The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast

Your Self-Talk About Your Spouse Could Be Ruining Your Relationship: 'He Doesn't See Me/He'll Never Change' (Part 1) :: [Ep. 123]

Do you mentally argue with your spouse but never say what you’re thinking out loud? Do you keep your opinion on his shortcomings to yourself but rehearse them often in your thoughts? In an argument, do you silently call him names?
Doesn’t he see all I am doing, he should get up and help!

Ugh, he just doesn’t get me!

Doesn’t he see I’m upset?
He doesn’t care, why bother?

He won’t lead, so I.....

He’ll never change. Just get used to it.

Thoughts like these are common for us, but until recently, I hadn't considered that they were starting to harden my heart toward David.
Join me, Tracy, in Part 1 of a new series about the effects of self talk on your marriage.
I'll unpack where thoughts like these come from, why we have them, what to do when we have them and how to dig out these unhealthy roots. When we do this, we will begin the process of having healthy hearts and minds toward our husbands. Don’t miss it!
We've created a FREE resource for you to print out or keep on your phone for when you need to THINK LIFE and replace harmful thoughts with truth from God's Word. If you would like this, just email me at [email protected] and put SELF TALK in the subject line.
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How Thanksgiving can TRANSFORM Your Marriage :: [Ep. 192]
As a kid I remember one Thanksgiving tradition, when my mom or my grandma would say, “Let’s go around the table and everyone says one thing you’re grateful for.” It’s a nice gesture and an important action- showing thankfulness.
But what does that MEAN- showing thankfulness?
Should it be a one-time thing? An occasional “Thank you, Lord!” when we feel grateful that something happened the way we wanted it to?
Should it be something we practice? Like “no-complain” November when you list something you’re grateful for every day of the month? Or should we take it one step further and write down 3 specific things we’re thankful for at the end of every day... for an entire year?
Is thankfulness something we show whenever we receive something? Like writing thank you cards, or inviting people over as a way to say, “thank you”?
Or is it something more?
Fresh off the heels of our Thanksgiving celebration, in this episode, we are going to spend some time remembering WHY we should continue to be thankful. When our world, at times, seems to be falling apart, WHY should we give thanks and praise? We’ll discuss how gratefulness isn’t to be limited to an occasional “Thanks, God.” Rather, it should be a way of worshipful living. But HOW does that happen? What does it look like to LIVE in genuine gratitude to the Lord? And we’ll also look at how worshipful living can and will transform our lives - and our marriages - from the inside out. Come join us!
For more helpful encouragement and to learn more, read our corresponding Blog post!
https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/thanksgiving-it-ain-t-just-a-holiday

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Smashing Marriage Myths: Our Kids Needs Have to Come First (Part 4) :: [Ep. 131]
Is it possible that there are basic myths and lies that are ruining your life - holding back your marriage or justifying an unhappy or unfulfilled union? The little things we believe can go a long way toward derailing our success!

Why do capable Christians fail to break through the barriers of the most common marriage myths to take their marriage to the next level? If we’re not careful, our lives become dictated by ideas which sound convincing at some level but are really myths!
In Part 1, we confronted several common myths: 'marriage will make me happy', 'marriage takes the fun out of the relationship', and 'marriage is becoming an outdated institution'. In Part 2, we attacked the 'I married the wrong person!' myth, as well as, 'Some marriages are beyond repair'. If you missed these episodes, go take a listen! In Part 3, we addressed more common myths believed that are tearing marriages apart like: Marriage should be 50/50 and if I marry the right person, I should always feel in love with them.
This week, we conclude this series by shedding light on the myth: My kids needs have to come first. We will provide counsel and truth from God's Word to help us overcome this subtle myth. Don't miss it!

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Smashing Marriage Myths: Marriage Should Be 50/50 (Part 3) :: [Ep. 130]
The past several weeks, we have been tackling common Marriage Myths - the untrue things we’ve been influenced by. We have been exposing the lies that, for many, are guiding them AWAY from the healing their marriage could have and into isolation and division.
In Part 1, we confronted several common myths: 'marriage will make me happy', 'marriage takes the fun out of the relationship', and 'marriage is becoming an outdated institution'. In Part 2, we attacked the 'I married the wrong person!' myth, as well as, 'Some marriages are beyond repair'. If you missed these episodes, go take a listen!
And this week, in Part 3, we are addressing more common myths believed that are tearing marriages apart:

• Marriage should be 50/50, right?!
• If I marry the right person, I should always feel in love with them, right?
• Our kids need us so they should come first.

Tune in to learn more. And if you have been unknowingly believing them in your own marriage, learn how to overcome!
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Lust & Discontentment :: [Ep. 75]

Did you know that often times, at the root of lust is discontentment?
When our hearts have lost their joy and peace and are dwelling in discontentment, sins like lust can quickly become our escape. We turn to so many ungodly things for rescue - a moment of pleasure to be a kind of medicine for the situation.
Tune into this week's episode, Lust & Discontentment. David & Tracy will help you better understand the dynamics of lust and how it flourishes, and they will arm you with practical steps in fighting lust and discontentment.
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