The Enneagram and the Roles We Play

In Enneagram conversations we talk a lot about the ego but what if you have an alter-ego? I have one! The definition of alter ego says, ”a person's secondary or alternative personality.” Now let me be clear, I didn’t expose my hidden identity on a regular day. But today, I'd like you to meet her. YES... she's on the podcast!

So, who is she? Well, I called her Miss Peach. My kids called her their worst nightmare! My husband wasn't sure who he had actually married when he first met her. She usually wore a black lace dress, black cowboy boots, a black feather boa, black sunglasses that were covered on the edges with the gaudiest rhinestones you ever saw. Oh... and white tennis shoes that were also bedazzled like the sunglasses. Sometimes I had a red wig to top off the fabulousness but even without it, I could transform into this alternate personality with just a few sparkly accoutrements... as long as I was wearing the sunglasses.

There is a big difference in who we feel the need to portray and who we are healthiest level - where we transcend the EGO identity and discover the freedom of our true selves. EGO identification can be described as “taking on a role so completely that we lose contact with who we are inside.” So let’s talk about the difference between taking on the identity of a ROLE versus being who you truly are at your core. To say it simply, it's DOING vs BEING.