Is it our right to complain?

02/24/24 • 29 min

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Whether spoken or unspoken, complaints can either foster trust or erode it within relationships. Ila and Charles delve into the intricate dynamics of trust, communication, and the often-overlooked causes and impacts of complaints. The conversation explores the importance of making clear and complete requests in driving desired outcomes and the many implications of expressing our grievances. They also explore the impact of unspoken grievances on relationships, from breeding resentment to undermining trust. Listeners are encouraged to ask themselves the tough questions: Is my complaint fair? Were my expectations clear? Am I avoiding difficult conversations? Do I care about salvaging the relationship?

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Do your habits support the trust you want to build?

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Welcome to the episode about building habits, where we discuss the trust-building behaviours that define our relationships and how to make them habits. Our conversation is inspired by a question posed by James Clear, in a recent issue of his newsletter: “Are the results I'm expecting aligned with the habits I’m following each day?”

We often intend to act in ways that build trust, yet our habitual behaviours may not always reflect our intentions. How do we bridge the gap? Join us as we navigate the process of habit change, understanding that replacing old habits requires more than sheer willpower. We discuss the reality of not getting it right the first time and the necessity of practice to build new habits, and offer practical strategies for initiating change.