The Problem With Perfect

Why is it that we are so haunted by our past? We spend hours awake at night, replaying situations in our life that we wish we could take back, change or forget altogether.
These traumatic experiences leave us feeling broken, alone, and full of shame.
But what if you could learn proven ways to make peace with the hard parts of your past?
In this episode, you will learn:

• Why it's so difficult to make peace with your past
• How your brain is wired to remember traumatic experiences
• The difference between traumatic vs. painful experiences
• Solutions to "digest" the hard situations you've gone through, not "get over" them.
• How to know if therapy is a good solution for you.
• Alternatives to therapy (at zero cost!)
• Generational traumas, should we blame our traumas on our parents?
• How perfectionism shows up in trauma situations
• How to talk to yourself in order to cope with traumatic, or painful circumstances...

and so. much. more! Trust us, you'll want to take notes for this one! The bottom line, there is hope for you. It is possible to live a life freed from the hauntings of your past.
All about Our Guest:
Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a former New Yorker who now calls Kansas City home. She is a speaker, teacher, and trauma therapist who specializes in the physiology of mental health. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her master’s from the University of Kansas. She is certified in Somatic Experiencing, which is a post-graduate specialization that addresses the central nervous system’s impact on mood and wellness. Her experience includes work as a primary therapist at an Arizona-based drug and alcohol treatment center, an inpatient therapist for a children’s psychiatric hospital, and she currently has a private practice in Overland Park. She’s also an award-winning adjunct professor at the University of Kansas and will be launching her first book The Science of Stuck in Spring 2022.
Connect with Britt at https://www.thegreenhousekc.com/
Britt's Instagram: @brittfrank

Best-selling author and leadership influencer John C. Maxwell once wrote, "Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you." If Maxwell is right, then our career decisions have massive implications for our future.
But how do we know when it's time to pursue a new job opportunity? How do we position ourselves for advancement? Negotiate a salary? Leverage our worth? How do we land our dream job or does one even exist?
In this episode, Career Consultant Maria Grasso joins us and shares her expertise, answering all these questions and more. The career mentor you've always wished you could have, Maria is yours for this empowering hour chocked full of advice that can help shape your future.
Special Guest: Maria Grasso
Maria is a Senior Career Transition Consultant with more than 25 years of leadership and organizational development experience to her role at Keystone Partners. She advises executives, managers, and individual contributors in career transition, helping clients successfully transition into new career opportunities.
Maria’s background includes senior management positions with Fidelity Investments, Engility (formerly Dynamics Research Corporation), Capgemini (formerly Capgemini Ernst & Young/Gemini Consulting) and consulting engagements in the financial services, technology, healthcare, professional services, hospitality, and biopharmaceutical sectors.
She is a certified Career Partners International Senior Career Transition Consultant and holds an MEd in Leadership and Organizational Development from the University of Massachusetts Amherst.
SHOW NOTES:
4:00 Maria is a life-long New England Patriots fan but her take on the recent Super Bowl might surprise you.
11:15 Ninety percent of job offers start with this one activity. Are you doing it?
14:00 Many of us find ourselves feeling like we're in dead end jobs that will be the death of our careers. If this is you, here's how you can control the situation.
19:00 Feeling like we are "not enough" wears many disguises in the workplace and some of these will surprise you.
20:45 This is THE NUMBER ONE predictor of success in the workforce. Are you poised for success?
23:00 "Make a choice and own it." Listen here to understand what Maria means by this and how this can help you.
27:00 Are women the only ones who feel like they aren't enough in their careers?
31:20 Do you have someone in your life who is struggling with career transitions? Want to help him/her? This is where to start. It sounds easy but it is anything but.
37:30 What is giving you cause to pause? Are you more committed to allowing space for that voice or what you thought your life and career should look like?
47:00 "Our net value is directly tied to our net worth." Listen here as Maria unpacks how our self-esteem is connected to our paychecks.
51:30 What is your personal brand and what are you worth on the open market?
59:30 What is the hidden job market and do you know how to tap into it for your benefit?
63:00 Most of us are missing the boat on this key thing when we network.
69:30 "HELP. My employer keeps asking me to do more and more. What do I do now?"
Resources:
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury
Power vs. Force, The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David R. Hawkins, MD
Knowing Your Value: Women, Money, and Getting What You're Worth by Mika Brzezinski

Fred Parry enjoys being a man-about-town. As such, a lot of people think they know him. I often beg to differ.
Fred was one of my first bosses. In a city filled with journalists, he gave me my “big break” and believed in me when I wasn’t sure I believed in myself. His faith in me changed my life and faith in God changed his.
Join us for this episode as I pull back the curtain and get personal about Fred’s faith, battling his demons and how everyone can benefit from men having deeper, more accountable relationships.
And to get $25 off a ticket to the COMO Men’s Conference, go to www. COMOchristian.com and use ROBINMAY as discount code.
Special Guest: Fred Parry

Fred Parry is a Christian writer dedicated to helping men understand how a personal relationship with Christ can transform their lives while empowering them to develop more meaningful and fulfilling relationships with God, their families and other men. Parry is a former County Commissioner in Missouri and Publisher Emeritus for a group of magazines based in Columbia, Mo.

