Relapse from Joey's Perspective - Ep 13

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10/30/21 • 18 min

Joey rejoins the podcast for this special episode about his relapse. In his chat with Beth, he offers a boots-on-the-ground perspective about what caused his relapse, how things are going for him, and what he sees his future holding for him.

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith

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RESOURCES:

Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/

Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/

Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

TIME STAMPS:

1:50 - Joey’s boots on the ground reporting of his relapse

3:18 - What led up to Joey’s relapse

4:34 - Joey talks about his enabler

6:47 - Benefits of getting kicked out

7:21 - Joey’s plan for dealing with his dad

8:39 - Sober living housing

10:08 - What Beth or Jan could’ve done to prevent Joey’s relapse

12:15 - Letting natural consequences occur

13:26 - Joey’s self-destruct cycle, but he’s still trying

15:16 - What Joey needs the most today

16:26 - Difference between connection/support and enabling

17:08 - Does yelling or shaming work? V

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon

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RESOURCES:

Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/

Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/

Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

TIME STAMPS:

1:50 - Joey’s boots on the ground reporting of his relapse

3:18 - What led up to Joey’s relapse

4:34 - Joey talks about his enabler

6:47 - Benefits of getting kicked out

7:21 - Joey’s plan for dealing with his dad

8:39 - Sober living housing

10:08 - What Beth or Jan could’ve done to prevent Joey’s relapse

12:15 - Letting natural consequences occur

13:26 - Joey’s self-destruct cycle, but he’s still trying

15:16 - What Joey needs the most today

16:26 - Difference between connection/support and enabling

17:08 - Does yelling or shaming work? V

--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message

Previous Episode

Relapse from the Parents' Perspective - Ep 12

It’s been 6 weeks since Joey relapsed and moved back to his dad’s house. In this episode, Jan and Beth talk about how they’re dealing with his downward spiral.

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon

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RESOURCES:

And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling:

Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/

Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/

TIME STAMPS:

1:17 The relapse story continues, 6 weeks later

2:13 Keeping a positive connection

4:47 Parents’ reaction to Joey getting caught stealing

6:05 Beth’s dream for society’s support for troubled teens

8:16 “Come, Come, Whoever You Are”

9:44 Safe Home approach v Tough Love approach

10:55 Our parental anxiety during relapse

12:25 Joey’s 2nd traumatic event in one night

13:47 Joey ditched Jan and Beth for pumpkin patch date

16:20 Joey “losing credibility”

19:00 Our advice for parents with kids who relapse

26:25 How Joey’s adoption contributed to his pain

27:20 What Jan and Beth would do differently if they could do it all over

28:05 Joey’s birthday angst

30:00 Some of the signs of trouble that Jan and Beth missed

34:09 Take the spotlight off your kid sometimes

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Next Episode

Adoption Story with Stan DeWitt - Ep 14

Beth hears the story of Stan DeWitt, an adult adoptee who has recently been reunited with his birth family. Stan looks back on his adolescence and talks about how adoption has affected his life. This is a happy story full of love, self-awareness, acceptance, and coincidences that are almost too wild to believe.

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Stan DeWitt’s website: https://www.standewitt.com/

Stan’s blog: https://acustatic.blogspot.com/2021/10/schrodingers-son.html?fbclid=IwAR3yPn0T1lXoZioTaBrWMQ_IlRuFdLeZ3GIB51hDRxyNP8UbGZ4GnM7OL0w

Schrödinger's cat explanation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schr%C3%B6dinger%27s_cat

Stan’s rock opera: https://www.amazon.com/Silver-Bullet-Opera-Sound-Ministry/dp/B06XTC52TX

Long Beach Youth Chorus: https://www.longbeachyouthchorus.org/

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith