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The Problem With Perfect

The Problem With Perfect

Robin May and Denise Bickel

If perfection is an illusion, why are so many of us chasing it? We live in a world that is constantly telling us we need to be it all and have it all to be worthy. It leads us to hide our imperfections and overcompensate our strengths - and leaves us exhausted. Join hosts Robin May and Denise Bickel for meaningful, cross-generational conversations that will leave you uplifted and encouraged about a future freed from the problem with perfect.
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The Problem With Perfect - How To Be More Patient In An Impatient World
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07/09/24 • 50 min

We live in troubled times. We are surrounded by demands, expectations, and frustrations. So often, the squeaky wheel gets the attention, not the gracious individual holding the door for us. Some might say we’ve become a culture of impatience, and many might agree.
Impatience is easy to identify. We become irritable; we let anger and resentment surface; we may even articulate a few expletives just to further demonstrate our dissatisfaction. We’ve all seen impatience in action.
Patience, on the other hand, may appear passive and polite. Patience is the ability to remain calm and composed in the face of adversity. But how do we become more patient and be the kind of person we want to be? Join us as we discuss our own struggles with impatience, and review an expert's suggestions for fostering it.
At the end of the day, how do you want to be remembered? Ask yourself this question and give the episode a listen.
Show Notes:
Ten Tips for Cultivating Patience During Uncertain Times
https://www.aafp.org/pubs/fpm/issues/2020/0700/p43.html
The Khan Academy:
https://www.khanacademy.org/
Road Rage Statistics By The Zebra, updated September 15, 2023

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We hear them on the daily: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Turn that frown upside down. Just stay positive. Those adages may be helpful for some of life’s challenges, but what happens when a devastating life event brings pain and suffering? How do we continue to find hope and strength in the face of unimaginable hardship?

This month’s series includes Robin’s insight into one of life’s most difficult experiences. Insight into the criminal justice system, restitution, and forgiveness. Insight into the reactions of family, friends, and communities when someone is convicted of a crime that changes lives forever.

One of Robin’s favorite scripture verses is Romans 8:28: And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. The verse is not about the good of suffering’s end; rather, it affirms that things are working together for good in the midst of suffering and that God is working even in suffering for our good. Please join us as we are reminded of God’s grace in the midst of suffering.

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The Problem With Perfect - The Anxious Generation: Unpacking Mental Health in a Digital Age
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09/24/24 • 60 min

Today we’re tackling a topic that’s more urgent than ever: the rising tide of anxiety and depression among Gen Z. In a world where social media, smartphones, and video games dominate their lives, young people are grappling with an alarming increase in mental health issues, leading to profound questions about what it means to live a fulfilling life.

In this episode, we dive deep into Jonathan Haidt’s compelling book, The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. As we discuss the trade of what Haidt calls the play-based childhood for a phone-based childhood, we’ll uncover how the quest for the "perfect" life has become a double-edged sword—promising connection while often delivering isolation and fear.

Join us as we explore the profound impacts of digital culture, hear stories of resilience, and discuss practical ways we can support Gen Z in navigating these challenges. Whether you’re a parent, educator, or simply someone who cares about the future, this conversation is essential. Let’s unravel the complexities of today’s youth together and discover how we can help them reclaim their lives.
Learn more about the book here:
https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

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The Problem With Perfect - Does God Get the Best of You or What’s Left of You?
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10/22/24 • 47 min

We live in a hurried world. The modern conveniences that are touted to "save time’" are keeping us busier than ever. We over-schedule, over-commit, and end each day exhausted and already focused on the demands of tomorrow.

Quite often, it is our relationships with God and our family that suffer the absence of our time and attention. Do you spend time each day praying, reading the Bible, journaling? Is family time devoted to spending time in communion with each other? Are we setting examples we hope our children will follow?

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry offers tangible suggestions for living an unhurried life. The book encourages us to spend more time focusing on love, joy, and peace, and less time in a frantic state of constant motion. If you are seeking a peace-filled life, listen up.
Show Notes:
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World

by John Mark Comer

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The Problem With Perfect - How To Deal With Anxiety Around The Upcoming Election
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10/29/24 • 29 min

The Bible tells us, “Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings...” James 4:8. If there was ever a time when prayer and faith were needed, it’s now.

For the 73% of Americans who are experiencing election anxiety and stress, prayer can offer a sense of control and empowerment. Most of all, prayer can bring peace to our lives and the world.

We’ve heard that many churches are planning to open their doors on Nov. 5 to encourage prayer for our country. No music or ministering, just a place for people to pray and lay their worries down. If your place of worship hasn’t organized a similar opportunity, it might be worth suggesting.

We will be praying for you and our country in the days ahead. Please feel free to join us.

Show Notes:

Healthy ways to deal with election anxiety and political stress

https://www.treatmyocd.com

Volunteers of America

https://www.voa.org

To pray the prayer Robin highlights in the show, go to:

https://info.thecrossingchurch.com/blog/a-guide-to-praying-for-the-presidential-election

The meditation Denise guides us in at the end of the episode:

“If you’re feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path toward happiness; don’t waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes, because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart...where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again.” Alo Yoga

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The Problem With Perfect - Where Did Time Go: How To Cherish Holidays Past and Present
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11/19/24 • 46 min

The holidays are often the perfect time to reflect and reminisce. When was the last time you thought about your childhood and the traditions your family celebrated? What about the memories you’ve made with your children and grandchildren? Although holidays can be stressful, they can also be the perfect time to draw near to each other with love and appreciation.

As we travel through the passages of time, it’s not unusual to reflect on memories of when the holidays were met with joy and anticipation. What made them so? Do you continue to practice those traditions? What new traditions would you like to share with your family?

