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!

Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. - 094: Being Better Beings – Michelle Zellner
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10/09/20 • 28 min

How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've also learned that the pursuit of better doesn't have to be drudgery, especially when it comes to taking better care of myself.

My friend Michelle Zellner, founder of Better Beings, is joining me today to dish out some better being advice for us guys. Yes, we've got a woman in the house and she's got some good stuff to share. Throw out our judgments, come with the mindset of being better and let's have some real talk for real men.

About Michelle

Through a combination of personal coaching, corporate training, and public speaking, Michelle has personally informed, influenced, and inspired thousands on their journeys to becoming better beings. Drawing on her 23+ years in the industry and her advanced degrees in wellness related education, she recently released her book, The YOU Revolution: the Journey of a Better Being, sharing her proven, practical strategies for true lifestyle change with an even wider audience.

Michelle Zellner Better Minds + Better Bodies = Better Beings The seeds for Michelle’s wellness career were planted at age seven, when she excelled as a competitive gymnast. Her childhood experiences led her to the University of Hawaii, where she studied study psychology and nutrition, followed by a Master’s in Kinesiology from C.U. Boulder and a Personal Trainer Certification. Today, Michelle continues to learn and lead in all areas of fitness, nutrition, mind-body practices, and overall well-being, cultivating her passion to for connecting with people and facilitating lasting lifestyle change.

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Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.

Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about about - Click Here!

Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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How many episodes does 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. have?

40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. currently has 313 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Podcasts and Sexuality.

What is the most popular episode on 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.?

The episode title '128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. is 27 minutes.

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Episodes of 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. are typically released every 7 days.

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The first episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. was released on May 15, 2019.

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