2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
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TSSH 38 - Healing Breadcrumbs To Nibble On 🍞🦜 (Featured Guest: Carol Campos)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
06/03/20 • 40 min
For years (actually decades!) Carol didn’t know what she wanted to do. She had been working in the corporate world for over 20 years, most recently in a leadership role at a Fortune 5 company.
Although she worked hard and was consistently recognized and promoted, she somehow knew that she was meant to do something different. she felt stuck in a life that didn’t fit.
In early 2018, she left her corporate job and made the leap into the unknown. After doing months of intense inner work with her coach, Michael Sandler, and reconnecting to her higher wisdom, she discovered that she could combine her life and business experience with her soul-aligned interests. She knew she had a talent for building thriving, productive teams and helping people to see their unique strengths and gifts, but it took a while for her Soul-aligned purpose to emerge
She became the creator and Co-founder of The Divine Breadcrumb, a global online community and podcast, which showcases amazing people shining their light around the world. She started writing a blog to share her own story. These are things she couldn’t have imagined a few years ago. But as often is the case, the Universe had an even bigger plan for her than she had for herself.
She is now a certified Inspire Nation coach, focusing on awareness, empowerment & transition. She helps her clients to clear old patterns & beliefs, connect to their heart intelligence, re-wire the mind and discover meaning and purpose. It’s when we do this inner work that we can move forward towards our goals with confidence.
Her Soul knew what she would be doing long before she did, and she is grateful that she followed the Divine map that was laid out before her.
She loves traveling, exploring new cultures, being in nature and helping people on their own paths. She holds a B.A. in Communications from Hofstra University. She lives in Massachusetts with her rambunctious and hilarious rescue cats, Petey and Emmett.

TSSH 37 - REAL - actually existing in fact; not imagined - True Self & False Self
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
06/01/20 • 12 min
A false self is created as an adaptation to emotionally ignorant and immature parents who selfishly wallowed in self-unawareness and project their needs and misery onto an infant rather than reflecting the infant's actual moods. Simply put, the false self is not real. It is the disconnected self. You do not naturally belong here or anywhere and you use defense mechanisms and search for all the wring ways to fill up your emptiness. The True Self is characterized by inner peace, acceptance and deep contentment. It’s okay, right here, right now
My parents were toxic, selfish, greedy, fragile and inconsistent. I was unnaturally and unhealthily attuned to their demands, sensing that I had to comply in order to be loved and tolerated; I had to be false before I had the chance to feel properly alive. And as a result, many years later, without knowing why, I felt dead inside. I now know I was forced to comply far too early; I was obedient at the expense of my ability to be authentic.
The false-self thought and behavior patterns stayed with me as an adult. While they used to be helpful when I was young, this toxic thought process and negative behavior patterns was an not only an obstacle to inner peace and spiritual fulfillment but actually slowly killed me from the inside out.
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TSSH 36 - Comfortably Miserable
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
05/15/20 • 14 min
Season 3 Episode 3
Our brains overreact when facing uncertainty because they’re wired to react to it with fear. Research has shown that as the uncertainty of scenarios increase, the subjects’ brains shifted control over to the limbic system, the place where emotions, such as anxiety and fear, are generated. This brain quirk worked great eons ago, when cavemen encountered a woolly mammoth. Overwhelming caution and fear ensured survival. But that’s not the case today. This mechanism, which hasn’t evolved, is a hindrance in the world of business, where uncertainty rules and important decisions must be made every day with minimal information.
If you google antonyms for the word “uncertainty”, these are some of what comes up – trust, self-confidence, positivity and patience. We have all heard over and over that people are creatures of habit. It doesn't seem to matter whether those habits are good for us or bad for us; they provide comfort. I held such a tight death-grip on everything is because I was afraid if I let go, things won't be okay. Survivors of emotional abuse and neglect are terrified of abandonment and will hold on tightly to anything in order not to re-experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with broken people who were never there emotionally for us.
