How to Overcome Shame

Triggered AF

12/19/23 • 103 min

Naming Our Demons: How to Overcome Shame

The more stories you collect the more clogged your meaning-making machine can be. Many times, this prevents us from moving through our emotions as quickly. Sitting down with Shaun Derik, affectionately known as, Internet Jesus, we took a deep dive into the things we hide, the shade we throw, and the actions that aren’t as becoming. One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly. Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long. Tap into the episode to help develop your tools to get there.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SA07wbeF05I

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Quote of the Week

“Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it — it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy.” - Brené Brown

Dating Well AF Tip

“Learning how to identify and manage how you respond to your triggers helps you to breathe through your triggers so you can think.”

STEP #1: Write down 10 of your triggers. Then on a scale of 1(mild reaction)-10(Blowing shit up), rate each one.
STEP #2: For all 6+ ratings, write out your usual or default reaction.
STEP #3: For all 6+ ratings, create new alternative reactions or defaults.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

How you’re feeling is not always an indication of how you’re doing.
Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long.
One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly.
Working through shame can be achieved by asking yourself “why?” Getting down to the why behind your decisions and choices helps you overcome your shame around them.
Different people have different access to learning tools so you cannot hold judgment for them based on your growth and resources.

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