Self Acceptance, Systemic Misogyny, Sharing Our Stories
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09/17/21 • 66 min
**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
"The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
$35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
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Also, Ryan's audio is bad cause computers and software are rude.
QUESTION:
a) What's a part of yourself you have difficulty accepting?
b) What part of yourself do you have no problem accepting?
RYAN:
a) The parts of me that demonstrate I still have growing to do (TikTok example: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRCw1cxB/)
ABBY:
a) The part of me that has influence on others and makes a positive difference
b) The part of me that's a pillar of strength for those going through difficulty
How do we balance between meeting people where they are and letting them be where they are on their own personal journey, and speaking up to create a world you believe is in everyone's highest good? One seems to demand staying out of other people's way and releasing what's out of our control, and the other seems to demand exerting control over others if we perceive they're headed toward harming themselves or others. Where do we draw the line in terms of imposing our "shoulds" on others to prevent them from causing harm?
"The shortest distance between two people is a story" -Patti Digh
GRATITUDES:
- Ryan is grateful for Cathy Cassani-Adams' new book, Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World. Pre-order here: https://found.ee/ZenParenting
- Abby is grateful that we live in a world where all these social justice conversations are even happening
TIME CODES:
1:43 - Question of the Episode
5:54 - Men making the world unsafe for women
23:55 - Abby pokes at why Ryan spoke up
43:03 - Start with your story and go from there
MODEETS:
- Register for our live event at truenorth11.com
- Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11
- Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.net
- Catch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mystic
- Watch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTube
- Email us at [email protected]
🍌🐢🥓
**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
"The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
$35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
----------------
Also, Ryan's audio is bad cause computers and software are rude.
QUESTION:
a) What's a part of yourself you have difficulty accepting?
b) What part of yourself do you have no problem accepting?
RYAN:
a) The parts of me that demonstrate I still have growing to do (TikTok example: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRCw1cxB/)
ABBY:
a) The part of me that has influence on others and makes a positive difference
b) The part of me that's a pillar of strength for those going through difficulty
How do we balance between meeting people where they are and letting them be where they are on their own personal journey, and speaking up to create a world you believe is in everyone's highest good? One seems to demand staying out of other people's way and releasing what's out of our control, and the other seems to demand exerting control over others if we perceive they're headed toward harming themselves or others. Where do we draw the line in terms of imposing our "shoulds" on others to prevent them from causing harm?
"The shortest distance between two people is a story" -Patti Digh
GRATITUDES:
- Ryan is grateful for Cathy Cassani-Adams' new book, Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World. Pre-order here: https://found.ee/ZenParenting
- Abby is grateful that we live in a world where all these social justice conversations are even happening
TIME CODES:
1:43 - Question of the Episode
5:54 - Men making the world unsafe for women
23:55 - Abby pokes at why Ryan spoke up
43:03 - Start with your story and go from there
MODEETS:
- Register for our live event at truenorth11.com
- Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11
- Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.net
- Catch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mystic
- Watch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTube
- Email us at [email protected]
🍌🐢🥓
Previous Episode
GUILT (and a little bit of Patriarchy)
**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
"The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
$35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
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In this episode, we talk about GUILT.
“Guilt is anger directed at ourselves — at what we did or did not do.” — Peter McWilliams
"Guilt is something abusers use to control you." — a True North Tribe member
Defining our terms:
- Regret: "I dislike that the past is what it is."
- Remorse: "I dislike that I contributed to someone else's suffering."
- Guilt: "Someone else dislikes what I did/am doing/want to do."
Guilt = a "should" + not being here (someone else's business) AND/OR not being now (past actions or future plans)
Antidote to guilt: mindfulness, presence, staying in your business.
Your brain is always working to figure out how to systematize life so that it can run on autopilot as often as possible. You can shift your autopilot into a habit of asking yourself if you're being your best in this moment.
Need a nervous system reset? Leave the environment, move your body, wash your hands.
GRATITUDES:
- Abby is grateful people and organizations who are here to help others through the challenges of going through suicide and childhood cancer.
- Ryan is grateful that the pro-women's rights folks in Texas are exercising their own power to build the world they want to live in (re: Texas SB8 and the women's march coming up on 10/2)
TIME CODES:
7:51 - Topic: Guilt
11:39 - Regret vs. Remorse vs. Guilt
14:14 - Q: Is guilt possible if we're in our own business?
25:21 - Mommy Guilt & Patriarchy
46:45 - Body work to re-center
MODEETS:
- Register for our live event at truenorth11.com
- Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11
- Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.net
- Catch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mystic
- Watch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTube
- Email us at [email protected]
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Next Episode
Boundaries vs. Censorship
**ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
"The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
$35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
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'Nother announcement: Ryan's audio is still bad. Boo.
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Question from a Tribe member: "Perhaps censorship is when you feel forced to censor you speech/actions from an external source (like someone else is shutting you down) and a boundary is when you choose for yourself not to engage?"
Censorship is controlling what others are allowed to put out.
Setting boundaries is managing what you allow yourself to take in.
Boundaries aren't a control mechanism because people always have the option to ignore them. No one is being robbed of their autonomy.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleanor Roosevelt
GRATITUDES:
- Ryan is grateful for our newest tribe member, whose timing represents a fresh start in his mind.
- Abby is grateful for the people in her life who are willing to tell her how they feel, even if they anticipate she won't react in love and light.
TIME CODES:
1:11 - Question of the episode
6:56 - Boundaries in relationships
20:45 - Why boundaries aren't censorship
28:58 - When is it okay to censor people?
44:19 - Is it toxic or are you just offended?
MODEETS:
- Register for our live event at truenorth11.com
- Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11
- Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.net
- Catch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mystic
- Watch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTube
- Email us at [email protected]
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