Without You

How do you move from the initial stage of a romantic relationship into the meat of the relationship? Today, we talk about the movement from intensity to intimacy. From the chemical surge, the flirting, the boost, the blindness(!!), into the phase where you actually see and are seen.

In this episode, we discuss attraction. Why do I lose my appetite when I'm attracted to someone? Why does it click with some and not others? What's romantic attraction? What's falling In love? Why do we end up talking about toxic glue?? Yuck. Enjoy.

Not feeling good enough? Maybe it's time to tune into what your inner critic is saying and change the channel...
We reference "If" by Rudyard Kipling. It's such a fantastic poem and in the public domain, so we thought we'd put it here.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings—nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run—
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

A continuation of the discussion on how childhood trauma impacts adult relationships.

In this second of two episodes, we complete our discussion on abusive relationships, covering not just physically abusive but also verbal and emotional. For anyone in an abusive relationship, we urge you to seek help. Resources are at the top of Episode 5.