63. Femme Domme (aka: I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it)

In this episode, Ams and Kat take control in the bedroom by exploring domination, including an interview with professional Dominatrix, Queen Lo.

A Dominatrix, or Femme Domme, a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control?

But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Rosemary Grapefruit Fizz, while Ams shares her Hot Tale: during the Barbarella-themed house party, Ams slips away with six of her favorite guys for a seven-minute, Alien Abduction role play.

Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with dominating partners in bed. Kat loves the clothes and the overall vibe of being in charge, but Ams, a submissive, struggles with channeling her dominant self.

To learn more about Femme Domme, the Wives interview professional dominatrix, Queen Lo.

Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, setting up power play scenes with the Misters.

ABOUT QUEEN LO

Queen Lo is a professional dominatrix and host of the podcast “Thy Queendom Come,” which provides an honest (and often hilarious) look at sexuality and power dynamics in the bedroom and beyond. She works with clients online from her home in the tropics and in person through tours and custom sessions, specializing in teaching men the power of sacred submission. Visit her online at thyqueendom.com for more information and to get in touch.

WANT TO BOOK A SESSION WITH A PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX?

When discussing a power play scene with a dominatrix, it's essential to ensure clear communication and establish boundaries to make the experience safe and enjoyable for both you and your partner. Here are some questions you might consider asking:

1. Experience and Approach:
   • How long have you been practicing BDSM, particularly as a dominatrix?
   • What is your approach to creating and executing power play scenes?
   • Can you provide examples of previous scenes you've facilitated?
2. Limits and Boundaries:
   • How do you establish and respect boundaries during a power play scene?
   • What are your hard limits, and are there any activities you won't engage in?
   • How do you handle it if either participant feels uncomfortable during the scene?
3. Communication:
   • How do you encourage open communication before, during, and after a scene?
   • Do you have a safe word system in place, and how does it work?
   • Are there any specific questions you suggest partners discuss before engaging in a power play scene?
4. Safety and Consent:
   • What measures do you take to ensure physical and emotional safety during a scene?
   • How do you verify consent throughout the scene?
   • What steps do you take to mitigate risks associated with BDSM activities?
5. Preparation and Aftercare:
   • How should partners prepare for a power play scene mentally and physically?
   • What does aftercare typically involve, and how do you support participants during this phase?
   • Are there any potential psychological or emotional effects partners should be aware of?
6. Customization and Preferences:
   • How do you tailor power play scenes to meet the preferences and comfort levels of each participant?
   • Can partners request specific elements or scenarios to be included in the scene?
   • Are there any particular dynamics or roles you specialize in, or can accommodate?
7. Logistics and Practicalities:
   • Where do sessions typically take place, and what amenities or equipment are available?
   • How long do sessions usually last, and what is the scheduling process like?
   • What are your policies regarding confidentiality and privacy?
8. Education and Resources:
   • Do you offer resources or educational materials for partners new to BDSM or power play scenes?
   • Are there any workshops or community events you recommend for further learning?

Remember, open and honest communication is key when discussing BDSM activities, especially when exploring power dynamics. It's essential to prioritize safety, trust, and mutual respect throughout the process.

MORE FEMME DOMME RESOURCES

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