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TSSH 35 - human DOings & human BEings
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
05/08/20 • 12 min
Season 3 Episode 2 - human DOings & human BEings
Doing more, constantly putting myself out there, saying yes to every opportunity, cradling every tangible and intangible experience like a an Olympic medal...I believed these things will get me exposure, accolades, recognition and sales...but in reality they brought on stress, depression, frustration, more emptiness and anxiety.
When we conduct our lives from a place of being rather than doing, we accept uncertainty and don’t focus on self-protection. When we plan, organizing every step and making sure we’ve covered all bases, fear drives that. Real fear comes from wanting to protect ourselves instead of wanting to let go.
I had it backwards and found out it takes more courage to trust the process and let things happen the way they are supposed to.
I was conditioned to DO for acceptance and validation from when I was a baby. That’s how I got noticed and seen. Not for who I was (or who I was being). The result, over time, was a total disconnection from my soul/spirit and living a life from the outside in - virtually guaranteeing multiple mental health issues.
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TSSH 34 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: anger)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
04/24/20 • 10 min
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Anger. I used to be angry...most of the time. I have a mother, father and stepfather with various personality disorders who erratically switch back and forth from being overly demanding or callously indifferent. I was set up for a life of no confidence, perpetual sadness masked by raged and an addiction to results and outcomes. I carried terrible shame of coming from people who didn’t give me the attention I needed and deserved – as all young children do. Throughout adulthood, the occasional flashbacks and anxiety attacks seemed to never end. And neither did questioning my ability to be a good mother. I was constantly in fear of not being strong enough to break the cycle of abuse.
When you have a temper like I used to, it is difficult to admit there's a problem. I would go from zero to 100 too often. I would snap, freak out, feel guilty and repeat that cycle. I was a boiling kettle with nowhere for the steam to go. If a kettle has no way to release steam, it explodes...like I used to. Looking back, I wish I had more self-control but at the time it seemed impossible to change. I saw my anger as a genetic flaw that I had to put up with along with the negative consequences that always followed my tantrums.
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TSSH 33 - The ART of Healing Creatively 🎨🖌(Featured Guest: Jennifer Pazienza)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
04/21/20 • 38 min
Season 3 | Episode 1. This is an AMAZING STORY.
Jennifer Pazienza lives on Keswick Ridge in New Brunswick, Atlantic Canada and creates poetic and contemplative paintings.
"Since I was young, the natural world has been my haven for refuge and renewal. A compelling feature in my work is what’s not there - most especially humans. I want people to visually step into my paintings to explore and outfit them with experiences from their own lives. Through art I express my regard for connection, healing and love".
Jennifer lost both of her parents when she was very young and not only is she a survivor of emotional abuse and sexual abuse, but she is also a healer and a thriver.
Jennifer proves that "it doesn't matter how you start, it's how you finish".
Links to Jennifer's work:
https://www.instagram.com/jenniferpazienza/
https://www.jenniferpazienza.com/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xb9WOTpLfI4&feature=youtu.be
http://www.theartistnextlevel.com/creating-new-art-opportunities-with-jennifer-pazienza-podcast-185/
What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral

TSSH 32 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Triggers)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
04/17/20 • 11 min
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Triggers. What are emotional triggers? They are those super-reactive places inside you that become activated by someone else’s behaviors or comments. When triggered, you may either withdraw emotionally and simply feel hurt or angry or respond in an aggressive way that you will probably regret later. Your reaction is so intense because you’re defending against a painful feeling that has surfaced. Your emotional triggers are wounds that need to heal. These beliefs are based on fears—they are not reality. You don’t want to be frequently triggered. It is exhausting and painful, especially for highly sensitive and empathic people.I used to have a very short fuse – my temper reflected a problem with emotional triggers. Emotional triggers can be anything - people, words, opinions, situations that suddenly provoke an intense, uncontrollable emotional reaction within us.
