8. Identity

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12/17/19 • 50 min

In this episode, Shirin and Chrissy talk about each of their identities starting from the beginning to today - including the struggles and personal work they’ve had to do!

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If you liked this episode of Two Girls Talking Shit, tell your friends! Find us on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, and YouTube to rate/review/subscribe to the show. Want more? Follow and interact with us on Instagram @TwoGirlsTalkingShit! Thanks for listening and joining the conversation, and please share with anyone you think could benefit from our show! Resources and References:Hidden History Tours - New Orleans

Time Stamps:0:40 - Highlights from our girls trip to New Orleans with Allison Tenney!

5:23 - Our concepts of our own identities growing up

16:30 - What are some strategies we have used to fit in - especially in school (and racism in others’ commentary towards us)?

22:56 - Processing these experiences as children and how it is affecting us today.

27:52 - Compartmentalizing trauma and the privilege to do the self work.

31:16 - Trauma that is coming back up for us and how it informs our identities.

35:54 - The goodness/joy that comes from trauma - beauty from the ashes!

37:57 - The underlying themes of resilience and gratitude.

39:13 - As Grown Ass Women, what are our identities?

43:45 - Asking for a Friend: If you just want to date around for fun, how do you approach that conversation on a first date...or do you?

50:05 - Wrap up!

Quotes:“Oppressed people make the best food and the best music!”- Shirin Eskandani

#GrownAssWoman

In this episode, Shirin and Chrissy talk about each of their identities starting from the beginning to today - including the struggles and personal work they’ve had to do!

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Time Stamps:0:40 - Highlights from our girls trip to New Orleans with Allison Tenney!

5:23 - Our concepts of our own identities growing up

16:30 - What are some strategies we have used to fit in - especially in school (and racism in others’ commentary towards us)?

22:56 - Processing these experiences as children and how it is affecting us today.

27:52 - Compartmentalizing trauma and the privilege to do the self work.

31:16 - Trauma that is coming back up for us and how it informs our identities.

35:54 - The goodness/joy that comes from trauma - beauty from the ashes!

37:57 - The underlying themes of resilience and gratitude.

39:13 - As Grown Ass Women, what are our identities?

43:45 - Asking for a Friend: If you just want to date around for fun, how do you approach that conversation on a first date...or do you?

50:05 - Wrap up!

Quotes:“Oppressed people make the best food and the best music!”- Shirin Eskandani

#GrownAssWoman

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7. Age

In this episode, Shirin and Chrissy discuss holidays past, and how to not just survive, but thrive in, the holidays!- - - -If you liked this episode of Two Girls Talking Shit, tell your friends! Find us on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, and YouTube to rate/review/subscribe to the show. Want more? Follow and interact with us on Instagram @TwoGirlsTalkingShit! Thanks for listening and joining the conversation, and please share with anyone you think could benefit from our show!

Resources and References:The Untethered Soul - book

Time Stamps:0:37 - What’s the Tea? What Chrissy and Shirin have been up to (including painting for the first time as an adult and a FIRE)!

9:00 - What we are talking about today: AGE and aging!

10:23 - Aging and the stigma around it in the arts.

13:14 - The stress when each of us turned 30 and what we thought life would look like by then (and now).

20:40 - Why we think people are so up in peoples’ business about having kids and the “shoulds” of life!

22:11 - Releasing the expectations of others - and yourself - to figure out what you want for YOUR life!

27:40 - The comparison trap with age.

30:52 - Considering how we perpetuate ageism through discrediting older and younger folx.

33:22 - The pressure to change the way we dress as we age.

38:36 - Our concept/perception of adulthood vs. how we feel right now.

43:08 - Aging, energy and adventure (and the expectations surrounding them)

48:34 - The pressures of having children within a certain timeline.

54:15 - How we have gotten to a spot where we fully embrace our age!

1:00:00 - Asking for a Friend: How can I be kind to people who are constantly taking advantage of me at work? Because now, I’m petty...

“If, in your friend group, you don’t have someone who is 10 years older than you or 10 years younger than you, then you are doing something wrong.”- Shirin Eskandani

“Being in your 30s and beyond is really great!”- Chrissy King

#AgeTalk

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9. Failure

In this episode, Shirin and Chrissy talk all things failure: from relationships to 2019 to shifts in beliefs around the idea of failure!- - - -If you liked this episode of Two Girls Talking Shit, tell your friends! Find us on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, and YouTube to rate/review/subscribe to the show. Want more? Follow and interact with us on Instagram @TwoGirlsTalkingShit! Thanks for listening and joining the conversation, and please share with anyone you think could benefit from our show!

Time Stamps:0:33 - Introduction to our subject: FAILURE!

1:28 - What’s the Tea? On choosing not to buy gifts, thoughts on Amazon, and more!

5:30 - Let’s dig into failure!

6:20 - What our thoughts are on failure right now as a culture.

8:18 - How have our relationships with the definition of success - but also failure - changed?

24:26 - Failure in relationships

33:36 - What are some of our failures from 2019?

37:57 - How sharing our failures brings us together as a community.

41:10 - Asking for a Friend: How do Chrissy and Shirin go about their goalsetting?

48:00 - Wrap Up!

Quotes:“The more we start sharing about failure, the more powerful we become as a community. The closer we become as a community.”- Shirin Eskandani

“For 2020: fail often.”- Shirin Eskandani