The Rising Lava Parenting Podcast

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In this episode, we talk about how parenting teens is very similar to the strategies I talk about with young kids. Validation, normalizing... and being a safe place for big emotions is KEY in all stages and ages of children. ______________ website: risingmotherhood.co/ Join RISE - a 3-week course designed to help you reflect on the parent you are now and the parent you want to be, reparent old teachings that don’t align with your values, and reframe your child’s big behaviors from a supportive lens. risingmotherhood.co/rise-challenge Find & save the show note posts on my Instagram: instagram.com/rising.motherhood ______________ Kristen Duke is a mentor for parents of teenagers, helping them to control their emotions and find unique ways to connect with their teenagers.

I went to a marriage retreat last month with my husband, and was blown away by the material. I don't say this lightly when I say, life-changing. The crazy thing is, a lot of it is so similar to what I teach with parenting (especially in my newer RISE series) but I needed this to really click it all together. and UP LEVEL. I don't have enough time, space or expertise to share all the things I learned in three full days for Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. But I do, want to share a few ideas. -We cannot be in a mature marriage if we are depending on someone else to meet our needs. Love languages are great and all, but throw them out the window if you are expecting someone else to meet yours to find true love. -We have to OWN OUR PART. Own our part with conflict/habits and our defense mechanisms. Are you a yeller or do you withdraw? Are you someone who is the "fixer" or do you withdraw? --For example, If my husband constantly yelled at me, of course I'd withdraw (This is not our true scenerio fyi lol). If my husband, owned is part it would look like, “hey I know I'm usually pretty intense when I bring this up and that probably makes you want to withdraw, I'm gonna try to address this differently” --or if me as the withdraw person owned her part, “hey I know I usually withdraw, but I am really wanting to connect in a more calm, peaceful way, can we try to talk about this..." So why am I telling you this? Because I see so many parallels between this information and emotionally healthy parenting. It's a lifestyle and family culture. We cannot expect our child to act a certain way to feel valuable about ourselves as parents. They are individual beings. I can only manage what's mine. We have to own our part. If we see our kids constantly reacting and fighting. Are we constantly reacting to them reacting???? Are we feeding a pattern?