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Wild Card - Whose Shoes? - 24. Tribute to Mum, @Gills_Mum - 100th birthday!

24. Tribute to Mum, @Gills_Mum - 100th birthday!

03/09/22 • 38 min

Wild Card - Whose Shoes?

Today would have been my Mum’s 100th birthday. Wow!

For those of you who used to enjoy tweeting with her @GIlls_Mum, this is a bit of a trip down memory lane.
A bit of a self-indulgence, getting a chance to chat about Mum, what made her tick, some snippets from our recorded conversations together ... and a String Quartet!
We dip in and out of health care - in the shoes of someone who really didn't want to go there (care plans, advance care planning and all that STUFF) and just want to be left alone to get on with life, worry about whether to have Prosecco or champagne for her party and play Scrabble. #ProseccoGate.
I'll be back on the case with some living podcast guests very soon. I recorded a great one yesterday! :)

"Dying at 95 was not in Mum’s game plan. Her mum, my wonderfully independent, quirky grandma, lived to 104, living in her own home until she was 100.
I think Mum thought 'that is the way we do things around here'. "

#cancer #breastcancer #independence #FiercelyIndependent #OfftheScaleOfIndependent !
Mum’s lemon lightbulbs 🍋💡🍋

  • Celebrate! You never know what life has around the corner!
  • Life is not a competition – just make the most of what you have.
  • Some people just don’t do ‘stuff’ – let people be who they want to be
  • A good death - leads to a good bereavement
  • When will we ever learn that war is not the answer ...
  • Record family memories while you have the chance - spoken voice and video make wonderful memories!
  • An elephant in the room ... literally. Treasure the things that have true value.
  • Twitter friends ...can get you out of hospital! #FreeGillsMum!
  • Don’t keep things ‘for best’ ... and end up never using them!
  • Value your education – not everyone gets the chance
  • If you don’t want your children to know your secrets ... write in shorthand!
  • Integrated care – is LONG overdue! The one stop shop ... to nowhere!
  • You are never to old to be / have a #ProudMum
  • No more castor oil ! (symbolic of anything that is not properly evidence-based!)
  • True coproduction means engaging as human beings, nurturing people and valuing their views
  • If you have a hobby, talent, something you want to do, don’t wait for the ‘perfect’ circumstances - #JFDI
  • Family carers can’t do it all by themselves – circles of support make like manageable
  • We need to get a balance between doing things (caring) and recording what we are doing (scribbling)
  • #DumpTheDaftWords! But feel free to go forth on your Batmobile!
  • Special people – thank you to the health care professionals who bring hope and humanity
  • Little things are the big things!
  • Personalised (human) care - and continuity - matters!
  • Happy 100th birthday Mum - keep sending the rainbows!

Some links you might enjoy:
Whose Shoes comes to a home care provider in Oxford
#FreeGillsMum
#CovMindTheGap
Me N' My Mum :)

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Today would have been my Mum’s 100th birthday. Wow!

For those of you who used to enjoy tweeting with her @GIlls_Mum, this is a bit of a trip down memory lane.
A bit of a self-indulgence, getting a chance to chat about Mum, what made her tick, some snippets from our recorded conversations together ... and a String Quartet!
We dip in and out of health care - in the shoes of someone who really didn't want to go there (care plans, advance care planning and all that STUFF) and just want to be left alone to get on with life, worry about whether to have Prosecco or champagne for her party and play Scrabble. #ProseccoGate.
I'll be back on the case with some living podcast guests very soon. I recorded a great one yesterday! :)

"Dying at 95 was not in Mum’s game plan. Her mum, my wonderfully independent, quirky grandma, lived to 104, living in her own home until she was 100.
I think Mum thought 'that is the way we do things around here'. "

#cancer #breastcancer #independence #FiercelyIndependent #OfftheScaleOfIndependent !
Mum’s lemon lightbulbs 🍋💡🍋

