We Still Like Each Other

What are the boundaries of healthy co-parenting? Is it appropriate to go on dates without the child? When is forcing a relationship actually bad for the child? We got inspired by a tiktok of a woman asking her baby daddy to go out to celebrate their break up anniversary.
Has gaslighting become a buzzword? Is it overly misused? Well on this episode we discuss five different types of gaslighting. Travis gets triggered by that word. Have we gaslighted each other?
SPOILER ALERT: We discuss HBO’s “The Last of Us” and Netflix’s “Pamela: A Love Story”. We dive into the amazing same sex couple portrayed in episode 3 of The Last of Us that had me hysterically crying. Pamela Andersons story shows us how we desperately seek to recreate the comforts of our childhood, even when it's toxic and chaotic. -Stephanie

They are back! COVID hit their home for the third time in the past 2 years, but they are fully recovered and ready to do all things WSLEO. They had a lot to cover and shared their thoughts and perspectives on the passing of Stephen tWitch Boss, the Tory Lanez and Meg Thee Stallion trial, the unfortunate yet predictable impact of men becoming an extra child in a marriage, and TWO “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” submissions. Yes this is a long one!
9-8-8 is the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline which is available 24/7 to anyone in the United States in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.
Things that were unintentionally discussed: Stephanie opens up about her recent venture into therapy. Stephanie and Travis had a miscommunication in the bedroom, it includes a toy.
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Would you look at that... they’re talking about sex AGAIN. But who's complaining? Y’all love it here! How long should good sex last? The answer might depend on what you define as sex. Depending on who you ask, it can be a whole experience. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they unlocked a new level in their sex life. Finding new ways to be sexual nearly 8 years later is pretty satisfying... see what we did there? We all have experienced wanting sex to last longer or even end faster, Stephanie and Travis give their tips on how to make both happen. Somehow a Viagra and Adderall story makes it into the convo.
This week on “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” a listener needs some advice on how to improve her sex life without making her man feel objectified. Is once a week enough sex in a relationship? Honestly, there probably isn't a number to define the right amount, it comes down to compatibility. Basically, y'all both gonna want it equally or at least be willing to compromise. Stephanie and Travis discuss scheduling sex and identifying barriers to having sex.
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Did you know, “married women are more than twice as likely to use a vibrator than non-married women?” Great more rhetoric that implies your sex life dies when you get married. It’s honestly not surprising anymore. But what if we flipped that idea on its head? Team work makes the dream work, sometimes a vibrator is on the team.

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss wet dreams. Wait... aren’t wet dreams limited to teenage boys? Actually they are a lot more common than we think and happen to both men and women even in adulthood. Sex dreams can be tricky when in a committed relationship. What happens when your partner isn't the co-star in your dreamland fantasies? Are our dreams trying to tell us something or are they just a random combination of our memories?

“Oh So Y’all Can Relate” is back with an obvious case of trauma bonding. Unfortunately this one involves a love triangle of sorts, with one side leading to a healthy marriage, one side leading to the reunion of a trauma bond, and the other leading to giving up on love. Having recurring thoughts about our exes is normal, until it's not. Where do we draw the line? This story also serves as a reminder as to why we need to cut off all ties from our toxic exes. Including ending relationships with their friends and family.

In reflecting on their week, things got a bit heated between Travis and Stephanie. It was about food, again. They aren't immune to the recurring disagreements. Just like many of you, they struggle with eating the food at home. This issue is not made any easier by the fact that Travis finds no joy at all in preparing a meal. Stephanie sees it as a more serious issue, no one wants to eat food prepared by someone who didn't put love into it, and possibly made it while harboring negative feelings.
Parenting isn’t for the weak! This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on how becoming parents of two have impacted them personally now that baby River is 9 months old. Travis tears up when reflecting on a recent milestone he reached with Eli which he feels was a bit overdue. Like in romantic relationships, our dynamics are ever evolving in our parenting relationships. We aren't going to be the best versions of ourselves and exactly who our children need on day one. Just like in our romantic relationships, we have to do the best we can with the knowledge and support we have each and every day. Stephanie also speaks extensively about the pressures she feels to take care of herself while simultaneously taking care of the home and the children and her spouse. Something or someone has to get the short end of the stick so what is she to do?
Stephanie gives a review of the book, Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields. This book focuses on helping us reduce our reactivity to raise kind and confident children. It forces us to compare our voice and tone when we speak to our children to when we speak to our romantic partners and when we speak to our friends. We often have this ill informed mentality that we have to have complete control of our kids' actions for their own safety. When in reality we have to build mutual respect, not blind obedience.
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