Back to Basics: Understanding All Things Attachment with Ann & Sue (209)
07/18/23 • -1 min
Wanting to learn more about attachment? This is the episode for you!
This is a follow-up to our previous episode on recognizing secure states of mind. If you’re a regular listener, you know we talk a lot about attachment – but what is it exactly? This episode is a refresher course where we break down what it is, what it isn’t, attachment spectrums, embodied stories, and much more. Whether you’re more advanced in your knowledge of the topic or starting fresh – this is a great place to connect and better understand how attachment plays a role in our lives.
“We are social beings, but we have to be social beings. This isn’t a choice, it isn’t an option. And our incredibly intuitive pre-programmed body knows that from in utero on – it’s in our wiring.” – Dr. Ann Kelley
Time Stamps for Attachment Basics1:17 – What is attachment?
4:29 – Why you should care about attachment
6:07 – Early attachment and its effect on our development
7:46 – Attachment is not the same thing as love
10:16 – Why we want to avoid attachment “categories”
15:29 – Example of embodied stories
20:48 – Understanding the protection system and connection system
26:22 – Utilizing curiosity to build secure attachment
28:01 – What is a coherent narrative?
39:10 – Recognizing patterns in your nervous system behaviors
Resources for Attachment BasicsÂThe Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation in the United States – Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy Calls for Action to Address Public Health Crisis
John Bowlby’s Attachment theory – A summary of Bowlby’s theory
Mary Ainsworth Strange Situation – A summary of Ainsworth’s theory & experiment
If you enjoyed this one you’ll love these:Â
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-attachment/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu151-secure-parenting-dan-siegel-tina-payne-bryson-replay/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-relating-not-the-same-as-secure-attachment-with-ann-sue-190/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu-149-modern-attachment-regulation-spectrum-an-integrated-model-of-change/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu126-modern-attachment/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/attachment-through-the-lifespan-alan-sroufe/
Click here to view today’s episode transcripts!!
Please consider giving to Mental Health Liberation
We support mental health access  to those traditionally left out of mainstream healthcare and use a portion of the income we receive from corporate sponsors to do just that! We can only do that with the help of our Patrons â  joining as a TU Neuronerd Podsquad premium subscriber, you support this mission and get a  dedicated ad-free feed plus occasional very cool and unique study opportunities, reading groups, and unique surprises! We invite you to join our community. Click here to join!Â
Support the show by supporting our partners and the sponsors of today’s episode!ÂAG1 is Ann and Sue’s go-to once-a-day drink that delivers all the basics of important vitamins, minerals, and probiotics. Go to www.athleticgreens.com/therapistuncensored or CLICK HERE.
For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/TU
Go to MUDWTR.com/TU to support the show and use code TU for 15% off
Go to Zocdoc.com/TU and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.
Wanting to learn more about attachment? This is the episode for you!
This is a follow-up to our previous episode on recognizing secure states of mind. If you’re a regular listener, you know we talk a lot about attachment – but what is it exactly? This episode is a refresher course where we break down what it is, what it isn’t, attachment spectrums, embodied stories, and much more. Whether you’re more advanced in your knowledge of the topic or starting fresh – this is a great place to connect and better understand how attachment plays a role in our lives.
“We are social beings, but we have to be social beings. This isn’t a choice, it isn’t an option. And our incredibly intuitive pre-programmed body knows that from in utero on – it’s in our wiring.” – Dr. Ann Kelley
Time Stamps for Attachment Basics1:17 – What is attachment?
4:29 – Why you should care about attachment
6:07 – Early attachment and its effect on our development
7:46 – Attachment is not the same thing as love
10:16 – Why we want to avoid attachment “categories”
15:29 – Example of embodied stories
20:48 – Understanding the protection system and connection system
26:22 – Utilizing curiosity to build secure attachment
28:01 – What is a coherent narrative?
39:10 – Recognizing patterns in your nervous system behaviors
Resources for Attachment BasicsÂThe Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation in the United States – Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy Calls for Action to Address Public Health Crisis
John Bowlby’s Attachment theory – A summary of Bowlby’s theory
Mary Ainsworth Strange Situation – A summary of Ainsworth’s theory & experiment
If you enjoyed this one you’ll love these:Â
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-attachment/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu151-secure-parenting-dan-siegel-tina-payne-bryson-replay/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-relating-not-the-same-as-secure-attachment-with-ann-sue-190/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu-149-modern-attachment-regulation-spectrum-an-integrated-model-of-change/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu126-modern-attachment/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/attachment-through-the-lifespan-alan-sroufe/
Click here to view today’s episode transcripts!!
Please consider giving to Mental Health Liberation
We support mental health access  to those traditionally left out of mainstream healthcare and use a portion of the income we receive from corporate sponsors to do just that! We can only do that with the help of our Patrons â  joining as a TU Neuronerd Podsquad premium subscriber, you support this mission and get a  dedicated ad-free feed plus occasional very cool and unique study opportunities, reading groups, and unique surprises! We invite you to join our community. Click here to join!Â
Support the show by supporting our partners and the sponsors of today’s episode!ÂAG1 is Ann and Sue’s go-to once-a-day drink that delivers all the basics of important vitamins, minerals, and probiotics. Go to www.athleticgreens.com/therapistuncensored or CLICK HERE.
For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/TU
Go to MUDWTR.com/TU to support the show and use code TU for 15% off
Go to Zocdoc.com/TU and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.
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Secure Attachment & Recognizing Secure States of Mind with Ann & Sue (208)
We’ve covered the different protection and connection strategies - preoccupied (red on the spectrum), dismissing (blue on the spectrum), and unresolved (tie-dye), but today’s episode is all about what secure attachment actually looks like in daily life. You’ve experienced the continuum from red, blue, or even tie-dye, but how do you know when you’re in your green? A securely attached system doesn’t mean you’re never upset - it’s about having the ability to stay engaged while you have big feelings. In this episode, Ann and Sue discuss what this can look like conversationally, conditions that promote a secure base in parenting, and how to check in with yourself and deepen your connection with others.
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Back to Basics: Understanding All Things Attachment with Ann & Sue (209)
A refresher course on all things attachment from spectrums, connective and protective systems, embodied stories, and much more.
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