173: Lessons from Failure: Growing as a Dad- Zach & Jeremy

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10/07/24 • 55 min

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Young Dad Podcast

"Consistency is key in parenting."

"Allow yourself room to fail."

"Men are taught to just be fine."

In this episode of the Young Dad Podcast, host Jey is joined by Jeremy and Zach to discuss the importance of consistency in parenting, the challenges of failure, and the stigma surrounding men's mental health. They emphasize the need for fathers to be present, embrace vulnerability, and learn from their mistakes. The conversation also touches on the significance of seeking help and the value of open communication in relationships. The episode concludes with practical advice for new dads on how to navigate the early stages of fatherhood with grace and understanding.

Takeaways

Consistency is crucial for effective parenting.

It's important to allow yourself room to fail.

Men often feel pressured to suppress their emotions.

Being present with your children creates lasting memories.

Vulnerability can foster deeper connections with others.

Failure is a part of the learning process.

Men's mental health struggles are often stigmatized.

Open communication is essential for emotional well-being.

Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Parenting is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and October Updates

02:16 The Power of Consistency in Fatherhood

05:34 Being Present: The Key to Quality Time

11:49 Embracing Failure: A Path to Growth

18:44 Stripping Away the Illusion of Perfection

25:16 Quantity of Time: The Birthplace of Quality Moments

27:07 Embracing Vulnerability and Failure

32:06 The Other Side of Fear

40:00 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

43:50 Turning Vulnerability into Strength

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"Consistency is key in parenting."

"Allow yourself room to fail."

"Men are taught to just be fine."

Takeaways

Consistency is crucial for effective parenting.

It's important to allow yourself room to fail.

Men often feel pressured to suppress their emotions.

Being present with your children creates lasting memories.

Vulnerability can foster deeper connections with others.

Failure is a part of the learning process.

Men's mental health struggles are often stigmatized.

Open communication is essential for emotional well-being.

Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Parenting is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and October Updates

02:16 The Power of Consistency in Fatherhood

05:34 Being Present: The Key to Quality Time

11:49 Embracing Failure: A Path to Growth

18:44 Stripping Away the Illusion of Perfection

25:16 Quantity of Time: The Birthplace of Quality Moments

27:07 Embracing Vulnerability and Failure

32:06 The Other Side of Fear

40:00 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

43:50 Turning Vulnerability into Strength

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Bi-Racial Broadcast #1: Exploring the Depths of Biracial Identity

"Let's get right into it!"

"Biracial looks a lot of different ways."

"I realized, holy crap, I'm not just white."

In this episode of the Bi-Racial Broadcast, hosts Jey and JRKD explore the complexities of biracial identity through personal stories and discussions about race, privilege, and community. They share their experiences growing up biracial, the challenges they faced, and the insights they've gained over the years. The conversation delves into the 'Bi-Racial Quad,' a framework for discussing judgments, racism, and privilege, while also reflecting on cultural influences and the importance of understanding and empathy in navigating racial dynamics.

Takeaways

Bi-Racial identity encompasses a wide range of experiences and backgrounds.

Growing up biracial can lead to unique challenges and insights.

Cultural exposure plays a significant role in shaping identity.

Understanding and acceptance of one's biracial identity can evolve over time.

Privilege can manifest differently for biracial individuals depending on context.

Judgments and biases often stem from societal stereotypes and personal experiences.

Empathy and open-mindedness are crucial in addressing racial issues.

Community and belonging are vital for biracial individuals.

Conversations about race and identity are ongoing and necessary.

Personal stories can illuminate broader societal issues regarding race.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Bi-Racial Broadcast

01:35 The Importance of Bi-Racial Identity

03:12 Personal Experiences of Growing Up Bi-Racial

13:15 The Bi-Racial Quad: Exploring Identity

17:47 Privilege in Being Bi-Racial

29:49 Understanding Race and Identity

44:31 Reflections on Oakland and Community

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Patriarchy Principles #2- Restoring Fatherhood in Recovery- Casey

"It's time for us to restore men to their children."

"Addiction destroys families."

"The results of too much alcohol can be detrimental."

"Men are not supposed to operate in the same ways as women."

"Marriage makes men earn 10 to 11% more."

"The opposite of addiction is connection."

In this episode of Patriarchy Principles, Jey and Casey discuss the intersection of family, faith, and politics, focusing on the challenges fathers face in today's society. They explore the story of Noah as a biblical example of addiction and self-control, Casey's journey in recovery activism, and the impact of identity politics on political views. The conversation critiques current decriminalization policies and emphasizes the importance of fatherhood in recovery. They propose legislative changes aimed at restoring family structures and addressing addiction treatment more effectively. In this conversation, Casey and Jey explore the evolution of masculinity, the neurochemical benefits of meaningful work for men, and the importance of marriage in enhancing men's lives. They discuss the role of the church in addiction recovery and the need for unity in society, emphasizing the importance of conservative values and the impact of fatherhood. The conversation culminates in a call for action, urging men to engage in politics and vote for a better future for their families.

Takeaways

The podcast aims to shed light on political issues impacting families.

Noah's story illustrates the consequences of addiction and lack of self-control.

Casey emphasizes the importance of fathers in recovery and family dynamics.

The shift in political views reflects a growing discontent with identity politics.

Critique of decriminalization policies highlights their ineffectiveness in addressing addiction.

Fatherhood is crucial for recovery and should be prioritized in legislation.

Identity politics have become a dominant narrative in modern politics.

Rethinking addiction treatment is necessary for better outcomes.

Proposals for legislative change focus on restoring family structures.

Compassion should not enable continued substance use. Men have evolved from a lineage of masculine traits that were favored in mate selection.

Neurochemical benefits are derived from physical work, which has been diminished in modern society.

ADHD may be overdiagnosed; it used to be a superpower for men in certain contexts.

Men benefit from different therapeutic approaches than women, often requiring more action-oriented solutions.

Marriage incentivizes men to earn more and provides greater life satisfaction.

The church has a critical role in supporting those in addiction recovery.

Bridging the gap between the church and substance users can create meaningful connections.

Unity in society is essential for overcoming divisions and fostering cooperation.

Conservative values can provide a foundation for addressing societal issues.

Voting is a crucial action for men to take responsibility for their families' futures.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview

02:20 The Story of Noah and the Importance of Self-Control

04:27 Casey's Policy Proposals for Addiction Recovery

14:28 The Shift from Left to Right in Political Views

24:33 The Negative Effects of Identity Politics

29:03 Considering Alternative Worldviews in Policymaking

31:07 A Comprehensive Approach to Addressing Addiction

36:56 Preventing Resentment and Infidelity in Marriage

46:38 The Role of Probation and the Criminal Justice System

52:35 Restoring Men to Their Children and Promoting Meaningful Employment

01:02:10 The Benefits of Marriage for Men

01:14:50 The Role of the Church in Addressing Addiction and Providing Support

01:19:25 Introduction and Anecdote

01:20:18 Probation with Informed Treatment

01:21:15 Fatherhood Reconciliation

01:22:04 Meaningful Work and Employment

01:25:01 Marriage and Family Structure

01:30:05 The Church in Recovery

01:40:24 Voting and Taking Action

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