We Heal Together

Podcast Info

• A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
• Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
• Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
• Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
• Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.

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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

• Want access to free resources? Click here
• Need help finding a therapist? Click here
• Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
  • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
• Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
• Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
• Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
  • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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HOW TO BREAK OUT OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

1. Heal all the parts of you (including the part of you that stayed or wanted to stay).
2. Find a licensed counselor/therapist: Check out Open Path if you are in the US & money is an issue [https://openpathcollective.org/].
3. Explore childhood wounds.
4. Make a list of warning signs/red flags for future relationships.
5. Be gentle with yourself.
6. Read books to help you understand your issues better [i.e., I realized I struggle with codependency issues, so the following books helped me: “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie” & “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody”]
7. Buy a workbook for self-esteem [i.e., I bought “the Self Esteem Workbook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi”]
8. Accept help from your support system and friends.
9. Focus on living in the present.
10. Practice positive self-talk.
11. Write out a list of dealbreakers that you will stick to in the future.
12. Assess what your boundaries are [see below for examples].
13. Go no contact with your ex.
14. Fully acknowledge you have a pattern of being in toxic relationships.
15. Explore what relationships were modeled to you as a child.
16. Think about a friend or family member’s relationship that you respect. Take notes [i.e., try to find a new “model” for a healthy relationship].
17. Give yourself time to heal. Do not date until you are healed.
18. Form new friendships + build a social network.
19. Reconnect with any family + friends that you drifted from during your toxic relationship
20. Develop hobbies + interests.
21. Learn how to trust your gut/intuition in relationships.
22. Consider seeing a psychiatrist for underlying issues (i.e., depression).
23. Go outside more + go for walks.
24. Don’t be afraid to tell your story.
25. Cut out people from your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
26. Get some sunlight + go outside.
27. Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.
28. Take care of basic hygiene (brush your teeth, take a shower, etc.).
29. Get rid of any reminders of your ex.
30. Accept reality + abandon the fantasy.

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CORDELIA’S BOUNDARIES:

1. I will not sleep with someone who calls me names.
2. I will not reach out to someone who abandoned me.
3. I will not take back someone who cheated.
4. I will not have conversations with anyone if I feel desperate.

Podcast Info

• A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
• Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
• Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
• Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
• Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.

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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

• Want access to free resources? Click here
• Need help finding a therapist? Click here
• Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
  • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
• Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
• Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
• Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
  • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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CITATIONS
1. TYPES OF ABUSE - https://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/

2. WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE? - https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/

3. SIGNS OF MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ABUSE - https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse

4. DEFINITION OF SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/5547/silent-treatment-abuse/

5. SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/silent-treatment-covert-abuse.262/

RESOURCES TO GET HELP

1. Follow @codependentrecovery on Instagram for more tips.

2. https://www.thehotline.org/: Available 24/7 for chat & calls [1-800-787-3224) for women, men, and LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence. They also offer safety planning.

3. https://coda.org/ - runs online support groups for people struggling with Codependency.
4. www.domesticshelters.org – helps you locate shelters and resources.They also have some online support groups.

5. https://openpathcollective.org/ - a great resource for finding an affordable counselor

6. https://www.womenslaw.org/ - can look up laws by state

7. https://translifeline.org/ - Crisis hotline surviving transgender people (1-877-565-8860)

8. https://www.rainn.org/ - Available 24/7 for chats & calls [1-800-656-4673] for sexual assault survivors.

9. https://1in6.org/ - Available 24/7 chat for men who are survivors of sexual assault. Also offer weekly support group online meetings

10. https://hotpeachpages.net/ - For non-US residents, this site directs you to services for domestic abuse internationally.

11. https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/safety-planning-covid19/ - For help with safety planning.

12. https://www.loveisrespect.org/ - Supports youth and young adults in ending dating violence. The website includes planning resources, legal help, educator toolkits, and more—[Can also call 1-800-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522].
13. https://www.strongheartshelpline.org/ - StrongHearts Native Helpline is a safe domestic, dating, and s...

PODCAST INFO

• A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
• Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
• Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
• Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery

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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

• Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
• Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
  • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
• Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
• Want access to free resources? Click here
• Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
  • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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WORKSHEETS

• Body Neutrality Worksheets

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CITATIONS

• Societal Considerations
  • Medical Bias
    • Harvard Article
    • American Psychological Association Article
  • Society
    • https://www.teenvogue.com/story/standard-issues-white-supremacy-capitalism-influence-beauty
    • White Wash Beauty Standards
• What is body neutrality?
  • Lauren Sharkey Quote
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