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TSSH 31 - Nothing good comes from SHOULD 👍👎👈
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
04/13/20 • 35 min
Season 2 Episode 10. Should statements give you two options: you pass or you fail–when in reality, life is much more complex than that. And when we don’t meet the expectations that these “should demands” set up for us, we feel guilty, we feel shame, and we feel like we aren’t living up to our potential. As I’ve become more interested in healing and getting rid of toxic behaviors, I have learned how destructive the word “should” is. It’s a word rooted in negativity, guilt, and pressure. The word makes you basically feel the same way as you felt when your parents ignored you, minimized you, controlled you and criticized you. When I told other people they should or shouldn’t do something, I wasn’t respecting their boundaries or their ability to make the best decisions for themselves. I now know using the word should does not come from an authentic and fulfilled place. Should comes from guilt. When we say we should do something, it’s another way of expressing that whatever we’ve chosen to do isn’t enough. Should is critical. It creates pressure. And breeds insecurity. "Should" statements can be impacting your struggle with panic, anxiety, and depression. Should is judgmental. While should is a bad word to use with regard to our own actions, it’s equally dangerous to use when directed at others. When we tell others what they should do, we are judging them as harshly as we are judging ourselves.
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TSSH 30 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: setting boundaries)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
04/09/20 • 13 min
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Setting boundaries. Most people who have weak personal boundaries had no role models when they were young. Witnessing narcissistic and codependent dynamics that probably goes back generations contributes to us believing that love = what we did, not who we were. Boundaries are like an invisible shield or fence around you. It’s a line you set for yourself and others that separates you from others and their influence. Boundaries are a measure of self-esteem. They limit the ability of toxic people being too comfortable criticizing, controlling and manipulating you and are important mental, emotional, and physical walls that protect us being used and exploited by toxic people. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill I had to learn. A main characteristic of narcissists is that they have no regard for personal boundaries. They violate boundaries at will with no thought or concern of how the other person feels. Children of narcissists, like me, bullied and frustrated. On my healing journey I learned about setting boundaries with people, and with my own mother. I gave up trying toxic behaviors driven by the unconscious goal that she will magically transform in to a loving person. I stopped my exhaustive, futile attempts at pleasing her.

TSSH 39 - Come Heal With Highwater 💧(Featured Guest: Annie Highwater)
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)
06/15/20 • 45 min
Annie Highwater is a Writer, Speaker, Podcast Host and Family Advocate. She has a particular interest in family pathology and concepts of dysfunction, addiction, alcoholism and conflict. Annie published her memoir, Unhooked: A Mother's Story of Unhitching from the Roller Coaster of Her Son's Addiction, in 2016.
Annie's Mission: There are more people affected by addiction than addicted. My mission is to promote healthy dialogue and to offer support, information and hope to the stressed out, affected family, partners and friends (the “entourage”) of those in the grips of addiction, alcoholism and SUD. I believe no one should have to go through it alone.
https://www.facebook.com/AnnieUnhooked/
https://anchor.fm/annie-highwater
http://anniehighwater.com/about/
https://www.amazon.com/Annie-Highwater/e/B01M7RVC7D%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Other than being known as "Elliot's Mom," Annie Highwater is a long distance runner, health and wellness advocate and a fanatical researcher of behavioral science, family pathology and concepts of dysfunction and conflict. Annie resides in Columbus, Ohio where she has worked in the insurance industry. She also enjoys writing, yoga and visiting her son in Southern California as often as possible.
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How many episodes does 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) have?
2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) currently has 78 episodes available.
What topics does 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) cover?
The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Ptsd, Empathy, Psychology, Mental Health, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education, Fear, Trauma and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)?
The episode title 'TSSH 38 - Healing Breadcrumbs To Nibble On 🍞🦜 (Featured Guest: Carol Campos)' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)?
The average episode length on 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) is 29 minutes.
How often are episodes of 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) released?
Episodes of 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) are typically released every 6 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here)?
The first episode of 2 Trauma Queens (formerly The Stuck Stops Here) was released on Oct 16, 2019.
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