Parry is a native of Liberty, Mo., and a 1986 graduate of the University of Missouri. He began his career working for newspapers in Chicago, Washington, D.C., and Pittsburgh, Penn. He is a former member of the advertising faculty at the Missouri School of Journalism. He worked as an advertising executive for the Gannett newspaper chain before he and his wife started their own publishing company in 1994.

Fred has now spent more than 30 years in the publishing industry. He is the founding publisher of more than 15 magazines. In addition to his publishing career, Fred spent nearly 8 years as a daily radio talk show host and three years doing weekly commentaries for a local CBS Television affiliate.

Parry has written and published five Christian men’s devotionals, Walking With James: Becoming The Man God Intends You To Be, Walking With Ephesians and Walking With Matthew (Illumify Global Media) Walking with Romans and Walking With Thessalonians (Carriage House Publishers).

Parry is the founder of the annual CoMo Christian Men’s Conference which has attracted the nation’s leading pastors (Tim Tebow, Matt Chandler, Craig Groeschel, Lee Strobel, Todd Wagner, Robert Lewis, etc) to Columbia, Mo. over the last nine years. He also leads a weekly Bible study for 30 businessmen on Friday mornings.

Fred has been married to his wife, Melody for 30 years. Together, they have two grown sons, Max and Nick.

Dr, Merry Lin says that the cultural clarion call to be your authentic self isn’t inherently wrong. The methodology is. While the popular world will tell you to
“live your truth” and “trust your gut,” she argues that neither strategy brings you into
contact with your essential, God-given identity.
In this episode, Dr. Lin, author of Rebecoming: Coming Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self (Baker Books, July 2024) discusses the hard-won, honest
truths of how we can live authentically. Blending her personal growth journey, psychological training, and clinical experience, she explains why we must first unbecome our inauthentic self to rebecome our essential self.
Dr. Lin's wisdom offers hope for a better way of living, helping to become the person God intended.
Special Guest:
Dr. Merry C. Lin, PhD has been practicing clinical psychology for more than 30 years. She is the executive director of Dr. Lin & Associates, a team providing psychotherapy, coaching, and consulting services in Toronto, Canada. A wise counselor and respected speaker, she can be heard on her popular podcast, The Fully Lived Life, as well as on several TV and media shows where she is a regular guest. In addition to providing support to leaders, she is a social justice advocate working globally to equip leaders who serve survivors of human trafficking, abuse, and trauma.
To learn more about Dr. Merry's work, go to:
https://www.drmerry.com/

To order Rebecoming with the discount we discuss in the episodes, go to:
https://bakerbookhouse.com/products/553598,

Wondering what PMDD is after reading the title? You're likely in good company. Although Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) affects between 3 and 4 million women in the US, it is still a relatively unknown disorder that is often misdiagnosed.
To help us understand what PMDD is and how it impacts women and their families, Marybeth Bohn joins Robin for this important episode. Marybeth's daughter, Christina, battled PMDD for more than a decade before Marybeth helped lead doctors to her diagnosis. This episode gives listeners a front-row seat to a young woman's struggle and a mother's worst nightmare.
Special Guest:
Marybeth Bohn has been advocating for PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) since she lost her daughter, Christina Elizabeth Bohn, to suicide in 2021 due to the disorder. The thought of others suffering as her daughter did for 10 to 15 years before receiving a correct diagnosis motivates Marybeth to keep speaking out. She speaks publicly about PMDD to increase awareness and to reduce the time in getting an accurate diagnosis. She has spoken at the University of Missouri, Postpartum Support International Climb Out of the Darkness Walk, Missouri House of Representatives Committee on Healthcare Reform, Women’s Mental Health Conference at Yale, NIH Prevention in Focus Webinar, and many other venues. In 2023, she worked with the Missouri State Legislature to pass a bill for having an annual PMDD Awareness Day on October 2nd, which is Christina’s birthday. Missouri is the first state in the U.S. to officially have a PMDD Awareness Day.

Marybeth serves as vice president of the Board of Directors for the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders (IAPMD) and has actively served as a PMDD Champion. After Christina's death, Marybeth retired from the University of Missouri to focus on increasing awareness of PMDD.
To learn more about PMDD, go to the presentation Marybeth mentions in the show:
https://www.prevention.nih.gov/education-training/prevention-focus-webinars/it-more-pms-learn-about-pmdd