  • Celebrate! You never know what life has around the corner!
  • Life is not a competition – just make the most of what you have.
  • Some people just don’t do ‘stuff’ – let people be who they want to be
  • A good death - leads to a good bereavement
  • When will we ever learn that war is not the answer ...
  • Record family memories while you have the chance - spoken voice and video make wonderful memories!
  • An elephant in the room ... literally. Treasure the things that have true value.
  • Twitter friends ...can get you out of hospital! #FreeGillsMum!
  • Don’t keep things ‘for best’ ... and end up never using them!
  • Value your education – not everyone gets the chance
  • If you don’t want your children to know your secrets ... write in shorthand!
  • Integrated care – is LONG overdue! The one stop shop ... to nowhere!
  • You are never to old to be / have a #ProudMum
  • No more castor oil ! (symbolic of anything that is not properly evidence-based!)
  • True coproduction means engaging as human beings, nurturing people and valuing their views
  • If you have a hobby, talent, something you want to do, don’t wait for the ‘perfect’ circumstances - #JFDI
  • Family carers can’t do it all by themselves – circles of support make like manageable
  • We need to get a balance between doing things (caring) and recording what we are doing (scribbling)
  • #DumpTheDaftWords! But feel free to go forth on your Batmobile!
  • Special people – thank you to the health care professionals who bring hope and humanity
  • Little things are the big things!
  • Personalised (human) care - and continuity - matters!
  • Happy 100th birthday Mum - keep sending the rainbows!

Some links you might enjoy:
Whose Shoes comes to a home care provider in Oxford
#FreeGillsMum
#CovMindTheGap
Me N' My Mum :)

We LOVE it when you leave a review!
If you enjoy my podcast and find these conversations useful
please share your thoughts by leaving a review (Spotify or Apple are easiest to leave a review - navigate via 3 dots) and comment on your favourite episodes.
I tweet as @WhoseShoes and @WildCardWS and am on Instagram as @WildCardWS.
Please recommend 'Wild Card - Whose Shoes' to others who enjoy hearing passionate people talk about their experiences of improving health care.

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undefined - 23. Angela Cornwall - Speedy Boarding. The passport to top health care

23. Angela Cornwall - Speedy Boarding. The passport to top health care

Today I'm talking to Angela Cornwall, with thanks to Carol Munt (Episode 7) for introducing us!
Angela uses her experience as a family carer to make great things happen. She designed a ‘passport to care’ to make sure clinicians have exactly the information they need to deal with a rare condition, such as Diamond Blackfam anaemia which Angela’s daughter has.
I love it when people come up with simple ideas that would be useful for other families. But they often find it difficult to get their solutions adopted -
Angela's 'Speedy boarding' makes sense!
Angela is practical and proactive and, like Carol, full of common sense and wanting care to be the best it can be AND cost effective.
Lemon lightbulbs (lots!) 🍋💡🍋

  • With rare conditions, patients and family carers are taught by expert clinicians. Don’t underestimate them or dismiss them as ‘anxious’
  • If you have a rare condition or specialised needs, a ‘passport of care’ is a great way to record your needs so there is no confusion or time wasted: Speedy Boarding!
  • Pathways and protocols are often inflexible. “We don’t do transfusions at the weekends” can be dangerous
  • Family carers are very experienced! They care for the person 24/7 and learn what is required. Listen to them
  • Give patients and family carers the training they require to manage their own conditions and minimise hospital stays
  • Personalised care is not only good for the patient but can be highly cost-effective for the NHS and more rewarding for staff. Try it. Some great examples here!
  • Collaboration is key and can remove the trauma!
  • Don’t overcomplicate things - simply listen and respect the expertise of patients and family carers. Be open to simple solutions.
  • Examples – a clinical passport of care, invented by a family carer after having to save her daughter‘s life when the protocol was inflexible, or practical ways to avoid sensory overload and meltdowns
  • It can be a sign of strength, not weakness, for clinicians to say they don’t know
  • You can’t be expected to know everything about rare conditions, but the person with the condition and their family know all about it!
  • Peer support is key! Check out DBA UK charity for Diamond Blackman Anaemia
  • Help children with complex medical needs have normal experiences – rafting, kayaking and marshmallows around the bonfire!
  • Environment matters! What a great idea to design a children’s hospital with glass walls so children can see out, stay connected to the real world and heal!
  • Fresh air, going outdoors, having fun - helps speedy discharge!
  • Building the confidence of patients/ family carers - help them feel in control and able to manage medical needs
  • Holistic therapies - good for everybody!
  • People with autism can find it very hard to access healthcare. Design care to make it possible for them to have a good experience.
  • A reminder to respect and value the expertise and dedication of family carers!

