Modeling, Slowing Down, and the Stories We Tell Ourselves

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07/10/20 • 72 min

True North with Abby & Ryan

What story are you telling yourself?

"Bad stuff is because of me; good stuff is because of everyone else"
Are you the victim the hero?

Your suffering isn't caused by what happens; it's caused by how you interpret what happens, and how you feel about that interpretation.

7:24 - The widow experience
12:02 - Modeling

Toddler tantrum? Self regulate.
Bruce Lee's "the art of fighting without fighting"
Let your kids see you express your emotions.

18:52 - Slow Down

Ryan rambles a lot.
Ryan also writes these show notes.
Ryan's telling himself a story right now about how he really needs to learn how to not talk quite so much on this damn podcast.
Ryan's trying to figure out how to tell himself a different story.
Ryan's debating publishing this bullet list in the actual show notes.
Ryan's tired of talking about himself in the third person.

33:58 - Ryan's still fucking rambling.
39:04 - Abby on forgiving herself
47:51 - It's so freakin' hard to say good things about yourself!
GRATITUDE

Ryan is grateful for all the previous versions of himself who did current-him the favor of putting in the time to cultivate a solid toolbox for handling life's challenges.
Abby is grateful that she has the tools to get back to Love and Light when she loses her way.

Other Stuff:

Apparently the frequency of love is 528 hz
“We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it and stop there lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove lid again and that is well but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore.” - Mark Twain
"The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now." - Old Proverb

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What story are you telling yourself?

"Bad stuff is because of me; good stuff is because of everyone else"
Are you the victim the hero?

Your suffering isn't caused by what happens; it's caused by how you interpret what happens, and how you feel about that interpretation.

7:24 - The widow experience
12:02 - Modeling

Toddler tantrum? Self regulate.
Bruce Lee's "the art of fighting without fighting"
Let your kids see you express your emotions.

18:52 - Slow Down

Ryan rambles a lot.
Ryan also writes these show notes.
Ryan's telling himself a story right now about how he really needs to learn how to not talk quite so much on this damn podcast.
Ryan's trying to figure out how to tell himself a different story.
Ryan's debating publishing this bullet list in the actual show notes.
Ryan's tired of talking about himself in the third person.

33:58 - Ryan's still fucking rambling.
39:04 - Abby on forgiving herself
47:51 - It's so freakin' hard to say good things about yourself!
GRATITUDE

Ryan is grateful for all the previous versions of himself who did current-him the favor of putting in the time to cultivate a solid toolbox for handling life's challenges.
Abby is grateful that she has the tools to get back to Love and Light when she loses her way.

Other Stuff:

Apparently the frequency of love is 528 hz
“We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it and stop there lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove lid again and that is well but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore.” - Mark Twain
"The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now." - Old Proverb

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Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11

Previous Episode

Abby Makes Ryan Cry! Also, More Relationship Stuff - Part 2

2:30 - Abby believes some people are reincarnated as animals and come back to us as pets.
4:50 - Speaking your truth. Abby doesn't do it enough; Ryan does it too much.
30:11 - "You are precisely as small as what you allow to annoy you."
40:39 - What if your #1 priority in relationship was to be a safe place for the other person?
GRATITUDE

Abby is grateful for having had space lately to tend to her own soul.
Ryan is grateful for his therapist.

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Next Episode

Slowing Down, Connecting with our Bodies, Being Present, Turtle Steps.

1:14 - How can anyone even begin being able to live in their True North??
14:57 - Turtle steps
22:15 - Burn it all down
28:00 - Presence

I am here.
I am here.
I am here.

37:48 - Disconnection from our bodies = disconnection from our emotions & souls.
49:12 - Side note: it's easier to love your body when you quit spending so much time hating it.
GRATITUDES:

Abby is grateful for the front desk person at her chiropractor's office who met her where she was, and made her feel not alone.
Ryan is grateful for the fact that he had the capacity to show up for this recording.

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