2HotWives - A Girl's Guide to Unconventional Sex

In this episode, Ams and Kat take control in the bedroom by exploring domination, including an interview with professional Dominatrix, Queen Lo.

A Dominatrix, or Femme Domme, a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control?

But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Rosemary Grapefruit Fizz, while Ams shares her Hot Tale: during the Barbarella-themed house party, Ams slips away with six of her favorite guys for a seven-minute, Alien Abduction role play.

Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with dominating partners in bed. Kat loves the clothes and the overall vibe of being in charge, but Ams, a submissive, struggles with channeling her dominant self.

To learn more about Femme Domme, the Wives interview professional dominatrix, Queen Lo.

Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, setting up power play scenes with the Misters.

ABOUT QUEEN LO

Queen Lo is a professional dominatrix and host of the podcast “Thy Queendom Come,” which provides an honest (and often hilarious) look at sexuality and power dynamics in the bedroom and beyond. She works with clients online from her home in the tropics and in person through tours and custom sessions, specializing in teaching men the power of sacred submission. Visit her online at thyqueendom.com for more information and to get in touch.

WANT TO BOOK A SESSION WITH A PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX?

When discussing a power play scene with a dominatrix, it's essential to ensure clear communication and establish boundaries to make the experience safe and enjoyable for both you and your partner. Here are some questions you might consider asking:

1. Experience and Approach:
   • How long have you been practicing BDSM, particularly as a dominatrix?
   • What is your approach to creating and executing power play scenes?
   • Can you provide examples of previous scenes you've facilitated?
2. Limits and Boundaries:
   • How do you establish and respect boundaries during a power play scene?
   • What are your hard limits, and are there any activities you won't engage in?
   • How do you handle it if either participant feels uncomfortable during the scene?
3. Communication:
   • How do you encourage open communication before, during, and after a scene?
   • Do you have a safe word system in place, and how does it work?
   • Are there any specific questions you suggest partners discuss before engaging in a power play scene?
4. Safety and Consent:
   • What measures do you take to ensure physical and emotional safety during a scene?
   • How do you verify consent throughout the scene?
   • What steps do you take to mitigate risks associated with BDSM activities?
5. Preparation and Aftercare:
   • How should partners prepare for a power play scene mentally and physically?
   • What does aftercare typically involve, and how do you support participants during this phase?
   • Are there any potential psychological or emotional effects partners should be aware of?
6. Customization and Preferences:
   • How do you tailor power play scenes to meet the preferences and comfort levels of each participant?
   • Can partners request specific elements or scenarios to be included in the scene?
   • Are there any particular dynamics or roles you specialize in, or can accommodate?
7. Logistics and Practicalities:
   • Where do sessions typically take place, and what amenities or equipment are available?
   • How long do sessions usually last, and what is the scheduling process like?
   • What are your policies regarding confidentiality and privacy?
8. Education and Resources:
   • Do you offer resources or educational materials for partners new to BDSM or power play scenes?
   • Are there any workshops or community events you recommend for further learning?

Remember, open and honest communication is key when discussing BDSM activities, especially when exploring power dynamics. It's essential to prioritize safety, trust, and mutual respect throughout the process.

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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Tantric Sex.

Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual and philosophical tradition that originated in ancient India. Tantric sex is the practice of using Tantric principles, such as mindfulness, breathwork and energy connection, to sexual experiences.

But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Hot Buttered Cider.

Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams, Mr. Ams and their friends have a grown-up sleepover, complete with Seven Minutes in Heaven: mini-threesomes while one person watches and keeps time.

Next, Ams and Kat explore Tantric principles and past experiences with mindful sex.

To learn more about Tantric Sex, the Wives interview author and educator Barbara Carrellas.

Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including solo tantra work, breath and energy orgasms and all-day sex sessions.

MORE ABOUT TANTRA

The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra:

• Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality.
• Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies.
• Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection.
• Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies.
• Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth.
• Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization.
• Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things.

Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years. Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstacy as opposed to orgasm.

ABOUT BARBARA

She is also a sex/life coach, sex educator, workshop facilitator, university lecturer, motivational speaker and theater artist. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure.

https://barbaracarrellas.com/barbara-carrellas/

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In this episode, Ams and Kat report back on their sexy homework with Femme Domme power play.

A Femme Domme is a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control?

But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pie Float, while Kat shares her Hot Tale: The Kats take a trip to Desire Riviera Maya in Mexico where they meet up with Mr. Kat's Doppleganger. Twi Mr. Kat's at once?!?! That's too sexy by half!

Next, Ams and Kat report back on their Femme Domme Power Play experiences. Ams researched different types of dominant personas to come up with her own version of Femme Domme: more Mommy Goddess than Dominatrix. She also learned that you can separate Dominant/submissive from Top and Bottom, so that she could boss partners around in bed, while using as little energy as possible (in typical Ams fashion!) While Kat set up a 24/7 experience with Mr. Kat involving impact play, worship, discipline and just a touch of humiliation. Oh! And somebody got pegged, but you will have to tune in to find out.

Finally, the Wives just listeners Just the Tips on how to set up your own Femme Domme experience.

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Pornography, focusing on ethical porn and feminist porn.

Pornography is sexual content designed to arouse, and let's face it, pornography is everywhere. If you've written off pornography as not your thing, check out this episode for a fresh, feminist take on porn.

But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why not try this Canna-cocktail, the the Lemon Blackberry Mule.

Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams gets the best birthday present from Mr. Ams, a year of monthly MFM threesomes! Listen in for what happened in February.

Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with pornography: what they have liked and what's a little bit "ick".

To learn more about Pornography, the Wives interview producer and director, Inka Winter, owner of ForPlay Films.

Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including exploring new genres of porn and using porn for play dates and foreplay.

MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY

The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation.

Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:

1. Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production.
2. Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions.
3. Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes.
4. Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives.
5. Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed.

Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity.

Key features of feminist pornography may include:

1. Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified.
2. Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires.
3. Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal.
4. Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure.
5. Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera.

Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating.

It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another.

If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities.

ABOUT INKA WINTER

Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films. Her films

titillate the senses through sexual chemistry, consent, autonomy, and the female gaze.

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How did the Wives do with their sexy pornography homework? Tune in to find out.

But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Cherry Blossom Smash: a yummy combination or cherries and blood orange juice with just a dash of cannabis tincture. Sip on this delicious cocktail listening to this episode's Hot Tale: the Wives host a Barbarella-themed house party and they get up to no good, with flogging, blindfolded kissing, eight-handed massages, and more!

Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: who's ready for a week-long, porn-o-thon? The Wives were so inspired by the hot, female empowered pornography, they start making plans to create their own..

Finally, the Wives give their tips on finding porn that feels female empowered and ethical.

MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY

The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation.

Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:

1. Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production.
2. Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions.
3. Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes.
4. Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives.
5. Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed.

Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity.

Key features of feminist pornography may include:

1. Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified.
2. Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires.
3. Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal.
4. Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure.
5. Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera.

Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating.

It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another.

If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities.

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