Jesus said, “And a little child will lead them.” This year, may we cherish the time we spend with family and friends with the joy and awe of a child. Ask those gathered around the Thanksgiving table to express their gratitude. Go to Christmas Eve service. Read the Nativity Story. Look for the North Star. Love one another.

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It’s easy to get wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays and to lose touch with the reason for the season. Although the gift-giving possibilities are endless, the most cherished gift is often time spent with loved ones and friends. Memories last a lifetime; batteries wear out and Barbies go bald.

In this episode, with Christmas approaching, we discuss alternatives that don't break the bank yet give the gift of togetherness. Reminisce, look at photo albums, invite your family to bake cookies or decorate the tree. Plan a trip. Go caroling. Volunteer at a food bank. Shop for a needy family. The time spent together will be memories you share for a lifetime.

And when the planning and preparation is complete, remember to celebrate the birth of Jesus. He is the greatest gift of all.

Show notes:

So How Much Do Americans Spend on Christmas? www.safe1.org.

The internet is divided: Parents defend Christmas minimalism www.today.com.

Cool Christmas Gifts for Kids www.amazon.com.

Ten Best Gifts for Teenagers www.realsimple.com.

Over 100 holiday gift ideas for your college student www.collegeparentcentral.com.

40 Thoughtful Gifts for Couples, No Matter Where They Are in Their Relationship www.goodhousekeeping.com.

Gift for Seniors: 68 Great Ideas www.greatseniorliving.com.

31 Gifts You Should Never, Ever Give www.goodhousekeeping.com.
Long Row Lavender:
http://longrowlavendar.com/

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The Problem With Perfect - Trusting God's Purpose In Our Work With Tracy Smith
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01/14/25 • 44 min

Many of us hoped the new year would bring a renewed passion and enthusiasm for our work. Maybe it did, and maybe it didn’t. Maybe some of us are still looking for inspiration to keep trusting that we’re on the right path. Tracy Smith’s story might be just what we need.

When God called Tracy Smith, the owner of Long Row Lavender, to step out in faith, she answered. in doing so, Tracy and her family went from growing lavender and selling it on five days at a local farmer’s market to a multi-faceted, complex business that has grown and prospered over the past 17 years.

With love and commitment to family, faith, and community, Tracy shares her “business model” of following her heart and dismissing doubts and fears, “while treating others as she would want to be treated.” What started as a way to encourage her family to spend time together outdoors, the company has grown to include a 15-acre lavender farm, a gift shop offering hand-made bath and body products, seasonal clothing, home decorations, and a café featuring delicious sandwiches and desserts.

Tracy’s story is one of inspiration, and the thousands of annual visitors to her farm obviously agree. We hope you will too.

Special Guest: Tracy Smith, owner of Long Row Lavender in Wright City, MO. Check out their website at https://longrowlavender.com/
Show Notes:

Every Good Endeavor: Connecting Your Work to God's Work by Tim Keller

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Where would we be without our girlfriends? These extraordinary women bring light and love into our lives. They support us unconditionally and stand by us during difficult times. Indeed, they are among life’s greatest gifts.
Female friendships are invaluable blessings. However, did you know that our girlfriends also provide psychological and emotional benefits? Join us for this conversation as we unpack how our girlfriend's presence in our lives enhances our health and longevity. Additionally, we find that there are both social and professional advantages to these friendships. It is no exaggeration to say that our girlfriends are a vital lifeline for maximizing our well-being in every aspect of life.
Show Notes:
Resources:
https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-health-benefits-of-strong-relationships
https://facts.net/society-and-social-sciences/40-facts-about-the-importance-of-female-friendships
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201808/the-importance-female-friendships-among-women

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The Problem With Perfect - Are You Missing Out On This Easy Way To Enjoy Life
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07/02/24 • 39 min

Imagine an inexpensive pastime that improves your mental and physical health and cognitive function.
Welcome to the world of birdwatching.
If you are a birdwatcher, you are in good company. Birdwatching is quickly
becoming a national pastime. According to the 2022 National Survey of Fishing,
Hunting and Wildlife, 57% of the US population 16 and older reported wildlife
watching in 2022. Birdwatching ranks up there with 50% of US adults who follow
baseball, and 41% of US adults who say football is their favorite sport to watch.
What is it about watching birds that is so attractive to so many? Some might say it
is an inexpensive hobby for all ages and abilities. Others may taut the
benefits of being in nature. Whatever your focus or interest, birdwatching is an inexpensive, unencumbered way to while away a lovely day.
Bird Watching 101: A Guide for Beginners
https://ny.audubon.org/news/bird-watching-101-guide-beginners.
How Birdwatching Can Improve Your Life:
https://www.wbfi.org/2023/01/04/how-birdwatching-can-improve-your-life.

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How many episodes does The Problem With Perfect have?

The Problem With Perfect currently has 311 episodes available.

What topics does The Problem With Perfect cover?

The podcast is about Body Image, Health & Fitness, Christianity, Success, Career, Mental Health, Joy, Religion & Spirituality, Family, Podcasts and Freedom.

What is the most popular episode on The Problem With Perfect?

The episode title 'Why is "Gray Divorce" On The Rise And Is Your Marriage At Risk?' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on The Problem With Perfect?

The average episode length on The Problem With Perfect is 40 minutes.

How often are episodes of The Problem With Perfect released?

Episodes of The Problem With Perfect are typically released every 7 days.

When was the first episode of The Problem With Perfect?

The first episode of The Problem With Perfect was released on Sep 30, 2019.

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