
10. Breaking the Cycle of Parental Fragility
07/20/23 • 36 min
Breaking away from family's long-held patterns and expectations can trigger a minefield of difficult emotions and ruptured relationships. In this episode, Naomi and Rebecca remember moments from their own cycle-breaking journeys and reflect on the words that helped bring compassion and nuanced meaning to these challenging experiences.
Show Notes
What is a Cycle Breaker? (Psychology Today article)
Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder (Gabor Mate's book where he explains the crucial role of attunement for infants' brain development.)
Audio Editing: BethAnnie Hartman
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Breaking away from family's long-held patterns and expectations can trigger a minefield of difficult emotions and ruptured relationships. In this episode, Naomi and Rebecca remember moments from their own cycle-breaking journeys and reflect on the words that helped bring compassion and nuanced meaning to these challenging experiences.
Show Notes
What is a Cycle Breaker? (Psychology Today article)
Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder (Gabor Mate's book where he explains the crucial role of attunement for infants' brain development.)
Audio Editing: BethAnnie Hartman
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- Instagram: @uncoveredlifebeyond
- Email: [email protected]
- Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2171591
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9. Uncovered: Deconstructing the Dogma of Shiny Happy People
Rebecca and Naomi have more to say about the docuseries, Shiny Happy People. In this episode they analyze some of the central ideology of patriarchal, fundamentalist teachings such as those promoted by IBLP, the Duggars, and others. They share their own stories as well as evidence-based research that illustrates the damaging effects these beliefs and practices have on individuals and communities.
Links
- Recovering Grace
- 58% of women murdered in 2017 were murdered by an intimate partner or family member (The Conversation)
- WHO fact sheet on violence against women
- Domestic Violence by State 2023
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
- Historic Anabaptist Teachings (Messiah College)
- 1984 by George Orwell
- The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
- Tia Levings: “Christian Fundamentalists want to run the country the way they run their homes.”
- Sample IBLP Materials: IBLP Childbirth Guidelines (page 1) and (page 2)
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11. Reparenting for Cycle-Breakers
Once we've left behind our bubble of origin, how do we heal the emotional wounds that may still remain? How do we replace the looping mental tapes that still haunt us years later? In this episode, Naomi and Rebecca reflect on the practice of reparenting as a way adults can offer our younger selves the understanding and compassion we may have longed for but never received. Ultimately, reparenting is a practice for anyone raised by imperfect adults–which is why Naomi and Rebecca are already teaching it to their own children.
Resources referenced (or should have been):
Reparenting Our Inner Child (YouTube)
Healing Inner Child Wounds: The Essential Guide to Reparenting (A helpful bog post with journaling prompts.)
Ep. 88 How to Reparent Yourself and Ep. 89 How to Reparent Part 2 (Guidance from a therapist on SelfHealers Soundboard Podcast)
Stop Trying to be Perfect and Start Being OK: Why being the OK-est version of you is the antidote to OCD (A Psychology Today article describing the symptoms of moral scrupulosity and its debilitating effects.)
Audio Editing: BethAnnie Hartman
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