Who can help Angela spread her ‘passport to care’ to more families who would benefit?

Further resources:
Speedy Boarding passport to care
Support and benef

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undefined - 25. Miles Sibley, Founder of Patient Experience Library

25. Miles Sibley, Founder of Patient Experience Library

'Whose Shoes' looks at issues from different perspectives. But what weight, do those perspectives have? Lived experience, learned experience?
Is your version of what happened a ‘medical report’, regarded as evidence, but my version just anecdotal, a ‘patient story’?
What is regarded as admissible or inadmissible evidence?
Miles Sibley is editor of Patient Experience Library and fab weekly newsletters and a quarterly magazine, finding practical ways to bring patient experience to the fore and share best practice
Huge synergy with my Whose Shoes work - ensuring patient experience is taken seriously and people know how to act on it
Huge potential! I ‘m hoping this will be one of the most influential ‘Wild Card’ podcasts
Lemon lightbulbs 🍋💡🍋:

  • There a 100% evidence base for medical practice, but no real evidence base for patient experience
  • 70,000+ documents in the Patient Experience Library!
  • All too often, patient stories are lost /not given due attention
  • How can we make this vital information more accessible and usable for healthcare professionals?
  • We need knowledge translation. It‘s no use just dumping piles of patient stories on busy healthcare professionals
  • Statistics are seen as hard evidence. We need parity of esteem for quantitative and qualitative evidence
  • Important to develop analytical tools
  • On the clinical side, NHS brilliant at helping people learn. Evidence based.
  • We need similar learning infrastructure and evidence base for patient experience
  • The ‘Inadmissible evidence’ report, by Miles Sibley, is BRILLIANT. Let’s make patient experience admissible!
  • Language is key. Patient ‘stories’. Medical ‘reports’.
  • When clinicians say something is wrong, it's an ‘incident report’
  • When a patient says something is wrong, it’s a ‘complaint’
  • First do no harm. But harm is done when patient stories are not seen as important; when people are not listened to
  • The GP says “Tell me, what is the matter?” Until you listen, you can’t possibly know what the problem is
  • Something goes wrong between the individual clinician and when we get to the organisational/ system level
  • Multiple healthcare disasters show the importance of listening to people and #WMTY
  • How can NHS be BOTH evidence based and patient-centred?
  • This can’t happen until listening to patients holds higher status
  • Patient Experience Library is gathering the evidence and analysing it
  • Evidence needs to be up-to-date - it’s no good hearing what happened a year ago
  • Whose Shoes workshops collect immediate feedback - what is important now!
  • Health inequalities - central to quality improvement work! Needs to be everyone’s job.
  • National Voices, Care Opinion, Joanne Hughes... a lot of people are doing fantastic work!
  • Connect!
  • “Nobody’s patient”. Incredibly powerful title for our #WhoseShoes project. People falling through gaps in the system
  • Same mistakes around patient safety happening over and over. Must break the cycle
  • Look after the staff, they ’ll look after the patients
  • ‘Small’ complaints (e.g car parking) might run much deeper. Listen.
  • When Sir Simon Stevens stood down as NHS CEO, his No.1 message: LISTEN to patients!

Further resources

We LOVE it when you leave a review!
If you enjoy my podcast and find these conversations useful
please share your thoughts by leaving a review (Spotify or Apple are easiest to leave a review - navigate via 3 dots) and comment on your favourite episodes.
I tweet as @WhoseShoes and @WildCardWS and am on Instagram as @WildCardWS.
Please recommend 'Wild Card - Whose Shoes' to others who enjoy hearing passionate people talk about their experiences of improving health care.

Wild Card - Whose Shoes? - 24. Tribute to Mum, @Gills_Mum - 100th birthday!

Transcript

Today would have been my Mum’s 100th birthday. Wow!

Sadly she didn’t make it to 100. She died in July 2017 but we did have a fantastic party for her 95th birthday. I’m so glad we did. Memories. Seeing her celebrating with her family and friends. Being so loved, so understated as always. It was never about her – always making sure that everyone else was having a good time ... but she did have a little glint in her eye as she blew out the candles on her cake and listened to the St

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